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minx
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As hard as this is to hear ...... hard enough to say it, believe me ......... i really do think that you need to end all this b.s. with your wife and leave. i'm not suggesting for one minute that you don't support her and the kids, all i'm saying is that she has no respect for you and she needs to learn how to respect and cherish you again. to do that you have to let her go so that she can truly see what she's missing out on. unfortunately, we really do teach people how to treat us and (as much as you love her) by accepting this kind of behaviour you are teaching her that it is an acceptable and tolerable way to behave (not!!)...... :0)
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wpf7
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You're already done. You are just in denial. Moving on in a healthy manner will be the best thing for your kids. |
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Caliguy
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divorce her |
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druidthelakes
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sorry to say this mate but get the hell out of there... |
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notyou311
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It sounds like it's over but maybe she will agree to see a marriage counselor with you. Otherwise, there's not much hope. |
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John Luke
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You should ask your wife to go to church with you and on more dates and get a sitter if you have kids. Also some marrital counseling might be in order if all else fails. If she refuses counseling and church, I'd file for divorce while she was living with you citing spousal verbal abuse and adultry. |
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labotomy
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Honestly you don't need to be with someone like that man! If you're with someone that takes and dosen't contribute then you really don't need to be with them at all. The problem lies with the fact that you've got children who have no choice whether or not to get involved.
If she's that kind of person she may use them as leverage "You'll never see MY children ever again" is my all time favorate. You need to catch her cheating on you and you can avoid having to support someone who's only causing you grief and pain. I know you love her but honestly, someone that loves you wouldn't leave you for financial reasons and wouldn't cheat on you. Of course she's probably got her side of the story and her catty friends don't help. They only cause more problems from what you're saying. The one piece of advise I can give you is to keep your cool. No matter what you need to be the adult. It seems to me like she's not. Oh, and get a good lawyer. I don't see a remedy to this situation that involves you too staying together. Go for joint custody and I hope to god you signed a prenumpt. |
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8039
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wow thats the worst situation iv heard in a while, dump her ***, people like that never change. Why would you want to fight for someone like her anyway? imagine spending another 50 years with her |
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Ms Blue
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Life is way too short to let this go on too long. You need to seek counseling if she is open to it. Do not get me wrong after reading your story I feel like saying leave right away, but in the real world of children and families it is always wise to make sure you tried all avenues to save the family. If she refuses to take counseling you seek a good lawyer. Protect yourself I have witnessed to many men getting the rough side of a divorce when it was the lady that cheated and emotionally abused the spouse.
Your children will know you love them if you stay in the picture and fight for equal rights where they are concerned. I hope you get a good job that you enjoy. Maybe you could go back to school with loans or grants to get yourself in a better place financially. I wish you the very best and please always remember what seems so impossible today may look entirely different a year from now.
Please surround yourself with people that care for you. You have had enough negative and that only tears a person's self worth. God Bless you and your children. |
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Samantha W
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ditch her |
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Me Vale
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Jeez, you guys sound so immature and your raising kids together. Lord help them! Look if she cheated forget about it! Not worth it! Man I feel sorry for your poor kids. You guys have provided such a dysfunctional family environment for them! |
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Dog Rescuer
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The marriage is over..Find a good divorce attorney and a counselor or clergy to walk you thru the process..
You do not deserve to be treated badly by anyone!!!
Do not let her ABUSE you one more second!!!!!
