Was family life better before the women's lib movement and wasn't the divorce rate lower?

mellie

I will never be a man's servant, or bow to anyone based on gender.
Things have been on the decline for a long time now, dude. Just because you can't get a woman with an apron and chained to the kitchen doesn't mean there aren't good women out there.

When two people don't treat each other like crap, then we can talk about why the divorce rates are high. It has nothing to do with whether the woman is a stay at home mom.

Welcome to the 21st century.

Jill

I don't bow to a human being much less a god.

I am not subservient. I find that weak and wimpy.

Sorry, but there were society problems back then too. Men still beat their wives but had little repercussions. Murder, rape, incest, molestation...........................al... has been around since the beginning of mankind, and it was the men who were doing all of that!

I see a great problem today with baby daddys not stepping up to the plate and raising their children. That is what I see as different between then and now.

Niagra Gash, Goddess in waiting

I think family suffers now because there is a need for both parents to be working. There aren't many anymore who can afford to live on just the one wage.

I've been both a stay at home mother and a working mother and I can quite honestly say I'd rather stay home to be there for my kids when they need me and not when I can afford it.

I agree to a certain extent with what you're saying, though not entirely. It's not a case of women knowing their place that creates a happy, safer environment for our kids. Both parents, tend to let the television do their babysitting...or the console games, or even, heaven forbid...the computer.

It's a case of self autonomy from the age of 5 these days. Parental responsibility as a whole has degenerated into...here's $50 go and find something to do that's not here, cause I'm tired and your giving me a headache.

I work in a school and I see it everyday. Those who have a mother at home and those who don't...those that have 2 parents working and those that don't. And quite honestly, the neglect is across the board and not restricted to whether mum works or stays at home.

If you want a happy family, stop neglecting it. Its quality, not quantity that makes the difference to the happiness and wellbeing of our kids

poppet.

Because, times and gender roles have changed. We're supposed to be a developing and modern country, and modernization doesn't include women being servants. That's just not how it works anymore. If you want a subserviant woman, find one, or move to a country that still upholds male superiority. Gender roles are still clearly evident in today's society, it's just that women can go out, work, make more than their husbands and do everything a man can do. There's more to life than making babies, raising them, and following orders from your husband. I would hate to be stuck at home all day, cleaning and cooking because I had nothing else I could do. I still cook, clean, and take care of my fiance, but I also go to school, and work. And when I'm done with my degree, I will make more than he does.

Bad things still happened in schools, drugs were still rampant, neither of which has anything to do with whether or not a mother stayed at home, or not.

Marriage is about mutual respect and responsibilty.

Messenger (I has tuff)

Studies have show that having one parent at home is good for the children.

I think that in the day and age when people could afford it, it worked to have one parent on the homefront taking care of domestic matters while the other brought in the money. It could have been either the man or woman, but unfortunately, women weren't usually paid in accordance to their skills the way men were.

It still works well when families can have this situation, but many can't afford to lose an income.

I don't consider the role of homemaker or caregiver subservient.

Edit: There were a lot of problems back then too, including spouse abuse, incest, drugs or alcohol, even school shootings! (My uncle was shot at a school event in the 1950s.) It wasn't acceptable to talk about or admit some of these things.

vegasskiier2581

Okay--- I'll play devil's advocate- as a proud stay at home mom. Not everyone has the ability, especially now, to be able to afford to have a spouse stay at home.

I cook. I clean. I take care of our child, just as I will any future children.

My husband works outside the home. When he gets home I get him a drink and try to help him relax.

Do you know why I do this with a smile? Because he treats me with respect and as an equal. When I was pregnant and for a little while after he helped me with the chores (by the end of the pregnancy I could barely move), waited on me hand and foot, and tried to help me relax (anyone who has ever been through a third trimester knows that's near impossible!).

Try this- you may be king of your castle, but your wife is your queen. Treat her as such and you may actually get a lot further that you dreamed.

miss molly

You do have a point, However I would not go as far to say woman should be subservient to any man or anyone. but as their equal.
There are many good woman standing beside a good man and there are many on both sides that are not.
Yes the society and the goody goody two shoes who say we are not able to discipline our children have opened a can of worms.Children have no respect for their elders and they also have been given to many rights
People today do not want to work at saving a marriage there are far to many financial benefits.

Denver

I agree. They shouldn't even have the right to vote. If it wasn't for what is between their legs we wouldn't talk to them.

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