Verbally abusive boyfriend....what do i do? ?

John

dont date losers that cant date around there age

Corey

if hes abusive dont even put up with it, end it now

JWILK

Honestly does not sound like a good situation. You deserve better than that if you ask me. I'd try talking to him about it and make him realize that you two need to work together and that you're going to help each other be on the same page so that you understand each other without hurting the other person's feelings.

If he doesn't change, you can't really change a person once they've gotten to that point, move on.

media

Tell him that you want nothing to do with him and move on.

Nyla

The way he is treating you has nothing to do with his age. He is not treating you with respect and its unlikely that he will change. Its time to move on.

Yanda

He is a nob head and will just get worse. Ditch him, Mr right is out there waiting for you. Case closed.

illmaticmix1

Just leave him. He will never stop.

sleepingliv

You have a controlling manipulative boyfriend who uses his age to his advantage.

I know how to stop it, but you're not going to like it.

Get rid of him. The sooner, the better.

Dump his *ss. Today. It will only get worse. The abusive ones all treat you good in the beginning and it goes down hill from there. Do not tolerate this kind of treatment. Leave him and don't look back.

Billie B

END IT......and go out with me. I live in Hawaii

I prefer the country life.

Don't take that ****, i hope your your better then that.

Jo March

Either leave him or get both of you into counseling. Those are your only options. Otherwise its just going to continue

Duisend-poot

Leave him, he is not going to improve he is just going to get worse and worse. He will leave you with a low self-image, he is no-good. It can only get worse and by that time you will be so indoctrated that you won't be able to think for yourself anymore. Leave him, he is a bully. Just as bad as someone who beats his wife or girlfriend.:(

Apps.

Leave him....

Aimes

I don't understand. You're not married to him. He treats you bad - that won't change. Why are you still dating him?

johnboy

You need to tell him to get lost odds are. Even if he treated you right, he is still 10 years older than you.You are about out of high school, you should be with someone closer to your age to live the next years of your life with. These next few years should be great for you before you get all the responsibilities of a family, not a fight.You need to make sure you treat your man right also.

David

sounds like a loser no guy should be verbally abusive to his gf or any girl. what you do is tell him that either he changes an stops being so verbally abusive to your or other wise you be gone..

H H

These are the kind of men that become obsessive stalkers when you dump them. Its better to end it befor it gets too serious.

Leanne N

dump him

Sarah [Tennant]

GET OUT! trust me , i was i the same place. my bf was calm one min and would blow up in my face claiming everything was my fault and he was putting me down. he knew i was uncomfortable with my body, so hed talk about that, but the next min he wanted to cuddle on th couch. Now, im free of him, and my life is so much better! Trust me, you'll be so much happier and u'll be able to view yourself better, *and a plus, you get to look at more guys without having to worry about him *wink wink* This could go way to far way to fast, and your best bet would be to get out now. If for some insane reason you wont, go and find dating councling. PLZ! Good Luck!

SummerLove

Walk away, no run. And I would recommend speaking to your parents, your friends, your guidance counselor. This guy does not sound stable to me. Also, there is a fine line between verbal abuse and physical abuse. They do not always go hand in hand, but one can lead to the other if unchecked. Also, even if he never lays a hand on you... emotional abuse hurts just as badly, even if the bruises can't be seen. I repeat talk to your family and loved ones and get away from this guy. I would not recommend doing this in reverse order. Make sure you have a support system set in place before you speak to him. Also, you stated that in the beginning he was nice. So what? he needs to be nice to you all the time. A murderer could defend themselves by saying well I didn't kill her for five years... should he get credit for not killing her for the first five years? You deserve more. Also, don't fall for the baby I love you and I'll do better... I'm so sorry, I don't know why I did that... or the you make me be this way... It's all crap. Seriously. Tonight when you get home from school tell you momdadguardian that you need to speak with them about something. I know you probablly think you are worlds apart and they won't understand.. just remember they were 18 once too, and they have more experience. Good Luck!

Discovery

Loser. Anyone can be nice.... its how you act when your angry and upset that defines you. If he can not control his temper, or his reactions are aggressive to you - your in a bad situation. Cause Im sure you do things not to upset him - is that right? so you're trying to make him happy and tiptoe on eggshells around him. He's getting what he wants. A chic he can have when he wants, treat how he wants, and brag to his friends by the sounds of it.
Is that what you're worth? You may be worth more and deserve more, but while you are in a relationship that can disrespect you and get away with it, thats what the world will think of you.
Its early days. Get out. Or make it friends only. I'm sure you can do better and maybe the realisation that you wont take that treatment might smarten him up, and he may realise to keep you, he'll have to change his ways, not yours.

pizearke

Break up.

Johnny

Why in the world would you love somebody who treats you like that?

The only reason I can think of is because you want to be with someone to be with someone not be with someone because you love them. I'm not saying it's true because I don't know you, but it seems like it.

Leave him or tell an athority figure.

Tinjaisaninja

just don't talk to him or hang out with him and act VERY sad when you are around him..
he is just using you as a *ex toy

hotmoma

Leave him it will only get worse.

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move on, you can definatly find better

nina

honey end it now it will only get worse, your young and you dont deserve to be talked to that way. move on dont put up with it.

Karen B

I was in a similar situation :-(...I tried everything cuz I really cared for him...nothing changed, he kept saying things would but nothing ever did. It became worse for me cuz my self confidence took a nose dive real deep, making it harder to leave and believeing more & more the crap that came from his mouth. 5years later I left...wasted time, dont waste your time, you DO NOT deserve this treatment & their are better men out there. You have to know that this is HIS problem not yours, but you need to be aware of the reason YOU continue to put up with his behaviour and address that in yourself before you find someone new... & you wll find someone new...;-) goodluck!

Doctor Deth

DUMP HIS TURD SNIFFING @SS
sounds like a neanderthal
take the bus to school

johnnysunshine11

It's a bad sign. Most likely you can't correct this problem so perhaps the age gap and personality flaw make this man innapropriate for you. I'd highly advise moving out and distancing yourself from him. He lacks stability.

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