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TG
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Maybe you should both think long and hard about the vows you took and the husband/wife that you have waiting at home. Its lust and you should remember that you have true love and devotion at home. |
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Wildflower
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Practice these words, "No thanks, I'm married." When he stares deep into your eyes, either look away or say "Do I have a green dot on my forehead, because the way you are looking at me is seriously creeping me out!" In other words, dismiss his passes at you and he'll quit thinking you're interested. Then, go home to your hubby and stare deep into his eyes. |
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sweetpea5499
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You should make it stop!!! Tell him to leave you alone... your a married woman. You don't deserve your husband if your on here asking us if your "fling" is going to work. IT WONT! Cut it off... no matter how interested, you should be spending and saving all your energy, thoughts, lusts... ONLY FOR YOUR HUSBAND!!!!! It will bite you in the ***!!! |
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theresa
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keep them eyes on work and stop doing this to yourself your married and he is married and there is kids maybe to worry with so don't keep doing this evil thing move on and you have the power to stop the eye problem so do it.
good luck
or divorce..... |
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Queen of Beer
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If you are both married, what's the problem. Focus on your husband and your own relationship. If he makes a move on you, tell him to scram. You almost make it sound like you like his attention...in which case, you should not be married at all. |
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hOlliSteR♥22
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do your part to stay away from him. if you are both married, he needs to keep himself TO HIMSELF. but if this continues, you should probably talk to him about it. |
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asuoonline
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I can assure you that this is going no where. you are right he is sweet and doesn't seems to keep his eyes off you and all that. But remember you are married for christ's sake!. What if he starts looking and you turn away? will he still look? no i doubt that. He is a director and he thinks he can always have what he wants but tell your self not you!. How will you feel if a lady is spying on ur husband and he eventurally ends up with her leaving you in tears? not very nice right?.
But again it depends if you are willing to sacrifice your husband for your director, i hope you can make that right choice by avoiding him. Good luck. |
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snowman
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find another job,and tell your husband whats going on.you are married. |
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xp2c
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It is going somewhere if you think it is. Have you told your husband? The biggest indication of something being dangerous to your marriage is if you can't or won't tell your spouse. If that is the case, it is a problem, and you should be worried. If you are truly innocent of any leading on in this case, you should not have to worry about "building a case." Two choices. 1- Take Dirk to the side and tell him you are a married woman and the flirting is getting out of hand, and you want it to stop. The consequence of this is that you are now going to labled the married woman who is off limits in the office. (Which is not really a bad thing). 2- Report it to your boss and let the company do what it needs to in the situation. I am sure it has policies. The consequence here is you might lose your job, because of being a trouble maker. In my opinion though, it is better than losing your marriage. Good luck. |
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napolee_nj
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I guess your marriage is not going to well, because your waiting for him to make a pass. You said he's married. His he happy? You don't know that. You said your about 12 years younger. Hon all he wants if he can get is a young woman like you in the sack. That's all he wants. But he's not going to make the move unless you let him know. I would work on what ever problems you have at home. Having a fling, can cause more pain and guilt then what you are going through now. |
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cope_acetic
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Hon, all he wants is a notch on his belt. He wants to SLEEP with you, and has no intention of dumping his family to be with you. If he makes a pass, slap his face.
Remember that when ANY married man shows interest, because all they want is a piece of azz on the side. Keep your self-respect by refusing to BE that piece of azz. |
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ndnqt1966
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Why do you even care? You are married....Quit your daydreaming and take care of your marriage.... |
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Mrs.2Qz
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If would suggest you start acting as if you don't want his attention and start making him think that his looks and attention is aggravating you. You asked if you should be worried? Well are you interested in this guy? You wouldn't ask this question if you didn't honestly think that there was a slight danger there. Now forget this guy and turn your attention to your husband, start flirting with him and romancing him. This guy is older and may have had other relations outside of his marriage and may be buttering you up as his next. RUN! and keep a watch on you heart and your eyes (STOP LOOKING IN THAT DIRECTION in other words). |
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MUSHMAN
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If you were truly in love with your husband then this would not be happening and you would not have a problem. |
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foxy
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Maybe he likes you, but he is married and he is well aware of that. Men tend to have wondering eye (just like females too), so he is just "checking out the menu" if you know what I mean. Do not make a big deal of it. The most you can expect is a one night stand that could ruin your life as well as career. Men sometimes cheat but it does not mean they are about to leave thier wives. And if he is just looking and flirting some it might not mean a thing to him. Some people are just naturally flirty |
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Linda C
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Things of this nature are inappropriate in the workplace. Most companies have rules against it and people have lost their jobs because of it. Employees with less important jobs are more likely to be let go.
Anything of this nature is like playing with fire. You're there to do the work and it is not a dating service. Have you considered that you might be reading him wrong? Perhaps you're giving the wrong signals, too. Sometimes men in supervisory jobs like to play games like this with younger women, so watch out for yourself.
Don't go there. You'll regret it. (I've seen it go bad.) |
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jenisilly80
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stop encouraging him. don't look at him. if you want to flirt like that and end up having an affair than just leave your husband. its the holiday season, look to your family. |
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knelson1035
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Exactly what do you not understand about the vows you took to be with your husband in wedlock?? There is almost nothing worse than a liar and cheater. If you want to be with someone else have the decency to let your husband know the marriage is over, get divorced, and then go for it with whomever you wish. I would caution you though....once a cheater always a cheater, and the one who cheats on their spouse to be with you has no guarantee that he won't cheat on you with someone else. This is the real world, think about karma huh....and the pain you cause usually reverts back to you. |
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55 and trying
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This wrong on so many levels. You are married! You work together! I have no idea why you even have a question. Just turn your back to him!!!!!! |
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Tracy M
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"Your eyes betray you"....sounds like a Harlequin Romance novel! You are both married to other people AND work together. Stop with the flirting and focus all that attention on your husband. |
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LOVELY25
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You need to go home and re-evaluate your vows. Are you happy is what you need to be asking yourself. You shouldnt even care about this other man. |
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rosei16
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I often wonder why people even get married anymore...
Honey, stop the madness. You're interested, he's interested, and you're both married. Why play with fire? So what if he invites you for a night out? You'll go, sleep with him, and then cry your eyes out because you've betrayed your husband.
Hell what if you give in and he's not enough to please you, or the shi& is terrible? lol. Could you imagine how shitt& you would feel? It's crazy right? To give up a lifetime of happiness for a few moments of "pleasure."
Everyone gets tempted, but only the strong survive. You need to address his stares and discourage that type of behavior, if you want it to stop. Up till now, you've encouraged it...
Good luck, MERRY CHRISTMAS |
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Ag-Haired Fox
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It sounds to me like he's a horny old guy looking to score with (yet another) younger woman in the company. It happens all the time. He should know better being a Director in HR.
Quit looking at him, quit meeting his stares and smiling, and unless it is absolutely necessary for work reasons don't initiate any conversations with him. When he hits on you just say that you appreciate that he might have feelings for you, but you love your husband and are not interested in anyone else. This will not be the last time you're hit on at work. I've seen this happen dozens of times. This guy will get you fired and make you single again - do not doubt it. |
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jittender k
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Men are by nature more flirtatious than women, but women suffer more.
Why let such glances trouble you, give your marriage a chance and let him be where he is,. do not encourage him. |
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Why not me
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You answered your own question, you are both married. End of story!! Sometimes you have to put other people's (your spouse) feelings ahead of your own desires. Its difficult but imagine all the hard times ahead if you cheat with this other man. |
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