We never do anything!..I am getting bored.?

Dannygirl

Just say, I'm not bored with YOU, but I need more stimulation. Maybe there's things we can do together.

What did you do when you were dating?
Come up with a plan.

Invite friends over for dinner, or to play board games.

My husband and I are always very open, but kind about sharing our needs to each other.

Naked Chef

talk to him about it. say you're tired of sleeping.

hot toaster oven

go for a bike ride.. or a walk out in the woods.. or a picnic!! anything where you're away from the house and tv and same ol same ol stuff. you'll get to know each other better. and he'll have fun.

Eva82

Uhm...sleeping can be a sign of depression. Does he have other signs of depression?

Some people are 'homebodies'. It is hard to not get stuck in a routine. My husband and I go paintball shooting, mini road trips for two days, cook dinner together, go for walks...etc. The real way to approach is to communicate. That is the only way for the relationship to not get boring :)

Good Luck.

Monirun B

go for a vacation
book 2 tickets
surprise him
and say we are going somehwere

frankzilla naked at the beach

have you tried doing something as if you are the one planning it? that way you dont make it seem like you are pointing any fingers at him? maybe you need to be the one planning it in order to get him going with making plans n all. good luck, i know how it is to be in that situation. sorry if this doesnt help.

honeygrl26

ok well you are bored with him, so tell him. Just suggest or plan exciting things for you all to do

Annabella

My husband & I both get into ruts like that & what works for us is actually planning things ahead of time. We'll buy tickets to a comedy show 2 weeks in advance so we have to go. We never regret it & always have a great time but if there just happened to be a show that night & we didn't have tickets, we wouldn't leave the house so pre-planning works for us. I just booked us a trip to Vegas for the end of this month & I didn't buy insurance to change the trip so we HAVE to go LOL! And I'd rather have one cool thing planned every month than go out every night to dinner. The events we go to are more memorable.

Ms. GTO

I am there right now. We never do anything ever and I just exploded at him because I am frustrated at life in general, and every day is exactly the same. Tell him how you feel now so the resentment doesn't get the best of you.

dadnbob

You need to get him doing something with you...biking, running, golf, fishing....something that gets you out at least now and then. But if he doens't want to....go yourself and think about not getting married....it won't get better with time.

mzdrea08

well the first thing you need to do is what you haven't done...talk to him and let him know how you feel...please do not go into a marriage and not be able to talk to your fiance'.

You need to talk with him about this. If you're getting married in July. You may want to do a little soul searching between now and then and see of this really is the person you want to spend the rest of your life with.

SuperWoman09

Go walking in da park, have a picnic, you have to create things for yall to do because not all men are gonna be energetic and creative. You need to look for events that may be going on where you live and invite him to participate. If you have nothing for him to do then he's gonna continue 2 sleep all day. He might be thinking the same about you. Good luck and try to make something happen b4 yall het married or its gonna get worst

Sincerely Yours

Ok honey, you just aren't thinking hard enough! Their HAS to be more to do around where you live! Me and my boyfriend have fun in the simplest ways. Miniature golf? Bowling?- Do you drink, there are bars in the bowling alley; get some friends to go! Make it and every Monday night thing! I LOVE taking pictures so somtimes we just go to the beach even on a cold day, make a fire and take some really cool pictures.Camping is always fun, and it will get him away from the T.V. and BED! All of these things aren't expensive either! Just talk to him, He may feel the same way, give him something to do that's better than sleeping all day.

<3Amber

well tell him you want to do something different

ROCKR

tell him something different you want to do when you go to dinner or something with him.

Donna L

You're getting off on the wrong foot if you can't talk to your fiance about something that is bothering you! How is that going to work in the future??

Tell him the same thing you just told us, and be ready with some suggestions for activities you can do together. Try to find something you can both enjoy.

Good luck!

peacelovebass

you better tell him before you guys get hitched and he finds out then. Tell him you want to pick up some hobbies...get a puppy?

vadeking

Well, don't blame him for it. The fault is 50% yours after all. He seems okay with just being together whether you're "doing something" or not so it then falls to you.

Think about what kind of things you would be doing if he weren't around. Now eliminate the excessively "girly" ones. When you have a good, solid list of things you would like to do, present the ideas to him a few at a time and see if he goes along with any of your ideas. If he's a total stick in the mud and you STILL do nothing, then you should call off the wedding. It only gets more boring after that and there'll be a whole lot more nothing for the two of you to do together.

Melli

get red lights for the bedroom
take him to the park
walk the mall
camp
just have fun

Joanie

Ask him to go for a walk with you, volunteer for a project with you, take up a new hobby, pack a picnic and go to the park or a new museum or someplace where you can actually interact with each other, not just stare at a screen at the same time. Nip this early, and TALK to him about it. Don't accuse or blame, jsut say you'd like to get involved in more activities together. After all, you can think up things to do just as much as he can. Who knows, maybe he's tired of sitting on the couch with you, so he naps to pass the time. Not trying to be mean, but you have to make your own fun!

Danni BRIDE2B 2/9/09

i really think everybody has it covered...

just plan to do things a little more spontaneous

one my fiance and i both love is going on a beautiful long road trip through nature, away from the city, it really relaxes us and takes us away from the usual crap. i think it is important to get a break from usual scenery so you can get to know each other more, and have fun together because that is important in a relationship

your not alone, a lot of the time i have to question 'what the hell are we going to do this weekend' but just be adventurous. do something you have never done before, even if you think you wont like it. a musical? anything!

dont give up, if the love is there and you are still strong just work on it, no one and nothing is perfect relationships just require a lot of effort from both sides!

hailbug

ahh, i have the same problem, i work and he works, then he comes home and watches tv and goes to bed, or on his days off he likes to sleep and watch tv, and as you said dinner and movies is about allll we do other than sit around, also we go to bars... and im not a fan of drinking so im not big on that,. but sometimes we go bowling with the crew, or ice skating... thats about it tho.. if you find something to do than let me know :D

Seriously Though

OH MY EFFIN GOODNEESS! You have just described my Entire relationship! Right down to getting married in July! eerie. Well, I broke up with my fiance, and I am just going to stay single and work on myself for a long time. We are still in touch, but I just told him that I don't know what I want, and that is not fair to him. I needed to get my head straight- and so far it is working out fabulously. I am definitely more active, I go out with my friends and family more. I joined a class at the local gym. I feel like I just lost myself in him- maybe you need to define yourself as a person. Or maybe I'm just nuts. But I had to put my word in since our situations are SO frickin similar.

Good Luck

Sophie D

Well, plan out something fun so you all can do! What are his favorites and your favorites?

Ben-there

Look at it this way. these are the best days of your relationship. It is all down hill from here. Trust me on this one. Take a good look at your life and what you want out of it. Because he may not be the one who is truly going to give you what you really want out of life. Good luck. Take off the rose colored glasses.

efl

find sumthin u both wanna do go out ....well idk really wat do u wanna do really?

boobear7182003

If you are getting married in July feeling like this then you might want to set a divorce date as well. Getting married will make you feel a whole lot wost if not on the actual wedding day. I bet you are already thinking about other men with other adventures. Tell his A$$ you're bored or you can stay bored and eventually leave on your own. See right now you still have a choice. Get married and see that choice fade..

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