What am I doing wrong?

Donna L

The main thing you're doing wrong seems to be that you're selecting the wrong kind of women! They all seem awfully shallow. Your current girlfriend seems like a greedy brat. You should possibly re-evaluate this relationship, and stay on the sidelines until the right lady comes along. Trust me...she will.

The Lemur v1.03

You may have a problem of being attracted to high maintenance B's.

mkcj80

You're meeting reallly superficial and shallow girls. I say ditch your current grl and keep dating...chk dating sites to expand your search. Really.

Skunkysue

What ungreatful cows! maybe you come across as a pushover? Put your foot down and just say no.

Fairydogmother

Sorry sweetie. You're just not picking winners. You need a girl that likes you for you, not how much you make or what you can give her. Lose this princess. Do it for me is about as immature a statement as you can get. eep!

You'll find a nice girl that likes you for you. Just keep looking.

loko

money talks... and thats all she wants

Heather

you know what you are doing wrong? choosing the wrong girls. go for women who aren't so stuck up

Ashley

From what I just read, you are picking the wrong girls! If your current girlfriend love you she would realize you are happy at your job and leave you alone. Keep in mine not everyone can be pleased and some just keep expecting better and better. You seem to attract this kind of woman. It sounds like the problem is them, not you.

lovepreschool

Your girlfriend needs to trade up. You will never be good enough in her eyes. You will always struggle to please her. Don't waste your time.

My daughter is getting out of marriage like this now. Nothing the guy could do pleased her. She wanted someone who made more money then her.

mish p

You only get in life what you think you deserve. Stop chosing women who treat you like crap! If you think you deserve better and someone to respect you and your choices then you need to stop putting up with those who dont.

davie j

Believe me today there are too many whiners and you sound like you got you one and I'd ditch her so she can go find prince @ss kiss alot! Believe me there are real women out there and its hard to find them! Put this one back and give the handle another pull and see what comes out of the machine! Find one who works and knows the value of a dollar and doesn't just sit on her @ss all day and complain! Many men are just like this too and some women have a hard time finding you also so don't give up, just keep looking and don't get desperate! If all they know is gim me, gim me. gim me then pitch them to the curb and start over from scratch! Your not dead yet!

Megan M

sounds like your current girlfriend needs to back off.. she needs to be happy with you if your happy with what your doing. youre right ATLEAST you have a job. It sounds like you're just going out with the wrong girls. just because youre not getting paid alot right now doesnt mean u wont later, or when the econ. gets better u wont find another job. why does she want u to get a highter paying job? for you to support her? what happened to her supporting herself. If she wants u to just buy stuff for her, she needs to consider the economy, and appreciate the small stuff.

Lauren R

You sound really sweet and wonderful. They clearly do not appreciate you. Life is to short to deal with people that put you down more then they raise you up.

honeybee72781

wow, she sounds childish! there aren't many people out there that actually enjoy their jobs. i'd say to keep your job and ditch the girl, maybe you're dating the wrong women?

ELLE

Well, I don't know if age group has anything to do with it because I am 31 and I would never tell someone who liked their job to leave for more money. I would rather they be happier then have more money. I have always worked where I liked the job rather than the money. I think you have just been unlucky so far and have found only girls that haven't really been interested in you or that are just spoilt and treat guys badly. And the line "you would if you love me" isn't fair. Don't fall for that! I think you should forget these girls that show no gratitude and love towards you and find someone who can appreciate the things you do for her. I mean, what happened to "it's the thought that counts"?

beckconnie63

you re doing one thing wrong.. You are dealing with the wrong females.

beneta g

Just because she is unhappy with her life, does not mean you can make her happy. She is the only one who can do that.
Continue to be supportive, but don't make any major changes to Your Life.
Things don't make people really happy, try to get to the reason for her unhappiness and maybe you can help her find her career.
Remember it never hurts to have a good employed friend for back up.

It sounds like you're settling for girls who make really unfair demands on you, or just aren't that in to you. Its not that you're doing anything wrong (you seem nice and thoughtful), but you just happen to be spending your efforts on the wrong people (I've gone through the same kind of thing). Maybe branch out and try meeting new people with different qualities than the ones you're used to dating? I wouldn't be too hard on yourself; there's a lot of people in this world and frankly, most of them aren't going to click with you. Its really just a numbers game: for every yes you get from someone, you're going to get tons of no's. It doesn't mean you need to be hard on yourself or change what you're doing (as long as you're being true to yourself, then keep doing that), it just means you have to go through more people in order to find you're "yes." You'll find a girl one day who is nice, selfless, who appreciates your thoughtfulness and doesn't give you ridiculous ultimatums. If you like your job, stick with it, don't quit just to make more money to please her. If she was really concerned with you and your well being, she would not demand you change jobs unless you were unhappy with it, and felt that changing jobs was necessary for YOUR happiness (not hers).

