What If This Happened To You....?

So.N.2.U

girl whatever.. forget him.. that's a clear sign that he wants to control you. you are a grown woman who is capable of making your own decisions. who the heck is he to tell you what you can do and what you can't do? He is not your father! So you go girl and never look back.. a real man would never make you chose between anyone/anything and your parents, the very people that brought you into this world! be blessed!

I would consider him extremely controlling and not go back.

Don Fusilli

Go and don't come back. If you let him have this kind of control it will get worse and your life will be hell.

Mena

Um I think not. Yes he is my husband but unless my parents are being damaging I am going to see them.

sillyredhead

Looks to me that you are in an abusive, controlling relationship. If he hasn't hit your yet he will. If he tells you not to come back, then don't see how he likes it.

Katy

Tell him they're my parents and I'll see them if I want to. From what you've stated he doesn't have a logical reason as to why he doesn't want you to go alone other than a control issue. Try and sort things out, and certainly don't let him tell you what you can and cannot do!

happy 1

wow. something is wrong with husband. why can't you go visit your parents alone if he doesn't want to come along? he has control issues. now it's your parents, next would it be your friends and work?

think long and hard before any kids come into the picture

Nanner

control freak! I would choose the parents over my 4 month marriage with someone who obviously wants to isolate you to control you.

skadoosh

whats his problem with your parents??

i would go... screw that he cant dictate if you can see you parents or not..
if they dont live far away and it isnt going to cost hundres of dollars to go visit them then it should be up to you when you get to see your only family..

froggystylechile

Go see your parents anyway. If he really loves you he will be there when you come back. If he wants to divorce you over seeing your family, do you really want to be with him any way? Don't let him rule your life!

D N

Call his bluff.

I can't believe he said "if you dare"...ridiculous!

Have a good weekend!

Vanity Affaire

I'd pack my things and leave and never come back. I wouldn't let anyone control me and restrict me just because he's not in my company. Obviously he's insecure, but that's his problem, not yours. Don't let him control your life or what you choose to do. If he's doing that now, then it will only get worse and worse as time goes on.

mommacita

What is so scared of.......dont ever be controlled by a insecure man...it wount ever change.......

blackberetonawhitegirl

I would need a very good explanation from my husband on why he would bahve that way. Its one thing if he's not keen on your folks but forbiding you to see them is cruel and controlling. And threatening you is purely mean. There's something underlying here and you need to demand an answer from him. Its inappropriate to set boundaries on who your spouse can or cannot see in that context.

plg19632000

I'd get a divorce!!

catmenacestop

I would leave. it's that simple. He would not keep me away from my family period. That is called being controlling and I wouldn't put up with. besides if i was only married for 4mo. then I can walk away the process of getting a divorce is much easier than if i would have been married for years.

Anji

I would LEAVE....

No man will ever keep me from my family.

je n'est suis pas

tell him to go screw i=him self and leave him becuse those are signs of an abuser not letting you see ur family

Kitten

Leave him it can only get worse from here on out.He is trying to control you and if he is like this now you can imagine what it will be like down the road.

Back W

I'd go with or with out his blessings.

this is totally out of line on the part of hubby... he needs to grow up and smell the coffeee

alrozz

Call his bluff. See how good of a poker player he really is.

enthemood4u

He seems like a control freak who wants no part of sharing his relationship with you or you sharing your relationship with your parents. You have been a part of your parents life longer than you have been with him and you must never allow him to erase your parents out of your life. How is his relationship with HIS parents? He seems so immature in denying to be a part of one big family that he inherited by marrying you. Explain to him that parents do cherish time alone with their children and it has nothing to do with him.

litl red

Go and do not return he sounds like the LIFTIME MOVIE OF THE WEEK were at the end either the wife was killed by the husband or vis versa, Watch the movie (ture story) The Tracy Thurman story

Hope

I would have to know exactly what his problem is with you going to your parents. Let him know he is invited. Have your parents told him anything negative. Did they tell you not to marry him?

abpositive1

Sounds like a control freak. Experts say that guys that start out like this end up wife beaters.

My advice? Go see your parents---and STAY there with them.

Good luck hon!

Cherishalatina

OMG...girl you need to end that quick......reason....I got married and I mean almost immediately he tried to stop me from talking to my friends and my family unless he sat there next to me to listen or he would listen on the other phone....reasoning? he had the right to know what was going on in my life and what was said since he was now my husband.....he even stopped me from calling and going to see my parents and or family unless he comes and he also said you go I won't be here when you come back......well I went and this was 3 weeks into the marriage.....anyway I went and I called the house 4 times and he answered I asked why are you there? I thought you were leaving he said I am I said ok can you hurry so I can come home? he didn't leave till I didn't come home for 3 days....my neighbor called me to say he was packing his car so I was relieved....when I finally went home it was tore up he was looking for a reason to leave so he had pictures of me and my best friend (male) all over the bed....so I laughed and was happy to be free of that nightmare so honey please please go to your parents and don't go back let him leave a man like that is not going to change....you are better off without him.....good luck and God bless you

trixxxy_23

well the way i see it...is there is NO man that will ever stop me from seeing my parents! It doesn't matter he clearly does not respect your feelings or wishes. This should give you a look into the future and how it just may be later on! I'd tell mine fine good bye

Iisfriendly

Seriously? I would think my parents have something on him that he's afraid they will tell you, unless he is there to redirect conversation.
I would get on the phone (preferably a friends, so he can't tell that you called them) and ask them what THEY think.
He sounds like a MAJOR control freak, and I would look into an annulment.
Hope there are no children involved/on the way.
Oh, and I would go, then NOT come back.
Just what I would do, myself, though.
What rational adult, needs someone telling them that they can't see their own family???

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