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taurust_girl27
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if there is suspicious act towards the husband, then i would say the wife has the right to know, because, who is the one who hurt here of course the wives's. if you hide anything then why you need to hide your passwords also. you have vows that you will be together as one and so share anything and everything. being transparent in all so that no one will doubt one another. good luck |
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nikky
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yes, I think is okay to demand to know the truth but beware!! if you are looking for something, you are bound to find it, which you probably will, so you need to know what to do next.
that's the kicker!! |
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pinniethewooh
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It's not too much. All is fair in love and war. A person who has nothing to hide, hides nothing. They got busted doing something they should not have been doing. |
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Ade
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A VIOLATION OF PRIVACY??? How about a violation of trust?? How about a violation of VOWS??
If my man asked to look at my emails I'd let him instantly because I have nothing to hide. Violation my tuckus. |
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cheesecake
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I would do anything to prove my husband is cheating or not. Once I have the feeling that he's not being honest, he probably is not. It's called woman's intuition.
And cut the crap about violation of privacy, if the husband is cheating on the wife, he violates the trust and the marriage vow. How about that? |
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Amadeus
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The real issue is not the violation of their spouses privacy, but the violation of the marriage vows, the lies, the infidelity, and disloyalty that took place. There is no blame to place on the betrayed spouse, only on the cheating spouse.
Now your friends know the truth. The question will be what actions will they take on the truth. Do they want to live with the lies? Do they take action on the fears that will come raging at them facing the possiblity of divorce (financial, being alone, impact to their children). They were strong when it came to knowing the truth, now will they have that same strength when it comes to desiring an authenitic life, one that they are honored, loved, given trust, loyalty and all the expectations that should come in a loving marriage.
And yes, I would absolutely do the same, have, and more. |
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1978girl
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I actually know my husband's password and I don't think he remembers he gave it to me years ago. Do I check his email? Every once in a while. I have caught him in lies, not cheating, but still, things that have made me trust him less. To me checking his email is the safest way to find out things (or doing a history on our computer) because I know that until I have solid proof of something he will deny it. If I check his email every once in a while it satisfies my need to know if he's hiding anything and he doesn't need to know that I still have some trust issues with him, at least not all the time. As for it being against the privacy law....it's not. |
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the critic!!
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not a violation.. he willingly gave the password and allowed her into his files.. unless she put a gun to his head and demanded it at force.. so she's good in that department.. i would totally do the same if it was me.. method is not too much.. if she thinks he's cheating.. all is far in love and war baby.. wallet, phone records, email, etc, etc, etc... =) |
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Rjay
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Of course I would check. There is no secrets in a marriage. If you don't look you will never find out and will be getting played for a fool. They had every right to check. They probably had asuspicion that drove them to such behavior. You don't go snooping unless you are given areason to. |
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chvygrl
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If I had reason to believe he was hiding something I would do the same. Anyone should!!! We are usually right when we wonder!!! Unless u r crazy, of course!! |
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Savi S
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WTF?? What privacy?? Once you sign that marriage contract your a$$ is owned! We will go through extreme measures to find out if you are cheating...(including but not limited to) asking friends to IM you, check bank accounts, phone accounts, cell phones, if there is something fishy we will know. |
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pamnation14
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I agree w/abc....where theres smoke theres fire. If you feel you need to spy...the relationship is already over! |
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Revitalised
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Well... I have made him show me all his emails one day as i suspected something fishy in him. He didn't allowed at first but eventually gave in. He then refused to let me take control of the mouse where he did the scrolling of the emails himself while showing them to me. He did it with fast motion hoping that i won't be able to discover any secrets of his. Despite of his action, i managed to discovere an email from a woman to him. Immediately it had proven that he cheated on me. This method is the best way for us(women) to gain trust in something that we have doubt in. Most importantly, it works! |
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Splycgrl
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No violation of any laws here. Good for here. I say she did the right thing now put him out of the house, and get on with life. She deserves better than that. He won't change. |
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kathyw
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I don't think it is an invasion of privacy if the husbands had to surrender their passwords. Plus, you say that the women were suspicious. They already knew something was going on but wanted to get the proof sooner rather than later. I say, good for them. There is very little on the Internet that is guaranteed to be private and stay private anyway. Keep that in mind. |
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hey_there_heathe
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ABSOLUTELY!!! My husband had starting talking with a person from his past and had kept it a secret for almost a year!! The problem with this situation was that she is the type of person who has no problems sleeping with a married man and TRIED to when her was married before. Though he did not. Just the fact that this was being kept as a secret really hurt our relationship.
Marriage is an institute in which neither party should keep those type of secrets. If there is NO trust, then it is hard to show the love. |
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Kelly S
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no its not a violation!!!! its been proven that if you have suspicions that your spouse or significant other is cheating your are usually right. I think you should do every thing and any thing you can to get to the truth! a cheater is a liar!!!! and with all the VD and aids going around it is a matter of your health and your very life that might be at stake not just your pride,feelings, or your heart. It hurts to find out that the one you love is unfaithful but imagine a doctor telling you that you are going to die from some thing that you are an innocent victim of. so screw his privacy or her privacy cheating is a bigger violation. |
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momof10
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My husband would'nt know an email from a dmail. |
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zombiez8me
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As a man myself I believe when you are married nothing should be hidden. I know we all have some secrets and theres a difference between something that happened years before you were married and something going on now. I agree if you have nothing to hide then being open about passwords and stuff shouldn't be a big deal. |
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Lillian
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If they have nothing to hide, then they shouldn't have a problem proving it. |
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sunset
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A girls gotta do what a girls gotta do! Carry out the mission and get your details together. |
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Go GO Ressa
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I can't answer this, I have broke pin codes to get into my husband cell mailbox. You do what you have to do. |
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dmncprkr
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it is not a voilation of privacy. since they are husband and wife, But the girlfriend does not have the same right, for the girlfriend She needs to snoop. or Call up the TV Show cheater. |
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kameo_44
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nope when your married theres no privacy when it comes to that. i did the same thing and i will and would do it again, no questions ask. i divorced my 1st hubby because i found out he was cheating and my 2nd hubby knows i will do the same in a heartbeat. |
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penny b
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you have to find out some kind of way it's not like he's gonna come out and tell you. and he didn't have to give up his pass word .he could of said no and she just would have just had to be mad but still didn't know the truth. |
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Cato
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If you feel the need to check up on someone you love, you obviously don't trust them and if you don't trust who you are with the relationship won't work anyway. So why torture yourself, just end it and move on. |
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Lele78
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If your gut says he's a cheat, he usually is. But for proof I don't think that it's anything wrong with checking. And its not a violation of privacy because the husband gave the wife the passwords. Now if she had did this on her own thats a different story. But cheating is also a violation of your marriage vows. And to me thats worse than snooping. |
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scooter_ gal
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No method is too much,better to find out than to be left in the dark!I say do what you have to do to protect yourself!! |
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bluegirl6
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I think that if they are cheating on their spouse, they are already committing one of the lowest acts possible. I think a woman is entitled to do whatever it takes to find out the truth, so she can then get on with her life.
I would have no hesitation in checking my partners emails if I was suspicious. Who gives a **** about privacy once trust has been sacrificed. |
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Anthony
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no i would'nt , if my wife want to cheat , all she would have to do is tell me , then i would leave for good . |
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