Too soon? What do yall think?

Ethan P

You are both on the right track if you really feel like you love each other. What would you feel like if you looked back and did not get married on a good opportunity. On the other hand if you both are doubting it then do not go for it. Doubt brings guilt and is not a good relationship.

Bennett W

i would move in for him for at least a year, and see how you handle being around him 24/7 then i would plan on getting engaged after that, if you think you need time to e sure then i would just postpone a wedding for a few more months

I <3 the ninja/pirate allianc

i think you should be together for a few more months, then accept it, but still wait a year or longer to get married. things get weird when you stop being just friends and are more. waiting is the best option.

liftinguy

why the rush anyways

GUY 2009

It sounds like its way too soon

Heatherrrrrrrr

To me, too soon. Get to know each other for a year and then get engaged. Being engaged can be manic. Planning dates, picking colors etc. Once the fun wears off you realize you are stuck with a toad. Know yourself well. Know him well. The fact that you are questioning it is a red flag that you think it is too soon.

basmusiq

It is sort of fast. You have to ask yourself what the rush is. Even if you're not engaged or married, you're still together, isn't that the important part.

And I really hate to say this and I don't want to come off as rude or mean but you both claim to not be cheating on your ex's but talking to another person for 7 months about wanting to be with each other is classified as emotional cheating which is still very hurtful as physical cheating.

Kaindir

no matter what someone tells you , or what you believe , a month ... is a very short period of time , you didn't even have time to get into a fight or argument yet ...

girl you're crazy , listen to your friends.

â™¥GaShForiNgâ™¥

Wow lucky girl congrats :) . It shouldn't be soon if both of you dreams about future together . Just go for it if you really want to be with him .

And as you said if he's in rush or not ? I think he's afraid of loosing his love again . If happens when they got hurt in the past .

mimbecky

too soon.

Work/school/mom of two

well, I would say yes and see how the engagement goes. If after a year you are still really happy, then why not!

Fiona Apple

Respect what you feel now but also respect that you are not a robot and feelings change all of the time. You may love him dearly now and as much as its cliche to say: people change and situations change. The person you are now is not the person you will be 6 months from now. We are constantly growing and learning no matter what age we are. Sometimes we are so blinded by love that we dont want to think with our brains but rather with our hearts. Lead your life with your heart and your brain. Together they will make the best decision.

Big J

If it feels right, do it!

cranford803

You're Stupid. He's Desperate. Thats my opinion...

Chrissy

i think that you should date A LITTLE more, JUST IN CASE, and then stick with your 1 year engagmet. my parents dated for three years, then were engaged for 2. they are happily married.

kelsielynn231

way way to soon me and my man have been dating for about a year and 8 months and i still think that is to soon i think if u must just have a long engagement and move in together to really see if he is the one

Katie R

well i definetly think its way too soon but hey its your life do what u want! i got married when i was 18 years old and everyone told me the same thing lol my family didnt even come to city hall on our wedding day... but the reason i say its too soon is because i think the best way to get to know someone is by living with them if u can live with him and things are good then u know ur ready. good luck with ur decision!

Chelsea A

My thoughts on all marriage - Don't walk into it thinking that if it doesn't work out "we can just get a divorce" You have to ask yourself if you really, honestly and truthfully want to spend the rest of your life with this one person, i mean FOREVER. No sneaking around talking about getting together with some other guy behind his back, no secrets, no anything. Joint bank accounts, joint closets, kids, pets, school, work... Think it through before you jump headlong into anything. Only YOU can decide what is best for you, but you really have to put your head into it. Too many marriages end within the first year because people don't know what marriage entails. It's a BIG BIG BIG commitment, you're promising the rest your life to one person, and that one person ONLY.

Kathryn L

sounds too soon for me, but people do it all the time. my only advice is to talk to a marriage counselor so that you can cover any and all issues dealing with marriage. you'd be surprised what issues they bring up. this will either make or break your relationship but is very necessary!

Camille

me and my husband got engaged 6 moths after dating.(We got married after 1 1/2 years later) we did live together tho. I think you guys should make sure your a good fit before getting married. Talking and being in a relationship are totally different. I really don't think the 8 months of talking really count. So really you would be getting engaged after only 1 month... so ask your self is one month of dating enough to know you want to spend the rest of your life with this person?

Meef

Um, yeah it's to soon!
In this day and age, people are always jumping into marriages and not really thinking things through. And you know what they do next? They get divorced!
If you guys are really meant to be, your relationship will only get stronger with the wait and you'll know for sure that you'll last.
If you guys really love each other and you really want things to work out, you'll wait.

varun a

Think for while and decide, according to me its to early to get in...I suggest you have a thought and then give ur answer.......

Nancy U

You don't say how old either of you are, but it really doesn't matter. Use your brains, yeah, it's too soon. You have only known each other for 8 months, and haven't even been together for that long. I don't care how much you think you love each other, give it time.

mysocraticmethod

I dated my wife for 7 months, and then i proposed and we got engaged, another 6 months later we were married! (that was in last december)
lots of people said it was too soon, but we both felt right about it.

remember the question is not whether other people think its 'too soon', but really whether you think it will, and are committed to making it work! as long as you dont do it just cos he wants, i think youll be fine!

generally there is one person who feels 'more' right about it than the other =). this issue with you guys is perhaps your prior relationships could be motivating you a little? maybe not aswell - but you just want to make sure its not driving you together, you want to be together for eachother rather than some pain of some other relationship.

it seems like youve known the guy for a while, people will tell you its too soon - but a year engagement is a decent amount of time to get to know someone, youll be able to see more fully what he's like is different situations, and get to know more fully whether you want to be with him for life.

Goodluck! =)

Katrina

go for it

80dolfin

Way too soon. I'm 29 yrs old. He must be crazy to even ask you that and put you in that situation. You must live with them 1st thats the only way to find out wether you can handle each other. It takes time to get to know someone and people can be really fake to get what they want. I'm speaking from experience. I dated a guy for 2 years then he moved in with me, within a week i was beaten by his fist! I never thought he would do that to me. Now I'm in a new relationship and have been living with him for 9 months; things are going good. You can't commit to someone you don't even know?

bestadvicechick

Personally I think you need to give yourselves time to just date and be a normal couple. The way in which you got together in the first place isn't reality.....I just mean that just because you talked for 8 months doesn't mean you truly KNOW each other and it definitely doesn't count as time being in a real r'ship. I would hold off and date for a year and see how it goes and then if you both still feel the same and want to get married, THEN get engaged.

Brianna's Mommy

Too soon, especially since you said yourself that you were both in other relationships until you started dating. I had a friend who did exactly the same thing that you just said you are going to do, and was divorced within less than 1 year of being married.

Kristin

TOO SOON! Stop right there! You should not even think about getting married untill the two year mark rolls around! I would say date the person for at least 5 years before tieing the knot! The reason everyone is telling you it is too soon... is because it is!

An S

If you truly love each other as much as you are implying, then say yes. Also, given that you are unsure of it being too soon (or someone in your life is) giving it a year before the date is a good idea. You need planning time and the date can always be changed. You can always cancel it too.

I dated my husband for 6 years, on and off, before I agreed to marry him; and we've been together a very long time. My parents knew each other for 6 days before they got married. They celebrated 37 years last summer. Then again, I've known people who had been together for years and married for 6 months before getting it annulled. So, I couldn't tell you what to do. You obviously have to figure that out on your own.

But I would say yes given what you have said.

Poppy

Sorry but it's too soon. One day you'll see what I mean.

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