We have been married 16 years, and we swing, is that normal?

rightio

Different strokes for different folks. If both of you are OK with it and have retained your love and trust for each other, then it is not abnormal....but after reading your other question about having affairs and no trust, then I guess the answer is clear....your swinging has destroyed you marriage.

euchremom04

hey why not as long as you both want it then it is just fine

Jane Marple

In your previous question you were saying that you`ve had affairs and there was no trust left between the 2 of you.........now you want to know if swinging is normal? Haven`t you done enough mistakes yet!

Briza

Why did you bother getting married. No one touches my wife in that way, but me, or there will be hell to pay

joyceeleann

It is if you do it normally...

katskradle

Well if you do it regularly, I suppose that would be considered normal for you...

andy k

What is normal. Sounds like fun though.

OrangeCharlie

Define "normal". What is normal for me may be abnormal to you. As long as you and your husband are in agreement about swinging then all the power to you!

Racer X

If it works for you, then it is normal for you. Does everybody swing? No. Most people can't get over themselves enough to let their partner have fun, they are too insecure that they will not be good enough for their partner if they let their partner experience life. Those that swing know that this is definitely not the case, that their spouse is, and always will be #1 in their life.

So is it the "norm"? No. Is it normal for you? Yes.

Msdeb gee

NOT FOR US WHATS MINE IS MINE I WILL SHAE MY MONEY MY HOME MY CAR MY CLTHS BUT NOT MY HONEY SORRY HES ALL MINE AND HAS BEEN FOR 29YRS IVE RUN FEW LOOKERS OFF IN THE PAST

openminded

Nothing is normal anymore. If it works for you then it is normal.

Dragon'sFire

Is it normal to you to exchange partners? I guess it must be.. enjoy yourselves.

John Doe 1st

"Normal?"

Perhaps not, but if you can handle it without infighting, guilt, jealousy or - God forbid - STDs, more power to ya.

ann s

normal is a tough call

typical? no most couple prefer monogamy

if it works for you.. great

Jerry & Bonnie Daytona

Normal is as normal does. In most circles it wouls not be considered normal. In the Lifestyle it is considered normal. you will get as many answers as the people you ask. The final answer rests with you. What are you comfortable with? Do you sleep easy at night? Are you fighting over this? Is your love for each other stronger? Only you and your spouse can answer these questions. Goodluck with whatever you choose.

laceys_mom96

I don't know if it's normal, but if you all are happy with each other and truly love each other then it doesn't matter what's normal to everyone else. I watched a thing on TV not to long ago about swingers. They have like this big 3 day camping tip where all these couples come and camp out and just party like crazy! It looked like it would be fun if that's what you were into. I think it was called Swingfest, may-be you can check it out on the web. You might want to try it out!!! Have fun and stay happy!!!!!!!!

dixie58

did you not understand your wedding vows? the part about being faithful and keeping yourselves only to one another as long as you both should live? no- its not normal and its a mockery of marriage and morals that you are both guilty of.what are you middle aged or senior hippies who think you are cool? still smoking dope and getting drunk! you disgust me! grow up you pervs!

beez

If you're both truly okay with it, cool. If jealousy, resentment or poor self esteem is involved, take inventory.

drew

I dont think being married for 16 yrs is normal

Mark

Based upon your previous question; ie. affairs and no trust, you have been normal for some time.

Christina

how many people do you know swing? is it millions? if it is not then it is not normal. i think you know what is normal and what is not.

allencple246

You've gotten a lot of good answers, basically coming down to "what is normal?". But I guess I read the question differently, so let me rephrase it a bit. "Is a couple that has been married for over 16 years commonplace in the swinging lifestyle?" This was my interpretation.

Based on our experiences, and the people we've met, this is much more common then you may think. In fact, in our circle of close friends, you would be considered the "short timers"! We have been married 29 years ourselvs, and are still going strong. I think a part of this due to the fact that to be successful in the lifestyle you need a strong commitment between the couple. I definitly would not recommend this to a couple of newlyweds, that are just starting to get to know each other. The last thing you need is to introduce more people that you need to know!

So that's my 2 cents, on another take on a question asked.

Avalon von Aldaran

I would never ever consider sharing my guy with any other women, just the thought of it makes me sick.
if it works for you guys have fun... who are we to judge you anyways!

Good Luck to you guys.

Rudi A

Since you do it , it's normal for you, but some that
are married prefer not to share and are for each
other only, and that is me and my wife and that is
the norm for us.

Appleblossom

swing on!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

missing_something

I don't know, but I definately envy!!!!

daisydownsouth

why would you think that would be normal??

Lindsey

If you have been doing this for 16 years why are you asking us. I guess it is for you if you have been swinging for that long. Kind of a dangerous arrangement these days with all the std's out there though. How can you enjoy something that could kill the both of you? Good luck.

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