What's going on with this guy? If you can figure it out- 10 points for you!?

Nina

If it is that much of an effort early on, it will be very difficult to sustain.

You shouldn't have to arrange a time or ask for permission to talk on the phone... If I were you, I would not be asking all the time - it makes you come off a bit full on...

Do you have similar interests...? You don't like the same sports or types of movies etc that you can talk about...?

My group of mates are mostly male and I can tell you from being in the boys group that when guys don't want you to meet their friends or want you to hang out with their mates etc it is often because they don't want you finding something out... or they don't want their mates to know they are really into someone. It could be bad or it could be good...
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To be honest, it sounds like perhaps you are coming on a bit strong and he is taking a step back. Maybe you should be a bit more relaxed and send him messages every now and again and then give him a call once every now and again. It doesn't have to be a long call - maybe he doesn't like to talk for hours on the phone - or he is busy and he can't or there are always people around and he is embarrassed. Call him and ask 'Hey you want to do anything on Friday night...? Oh okay sounds good - see you then'.

You don't want to scare a guy into thinking he will lose his freedom and lifestyle if he commits to a relationship. You want your communication to be fun, not forced or labourous.

Hope this helps...

Kira

He's just not that into you. Stop being such a stalker.

andy c

You are clearly not his first priority

Dominics` Lady

Sorry it sounds like he has lost interest. Best to call it quits.

Bob T

Sorry to say, from your story, he does not seem too "into you." See what he does when you spend time with another "guy friend."

casapulla2001

Well, he's a loser... but, he knows that you're into him.

He thinks less of you, for it. He knows you'll listen to his nonsense (bugs) and he doesn't have to work to entertain you. In fact, he can string you along until he's got a free night to get you drunk enough to pull something and you'll be shamed enough to make him do it, steadily.

Texting you? that alone should be a Dumpable offense.

You need a backbone. Hope this helps as a prosthetic.

funky_babyy

aaawww....i hate to say this but it seems like hes trying to avoid because he either A] finds you annoying or B] met someone else.

i would suggest that you kind stop acting like you like him and see what he does. if he tries to go after you again then hes just playing with your mind and seeing if you are really worth it or not. but i hope everything works out!

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Flutist(2010)

I am so confused.
I know I won't be receiving those 10 points with my unhelpful answer.
; )

unknown

I believe the guy is either scared or getting bored. Now talking on the phone or via text messages all the time yeah its hard to transaction back to face 2 face but I believe he is either getting bored with the same o same o or he is scared cause he likes you so much and getting to close to you he may think that he may hurt you by getting bored later down the road. I use to talk to one of my ex's all the time via text or phone we both got bored and ended the relationship we figure it was better off as friends cause we couldnt think of anything to talk about and it just got drawn out and boring so those could be your two best answers there may be more and I am not seeing it but those are my best guess

mnm313

He's playin. Try not to show him as much attention and don't act too interested. If he really likes you he will start showing more of himself in person and by phone. If not, than you deserve better. You shouldn't have to be in a relationship where you have to work so hard to get some attention. I know how hard it will be to try to leave him alone (I've been there) but it may be the only way for you to tell if he really likes you or not...or if he's just keeping you as one of his sides.

nextelfan25

He's losing interest....

Melissa B

well first off to have a realtionship with someone you should have trouble communicating face-to-face. also if he wants to talk to u less and less maybe he's having second thoughts about you and is trying to take the easy way out. which is usually what people attempt to do. a suggestion would be to not text him, not call him and see if he tries to get in touch with you. if he doesn't then u know something is up. furthermore, is he doesnt contact you find urself someone who is worth your time. i know it's easier said than done but there are plenty of fish in the see dont waste your time on the rotten ones

freeriderss

Pretty easy..... guys don't play "Hard to get". He is already involved and you are on his "back-up" list in case one of his "A-list" falls through. Sorry.........=(

catmenacestop

The truth is that he is not ready for any type of relationship. It's a game that I have went through not to long ago. He trying to avoid getting close to you or you getting close to him. To tell you the truth this seems tobe happening a lot. I would really hate to see someone go through the same thing i went through. SO don't get involved. There are plenty of other men out there that can think of something better to say than to talk about killing a bug. It makes him seem really dumb. Remember there is more to the story than meets the eye.

kahongkhoo

Five dates and you own him?

COME ON.

I think you are over analyzing the whole so-called relationship! There's nothing "going on" with the guy and nothing much to "figure" out!

You think you own him and he's still on looking-around, let's-just-be- friends mode.

So just chill. Be natural. Don't be so pushy.

In this part of the "game" you have the advantage. Don't screw it up!

If he still thinks there are better fish in the sea, you just have to attract other fishermen (while you still can)!

Good luck, have fun!

