WIVES: If your husband had an affair and the woman died (in childbirth w/your husband's baby)and she had ?

Civilian A

Well, this is difficult and I hope I will never be in that situation, cause otherwise I would murder my husband.

But then again, an innocent child was born. I would ask God what I should do. Of course... you know the answer. Forgive. Forgive him, forgive the woman. Forgive the crime they did to your heart.

Look at your marriage, could you survive this?

Could you raise another woman's child but it is your husband's child?

That baby is innocent.

I would. I'd forgive him. And I would take that baby and love that baby. That baby is a child of God, and child of my husband's. But...
more importantly I will love this baby because this baby is my baby. God put this baby in my hands and my life to be his mother.

He's a blessing.

Now... if your husband cheated again... Leave him and take the baby and anything else.

That baby has you, and you have that baby. God will provide. It may be a struggle, but life was never meant to be easy.

Lauren

If my husband had an affair I'd leave him so I wouldn't know anything about his mistress giving birth.

Julia G

JERRY! JERRY! JERRY!

Marina

No. I wouldn't be with my husband either.

darlin

no way, why do that to you? Bad enough to get cheated on, leave the guy, let him raise his kid on his own!!

Amy A

No, if my husband had an affair, I would divorce him. It would be his job to raise the baby, not mine.

Leather and Lace

No, but he could raise it on his own if he wanted. He'd have a hard time raising it with no money. I would divorce him and take everything but the kid.

Edit: Sha're...Also in the vows is a part about forsaking all others.

ELLE

No, because I would leave him so fast his head would spin!

AMenKes

Absolutely not. But I would divorce my husband if he had an affair in the first place. It would of course be his responsibility to raise the baby.

Bobby

EEk ..........

i prob wouldn't be with my husband at all.

cougar

I would do it in a heartbeat.

JADED

Sha Re' put it best. Honor your vows, people! It seems that these days, marriage is taken so lightly. People divorce without trying to work it out, remember that marriage is sacred!...Let me stop there before I go into a tirade...

I definitely would take care of the child. As his wife, I am obligated to stand by him through this. I'm not saying that it will be easy, believe it will be a tough one. But I am the kind of woman who stands by her promises, and I will definitely raise the child as he/she were my own. The mother passing away almost makes it easier to deal with it. Atleast you don't have to worry about the other woman trying to claim anything. And that child deserves to be loved by two parents who will care for him/her and raise him/her in a healthy, loving environment.

**and LMAO at the Lady who said "she would have to be dead..." Isn't the situation just so convenient?! I actually agree! ;)

Liz

I could raise the baby. However, I could not raise the baby with him.

lalala

Thats a tough one i don't think i would be able to. i dont think i would be ablet forgive my husband... never mind raising the woman's child he cheated on me with

shyanne

my first thought is for the baby with no mother.
it IS a tough one, but i think i would raise the child.
after all, my husband would need to be in the child's life anyway.
so i think i would want the child to have a good life.

Lauren

It would have nothing to do with the baby, but no. I wouldn't trust my husband anymore and would not be able to stay married to him.

â™¥Ti Amoâ™¥

That is a very hard question. A lot of people are like no I would leave him but I think it is easier said then done. I do not know what I would do unless it was really happening. I do know though that I would be heartbroken that I was cheated on and she got pregnant and in a way every time you looked at that child it would remind you of it so I do not think I could do it but who knows if that ever happened I might be able too. It all depends if we had kids, if we had none that would make me say no.

K-Chan.

Well, honestly, the cruel part in me would want to just kick his butt to the curb and leave him with the baby as well. But if you have a good heart, then go for it. I mean, the baby has no family, and the poor mother died. She probably didnt even know your husband was married.

I grew up around divorce, you know, but in my opinion, getting married means you stick through with tough times. I know you're probably angry, but imagine how he must feel; like an idiot, which is far worse than being angry. He's probably ashamed, dumbfounded, and terried of you.

If I were you, I probably would, but trust me, my hubby would be making up for that mistake for a very very long time.

~*Godz_ANGEL*~

its kind of awkward but i would take care of the child. the reason why is because an innocent life is in the picture. the baby didnt ask to be born into such a crazy situation. you would be blessed in different ways if you do take in and accept that child in your life despite you and your husbands problems. just put yourself in that childs position, would you want to be without a mother or father? good luck on your decision.

Empathy

I wouldn't. Also, it wouldn't be fair to the child. If I knew I was sacrificing so much (raising a child is very difficult) to raise this child that is not only mine, but a constant reminder of my husband's infidelity, it wouldn't be a good situation for me or the kid. Your husband can raise the child and find a woman who he can be upfront with from the beginning, and if she wants to be with him, she can. I wouldn't want to raise a child that I would know is there because my husband cheatd on me. He got to have fun screwing and I get to work 18 years? No thanks.

abc

yes I most definitely would! the child deserves a good life, wasn't his/her fault how they came to be; but I could love them and raise them and cherish them for just being

â™¥so so flyâ™¥

First of all i wouldn't want to be with my husband after him having an affair on me,so i guess i wouldn't be raising his child either!!

If he had died too with the woman after childbirth, and the baby had absolutely no other family to help raise him/her, then maybe i will!

Netzee

How about adoption. That would be the most unselfish thing to do.

anchorbabby

wow this is an extremely hard question. i mean, it is not the babies fault you know, but he should have not cheated on you in the first place. iether way you know she is out of his life and i mean that in the least disrespectful way possible i just mean you know he is not going to be with her, and well it isnt the babies fault. the baby still needs love. just be careful to make sure he would be actually with YOU this time and not out cheating again.
i guess i would raise the baby. because i love my son and see how loveable he is and how amazing he is and every baby deserves love and a family. hell maybe id even raise the baby without my husband.

Courtney M

No. I might end up resenting the child even though its not his or her fault. That could never end up being a good ending for the child.

I also would never take him back. He made his vows and he broke them its not that difficult to keep your vows. He sure didn't have a problem making them, he chose the commitment. So he shouldn't be breaking them.

Wow,
that is an incredibly tough situation.

But yes,
I think after deliberation I would.

Dream

Wow, that is a hard one. I think after alot of discussion I think I would properly stay with my hubby. The baby I'm not sure how that would go. But then it isn't the babies fault is it.He didn't ask for this to happen. So yes I guess I would help raise the baby.

strew

Yes - it would be a half-sibling to my kids. It would be hard and tragic but if I had remained with my husband thwn yes i would. If I had divorced him i would try to support him to keep the baby.

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