WILL I EVER BE ABLE TO GO ON WITH MY LIFE WITHOUT MY DAUGHTER?

Chelsey the Deer Hunter =)

I am sure you will with time not be as emotionally attached. You can talk to her or move closer. Your life isn't over.

Play nice, children

Oh, sweetie. Please get therapy.

There is nothing you can do now, your daughter is in good hands and you did the right thing. I'm sure it was the toughest thing to give her up but just think of how happy you made her new parents. Someday you'll have your own and it'll be the right time. Now, you just need to move on with your life.

chassie81

It will get easier with time. If they are moving and since it is open adoption ask for their new address so you can send cards and gifts from time to time. It wont fill the void completely but it is a help. Also maybe get a number so you can call maybe once a month and get them to send pics. why your life gets straight and you can afford to travel you might be able to set up visits in the future but stay in contact either way.

Sue B

I hope you can go in for counseling. You should of started in with that the day you adopted her out.

Try to keep in mind you did it for HER. And what was best for her.

Ask for frequent pictures and send letters.

and get the counseling.

Good Luck and yes, you'll beable to move on. You won't forget her, no and you won't want to, but life will go on.

dubious

First of all, you need to put this into perspective. 1) You did not LOSE your daughter to adoption. You gave her the best life you possibly could by giving her a family that could provide for her. 2) I very much doubt you will never see her again. She's moving out of state, not out of the country. And if it's an open adoption, I have no doubt the parent's will be willing to keep in touch with you so just chill out. If you are young, I am sure moving to another state seems like the end of the world, but trust me, it isn't. You can be all the way across the furthest ends of the USA in less than 8 hours by plane. So don't make this bigger than it is. 3) YES. You will get over it. Any time a change occurs, it takes a period of adjustment to get use to it. Just give yourself some time and calm down. This isn't the end of the world. I'm sure your daughters parents had a good reason to move, and I am sure it will only solidify her future. You gave them your birth child to raise as their own. I am sure this will be a good thing for their family in the long run. Just remember why you chose to give her a better life and seek peace in your heart. She is not that far away.

Jerry A

i lost my my daughter to a terrible drowning about 10 years ago and im sorry to say there is not a day that goes by i dont think of her .....im so sorry

Dan

Yes Izzy, there should come a day when you can feel whole again, although that whole, will be different than it was yesterday.

If you gave her for adoption, there had to be a cause.....

the only way to start to heal, is to begin to let go......that is different for everyone, and i do not mean let go of everything that has to do with her. what i mean is to accept that this change has happened ant that from this too you will grow.

go easy on that heart, you only get one

Palindromic

You gave up your daughter. You made that choice, I'm assuming, to give her a better life. Now, you need to live with your decision. Maybe you can contact your social worker and ask for counseling.

Star

I am assuming you put her up for adoption to give her a better life. YOU ARE AN AMAZING WOMEN. You not only blessed the life of your daughter but the lives of her new family. NO SELFISHNESS in you. Pray and ask for the pain to be lifted from you, for doing the right thing for your daughter. Chances are YOU WILL SEE HER AGAIN. Your not the only one that has gone threw this. Find a support group. Maybe even talk to the people you went threw for the adoption. Ask them if there are any support groups for the mothers who put there child up for adoption. I know they have them. This can help you heal and make friends that can understand your pain.

I LOVE MY MARINE!

You should of kept her. Adoption is hard. You should of done a closed adoption since you didn't want her. Now your only going to suffer more. It's not going to get easier but you'll learn how to deal with the pain.

TRIXIE

hey, slow down.. she is not leaving the country. you will see her maybe just a little less often.

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you shouldn't have done that...

yesucan

Can you move to that state where the family is going, I would do it. And by the way why did you do that, when you gave her, did you talk to them about this kind of situation's, you should talk to them.

One Of The Girls

Hmmmm, they agreed to an open adoption and then they move? Check the legal documents and make sure that there are no stipulations regarding this action.

Now your emotional affairs are a different story. My heart aches for you but I want you to know you are a brave selfless person. This is what I can tell you about your agonizing heart...time heals all wounds. I know that is so cliche, but so true. I have been through a divorce and it in essence is like a death, similar to the same feelings you're probably feeling. So just know it is ok to hurt and be regretful about your decision, but know that you made the right decision and she will have a great life, and if you choose you can still see her at your will. You are not out of her life per the open adoption. In or out of state you will be her mother.

Best wishes to you and may your heart heal quickly...

LaLALALA

Get a lawyer and get your daughter back if not you made that choice when you put her up for adoption a choice that you made that you will just have to live with.
If you think you made a mistake get a lawyer and get your rights back!

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