I wish I was pretty.

You are doing nothing wrong, all you are being is a sweetheart. Maybe those "women" were not ready.
I would find a women that is right for you..and respects what you do :D

infonut

You're choosing the wrong type of girlfriend. It's the little things in life that mean so much. More importantly, rather than looking at it with the aspect that something is wrong with you, you should be thinking just the opposite, what's wrong with her? Find somebody that appreciates the fact that you're a very considerate person. There isn't enough people like you.

Mu$!C @LL d@y

wow you sound like a very sweet guy!
its not you. its the woman you are asking out and dating. they are what we call "high maintenance" which is when a they want the more fancy and more expensive stuff that could include your lifestyle and jobs and stuff. look for that type of girl who only wants your love and care and loves you the way you are.

fixing_my_heart88

wow sounds like you are dating ALL the wrong women

lions

i don't know you so can't really say but those are all lame excuses, if they liked you the other stuff wouldnt matter. mabye it's your personality?

Honey

You're probably a good looking guy, but it's almost sounding like you're trying TOO HARD to please these women. If they are beautiful, or if they believe they are "entitled" (comes from having money / status or getting that idea from the world, i.e.: TV...) they may think they're a little too special, and may have developed cynical shells or have hardened their hearts to protect themselves from the world. And, it could be that you've set your heart on unattainable women. Women that ask too much of men. Spoiled brats that will never ever be satisfied. Daddies Girls.

Maybe it's too much, too soon - if a guy gave me a stuffed animal on the first or second date that I had been eyeing, I'd have said it was sweet (of course, there's a BIG difference between a $5.00 animal and a $200 or more animal), but I'd have been questioning either:

A. What does he want for a "reward" (wink-wink!) or
B. WOW, he's a real people pleasing puppy that's really trying too hard and falling hard and fast... is it for ME, or is it for anything in a skirt?

Answer B is a really scary prospect, because women have learned thru the years that men that fall hard and fast usually have Issues... Lots and lots AND LOTS OF PERSONAL ISSUES. Could he be a stalker? Or is he THAT insecure with himself that he's attaching himself to me with very little encouragement on my part?

Lots of women, including myself, like the man-in-charge sort of thing. Many times, we need to hear NO... just to know that you've got independent thought and insight, and aren't pushovers. Some want to walk all over their man (not me). But you are also dealing with the MTV generation: And there is plenty there that is F'd up in relationship to relationships. And your current G'friend wanting you to change jobs? Maybe she sees you being taken advantage of by your boss... or does she just want the money, money, money? If your job makes you happy, you make enough to support yourself (and God knows in today's world having a job and being reasonably happy with it is a SCORE! as far as I'm concerned!) then she needs to SHUT THE F UP. You were not put on this earth to buy her things. If you can't discuss things with her without it getting volatile, then you have no communication with her and therefore a are already in a brittle relationship...

Dating should have a kind of "arms length" type attitude... that is, getting to know each other without having to try so damn hard to connect. When it's right, it's right... it shouldn't be a lot of work... and if it is, it's time to move on... there will be PLENTY of times in long term relationships where you will work your a** off to make it work. Dating should not be that time.

melody s

Well it could be a number of things for sure. You might just have bad luck, but probably not. Some girls don't like guys that are TOO nice. It is a bit of a turn off if it is all the time non-stop all the time. I just stopped dating a guy who was a perfectly fine guy, because he always did WHATEVER I wanted to do. It almost seemed like he was performing for me.

My suspicion is that this might be the case with you (no offence, intended). I suspect this because your current gf seems to think that when YOU care about someone it means that you do whatever they want, no matter how it affects your happiness.

She must be used to you always giving her what she wants. It's almost like she has been trained to expect too much from you. In a healthy relationship people understand eachothers needs, and if one person can't always meet the other persons expectations, the couple should know that it doesn't mean that there isn't love in the relationship.

Although I am almost 100% positive that she knows you love her and is just irritated that she isn't getting her own way. You said you are in the 27- 33 yr old range.. that's when ppl begin thinking about settling down, and so for her, if you are not making enough money and that is important to her she might be a little freaked out because she might visualize herself marrying someone with a higher income.

I have read in many textbooks, that girls look for status when seaching for a mate. It's something very important to them, because they want to know that they will be provided for. The feminists may be gritting their teeth, but it is accepted knowledge that women have evolved this way.

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