What's wrong with just wanting to be a housewife?

The Universe Guru

One of the answers said that men don't want to support women - that is absolutely incorrect!! Men are natural born providers and want to protect and provide for their woman and offspring.

Congrats to you for realizing your true dream and destiny so early in life! As with any goal or intention - put it in writing and pray to find a good man with the same values as you inshAllah.

Countless studies have shown that men and women are happier in marriages with more traditional roles. Work part time if you want but let your man take the financial lead and you both will be happier. I studied social sciences and psychology at Northwestern University. Feel free to contact me for more information about this topic.

Housewives and stay at home moms provide a great sacrific and service to their families and to society. I appauld you for being a smart woman and knowing exactly what will truly make you happy.

The Universe Guru

SuzyQ

Most men don't want to support women. In today's economy and lifestyle it takes two incomes to make it. I think you should learn to be self reliant. Get a job, support your life and maybe somewhere along the line you will meet and marry a man who you want to share your life with and have a family. Together you can decide if you will need to continue to work while raising your children. There is nothing wrong with wanting to be a full time mother and homemaker but you have to have the guy first and he has to be willing to know this up front. You are young and there are so many other possibilities..

manolito

There's nothing wrong with wanting to be a housewife but consider this: Being a housewife is not intellectually challenging, it may be emotionally satisfying and rewarding but you may end up pretty bored which is always a basis for trouble. If you try to develop yourself career-wise you may always choose. On the other hand, once you are a house-wife, it'll be a lot more difficult to go back to developing a career, if you change your mind. Also, keep in mind, if you marry a guy who wants you as a housewife and you change your mind, you are in trouble. If, on the other hand, you go for a career and marry then, your future husband is likely to be more tolerant with regard to what you want to do. Think carefully.

~Precious~

I think being a housewife is fine if your married and have children. Your reason to stay at home should be because you have little ones to care for and you think its best to be the one caring for them if you can afford to. Ive never heard of the man "having" to support you while you either not work and do whatever or work and keep your money for yourself. Thats nothing but selfish. If you marry you share everything including your money.

mizzhollywood28

Some people think it's a way of being a lazy gold digger.

Angel's Wings

Wanting to be a housewife is perfectly fine, once you have a husband. And, that is assuming that your husband makes enough money to pay the bills. And, any money you bring in should go to the household, not your Play fund.

You are not even married yet! Yes, you need to either go to grad school or get a job...who do you think is going to support you until you get married? Your dad? Doesn't sound like he's up for it.

Sounds like you need to mature just a little before getting married.

JMHO

JuliaGulia

Ha, my "religion" is like that too, basically, I go spend money on getting my nails done and shopping for myself and my g-o-d says my husband is not allowed to question me and must respect me and worship me. Blah blah, guess what, your parents don't want you sitting in the house spending their money eating their food while you wait around for some guy to come sign a piece of paper to agree to completely support you no matter what while paying for every little penny. I think you should do what your parents want you to do and be prepared to depend on yourself while you wait for this so called prince charming to come pay for everything. I completely understand if you don't think you should work as when I have kids my husband and I both decided I would stay home until they were in school. So if you don't even have a boyfreind who supports your roll as being a housewife then I think it's best to not go waiting around for this guy to show up. It might be different if your parents were muslim too and were going to arrange a marriage but they aren't so it's kind of time to get real. Not saying anything bad about your religion at all I just think you need to not expect your parents to take care of you in the meantime. What happens if they kick you out? then what? you'll get an apartment and work at Walmart?

Wellington Jones

So if you work you get to keep your money,well why not work then it's win-win both ways.

Cindy S

Being "just" a housewife takes a lot of ambition, and hard work. However your saying that you'de like to get married in your twenties, so is there a boyfriend or fiance? Does he feel the same way? It sounds like a dream not a goal....Your parents obviously want you to support yourself, there is nothing wrong with that..it's your turn! Before you can decide to "take care" of someone else, you have to learn how to take care of yourself. For the life of me I can't see where religion comes into this at all.

Dr.Evil

because in current age, being housewife is not a good thing for family welfare and for yourself as well. its finally your choice htough if you can find a guy who is ready to support you for everything.

Freedom Fighter

1st-do you have a boyfriend now? Does he have a good job? stable one to finance your lifetime expenses?Is he willing to have a plain housewife? U have to ask yourself this first before u daydream about your future marriage. A housewife is a noble job specially molding children of their values. But, global crisis sometimes affect marriage and theres no guarantee that marriage will always be bed of roses. In reality, money matters and this causes arguments and separation sometimes. Be prepared of the consequence. Isnt it that muslim guys can have more wives?how can u be so sure that you are just the only one he will support? and (knock on wood) what if he dies? how are you going to live without money? and what if your in laws ill treat you, what would you do when you cant even support yourself either..you'll be miserable..its like fighting without arms for protection. I suggest, don't waste your time. Study and find a job. Education is very important. At least if unexpected happens, you have greater opportunities to survive and nobody can just step on you. I hope you can find time to reflect more. Believe me, having money of your own can add self esteem. It is nice to have one. Don't waste time. I Wish you the best.

Ms. GTO

If being a housewife suits you, and it is what you want, then by all means do it.

Jasmina

Each to their own. Do whatever makes you happy.

Rebecca P

Most people frown upon being a housewife because they consider it not doing anything with all your schooling and time spend to get that schooling.

I suggest to work until you and your spouse are married and ready to have kids or settle down you might have these thoughts now but you'll eventually change them i the future.

Personally I want to be a housewife,(and currently am and love it) I love staying at home and doing chores, but I like working and I have to because in this economy unless you're spouse is making over 75,000 a year you really have to watch your budget.

My mother is a housewife and she spends all her day doing chores that if she worked would not have time for, my father loves that.

Steve

what would be the purpose of going to school if you are not planning to work? THat's just a waste of time and money.

Mousse

There's nothing wrong with it, and you're not alone. I know many girls who after completing their degree, decide that they don't want to work. Some worked for a while and then left because they realized they were happier being at home. Of course, they can afford to do that because their parents or husbands support them. So once they are ok with that, then no problem.

There are advantages and disadvantages to both situations, you just have to decide with your spouse which would be best for you and your family. Personally I wouldn't mind that my wife is a SAHM when I do get married, I like the idea that she is the one taking care of our kids, no one can do a better job then her IMO. My religion is similar too btw, I'm Muslim. If you are also, I would not be surprised.

jennyssigns

There is nothing wrong with wanting to be a housewife. I know a lot of good women who do it and love it however, they did it to take care of their family not to be taken care of.

Piggy

I say it you don't work, don't expect to eat.

Miriam

Society has gone from saying it's good for a woman to have a CHOICE between having an outside job or working at home, to encouraging all women to have an outside job, to saying all women SHOULD have an outside job or there's something wrong.

Someone has to clean the house. And it's your life. What's the problem? I'm not religious, but I'm a combination of a housewife and potter.

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