Arwen

i don't want to be harsh but from what i read... i think he lost interest after you had that awkward date when you both had nothing to talk about. and when he talks and pays attention to another girl more than you then it says a lot. maybe if you let him be for awhile the next time you talk or even see each other he'd be interested again, give it some time if you have any. good luck

Gala

He's just not that into you. Sounds like he thinks you're not that interesting if the conversations are tapering off and getting less personal. He's just not the kind of guy who will tell you not to call.

Either that, or on his vacation he thought more about someone else than about you. Either way, what we have here is a dead shark.

wldchldwoman

He just is not that into you! Move on and quit making your self his *** puppet.

TONI D

The interest is not there. He is interested elsewhere. When men begin to make excuses, that is the case. Brace yourself for a men adjustment. He is indecisive at this point. Someone or someones are tugging to get his attention. At first in any relationship, there is a lot to discuss because you are finding out about an individual. Later as the chapters of your lives are read through conversation, the chapters get smaller, and the conversation more limited, and sometimes just mundane and boring. It can work out, but you and he will have to build on another foundation other than mere conversation--- something like
going places, dining out, going to games, shopping, and doing nice and wholesome things together. That way you and he will have a lot more things in common and a lot more to talk about, plan about, and
create your own little world together.---- Toni D.

Observer

You are one of his many friends. Treat him as one of your friends too. Frequent short chats on the phone are better than few long ones unless both of you are enjoying the conversation. You may not end up becoming his gf. Don't worry about it. Just enjoy his friendship for now.

boo_boo1321

It sounds to me like he in a committed relationship with someone else and has you on the back burner. He is being very secretive and not giving you much detail. If he wasnt trying to hide you away he would be inviting you to join him and his friends. But he is not. Regardless of whats going on, there sure is something fishy with the whole situation.

I hope this helps

Slednecks 4 Life

he is probably busy because his friends are in town and he hasn't seen them for a while, he could be cheating on you but i doubt it, and when you are together and have nothing to say, ask what hes been up to since the last time you've talked to each other and look at his expressions if he is ling or telling the truth, ask him for dinner at your house or something, find out more before you make your decision, and wait til his friends are gone back home ( to where they came from ) and give it a bit after that, remember don't judge a book by its cover.

Ignorant? R-U?

Because your on the inside you can't see it, but its bluntly obvious. For one, he has another girl/s in his life. No offense but, I honestly don't think he is as interested in you as he probably was in the beginning. As he got to know you he likely found you not his type. Or someone else his holding his interest more right now. I can tell by the bugs in home phone call. Conversations like that always convey, I really want to be generally/mutual/friends. Otherwise you'll get an lust/infactuation/interested feedback. He has a sense of thought of you, but I think its just because he knows you are expecting a response from him. Here's some advise...Stop calling him for a while, so that you can keep your feelings about him a little vague. I think he already figured you out and that's not good. Men like a little spice, suspicion, guessing. They don't want to know you really want them in the beginning. So back off some and see if he comes back around with higher interest on the relationship level you are expecting.

aafromaa

I'm sorry to be the one to tell you this but it sounds like he's lost interest. If he was having dinner for a small group of people why didn't he ask you to join them? If they were such intimate friends that he couldn't invite you then why did everyone but the one girl then why did the other friends blow off his dinner party? If his friends don't think enough of him to let him know they aren't coming for dinner then what does that say about him? If he's too busy to talk to you on his off time but it's okay for you to interrupt his busy work day then he sounds like a real go-getter - NOT. So what is it you like so much about him anyway? It sounds like he's only interested in you if he doesn't have anything better to do. I'm not trying to be cruel but even though I don't know you I'm sure you deserve better. If you talked for 30 minutes about killing bugs and had little else to say to each other then I'd guess the romance is also dead.

Time to move on - you'll get over him.

Smiling One

I hate to be the one to break it to you, but it doesn't seem like he's that interested in you any more. If he txts you to tell you what the plan is, that kinda shows that it's not worth a phone call. If only a girl shows up that he used to like, then he might possibly be thinking of going out with her. If he talks to you for 30 minutes about killingbugs in his home, that kinda makes it look like he doesn't really care what you think of him. BUT, if it's awkward for you two to talk, that might mean that he isn't sure what's going on, and he might be trying to read "signals", which usually means that he is interested in you. Maybe you should talk to him about it. That might help. Simply ask him that you want to know what's going on. I am so sorry if this isn't very helpful, but this is how I have perceived the whole situation. I really hope that all turns out well, and Good Luck!

Dasha

Hate to be a buzzkill- he is not interested and you know it!! It is the truth!! If a guy likes you- he will persue!!

Brandon B

Sounds like it to me he is using a cover up... don't stalk him but don't think everything is fine and dandy.

Roady101

hmm... he probably wants to avoid you for whatever reason... sometimes its not ur fault, its just some stupid thing us guys have... perhaps you did something he disliked... but he's probably trying to avoid you... he's not worth it

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