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Lisa F
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sounds like you cant work this one out... |
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Mother of three
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I hate to tell you your situation is bad. You might want to consider divorcing her and fight for the custody of the kids. But if you really love her, then you would have to try tough love with her, she needs discipline. |
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Wolfe
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dont stay together for the kids sake its time to cut your losses bud . she is not being the faithful wife .. you dont need the heartache and dont need the drama .. |
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just me
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well it seems that she wants you when you got the money. and if her friends are telling her to leave you and shes treating you liek crap. leave her, but dont leave the kids. first find a lawyer and find out how you can protect your money. when the time comes and you get divorced, she might try to get money outof you. hopefully you guys stay together, but if shes has no interet you can do anything else. hope this helps. really talk to your kids and tell them that its has nithing to do with them.u leave her but not the kids. staying would mkae things worse, kids see and hear everything no matter how u try to hide it. |
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markslove
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i had 2 kids with my 1st husband and thought i would die when we split. although i was the one who filed for divorce, i did it hoping it would wake him up cause he had been cheating on me, but it didn't. it won't make a person care anymore or less than they already did. as for if she was cheating on you, well, i think she was cheating on you to begin with and used the $ thing to get out without telling you. you should cut your losses and let her go. you may be missing out on the best thing that ever happened to you while you are dealing with her. beleive me, the hurt DOES go away. it'll take some time and it isn't easy, but it will. i am now married to the most wonderful man in the world who is perfect to me and have never been happier. if i would have known this was waiting for me, i would've done it sooner. you will still get to see your kids. sometimes it's better for them to be with only one parent than to be in a household where there's alot of negative things going on. they will know you both still love them, don't worry! |
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SKUNK
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This is only my opinon and marriage is till death do us part.But if she is running around on you,you need to get an opinon from a person that is in this field of work.
I have been married for 30 years and me and my wife have had disagrements on things but never have i or her as far as i know ran around on each other and both of us has had plenty of chances to but we trust each other and that is why we are still together.
When you lose your trust then it can never be replaced again. Good luck and the kids are the ones that always feel the pain from this kind of marriage. |
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conny
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Oh my gosh!!! What a mess. Hun, she already cheated on you and I am sure she still is. Don't be naive. Your in denial i'm afraid. Also your marriage is pretty much over. If she still loved you she wouldn't of had an affair.
Move on!!! |
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just browsin
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Go to marriage counseling for the sake of the kids. |
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sonniebrown
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I think u should move on obliviously she did thats why she cheated |
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Gina F
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This is a tough one to answer but heres my opinion.
A marriage is worth fighting for, you shouldnt give up on one easily. But if you are fighting for a bad marriage and what you end up with isnt good then maybe your fighting a loosing battle?
Lots of kids come from divorced parents and I dont believe it affects their future relationships. It didnt affect me. But if I saw my parents not loving each other and fighting all the time that probably would have affected me.
To think a marriage is going to end must be devastating. Talk to her and ask her what she truly wants because in my opinion she is being sly. She is waiting for you to call and end to it so she can blame you for it being over and you will no doubt get a lifetime of blame for being the one to end it. Seems like she is trying to push you into a corner.
Im sorry to hear this and I wish you all the luck in the world. |
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AJEMT
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she probably is cheating get counseling if she dont want it move on |
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Monette H
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LEAVE HER FIND A GOOD WOMEN WHO TREATS U GOOD AND U TREAT HER BETTER. |
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Dylan's Mommy<3 4.24.08
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first of all, whatever you do, please make sure the kids aren't being exposed to this and to teh fighting... make sure they know how much you love them, and that none of this is their fault, and never will be.
second of all, it sounds like your wife may be a little unstable, and money seems to be her only source of happiness. If she is just taking your money and treating you like crap, get out.
ask yourself one question?..... are you happy? is she happy? because if the answer to either of those is no, then either get marriage counseling or get on with your life... and find someone who appreciates you and will love you in return. good luck :) |
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Shun E
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Life is WAY too short to be unhappy. If she left you b/c of financial reasons and you made every effort to fix those issues and get her back and she comes back and you guys still are not happy then, odds are, you guys are not meant to be together. And if she has been unfaithful to you then you definitely need to get out of this abusive relationship. She does not deserve you. You'd better get an attorney tho, b/c she's already money hungry and i'm sure she'll ask for support. It's a new year, GET RID OF HER |
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Milk C
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Never let anyone treat you like that! She seems ( in the stuff you told us) that she only wants money from you. Your kids must not be taking this well though, how old are they, are they old enought to understand you and there mom might get a divorce? You may want to tell them, if they don't understand, whats going on. |
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hello :)
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let her go. you deserve better. but dont leave your kids. & let them know your leaving isnt there fault what so ever. |
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Vanessa B
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Your relationship sounds pretty toxic and you shouldn't let your kids be exposed to that. If you are going to try to work on your marriage (only if BOTH of you are completely into it) I think you should do it from separate residences at first and you definitely need some professional help. |
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˚hɑяd çɑηdʮ˚
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she's a manipulative b*tch, leave her as fast as you can.. |
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