What are the causes of conflict between a husband and the wife?

Curious

Money problems.

purplewings123

There seems to be a taking for granted and lack of respect among married couples in a short time.

There are control issues as well as in-law and money problems to deal with.

Some people have no problem solving skills and become abusive to their mate instead of working it out together.

mency

unfaithfulness

grandm

Some men believe that, once married, they no longer have to try to make you happy because they have you now. Don't put up with it! As for the beating, file a complaint against him, and get out of there! No man is worth what you're going through, and you deserve love and respect!

Goofy2006

Money,and accusing eachother.

aclau85

Financial problems
and Not trusting one another.

bookworm

depends on the couple. everyone is different. you cant lump all couples into one category

leecibrahim

if it's a constant quarrel, you don't need to be married. my wife and i argue very little, probably less than 99% of married people. have been married for three years and still feel like newlyweds. however, when you spend so much time with someone (live together, spend all your time together, etc.), you bicker about the stupidest things. our arguments are about the sponge on the sink in the wrong place and the most insane stuff like that. if you argue a lot more, you don't need to be married. it's not an obligation, it's a privelege to be married and that is taken for granted these days.

Twang

They are a lot and if i were to mention them it would take me a year but the main problem is the lack of understanding one another,because once you understand your partner you know how to tolerate their nonsense which is always a problem.

tosh.albir

the catholic church ! that crazy man in rome with his big head. !

Kaz

People change as they grow older. That is perfectly normal. There is no sudden change from love and caring to fighting. It happens very gradually and if the couple have not learned to take the time to really talk to each other then there is not much hope. It is very difficult to make the time to do this with the pressures of modern day materialistic life, but what's more important....a better car, a dishwasher or relaxation spent with your sweetheart even if he/she is a few pounds heavier and looking a bit older....A happy relaxed Mum and Dad are so much more valuable to the kids than a new pair of Nike's or a trip to America.....

free_angel

Many things will cause a couple to quarrel and they're not always going to see eye to eye on everything. Money, jobs, children, in-law's, the list goes on. It's not so much that one or the other changes, their true colors come out. A man and woman should never ever hit one another. When a man is angry, he doesn't know his own strength.

sylvanaknaap

power.

rockout555

Money for sure, and then conflict in raising the kids comes in second.

princess_sahara2003

Most marriage problems are do to financial problems being together all the time in the same house

mikewolcott

First of all, it depends upon how well and how long the two people know each other before they married.

Some people rush into marriage after they've met for a short time and they don't take enough time to make certain if this person is truly the one that they want to spend the rest of their life with in a happy marriage.

People change - people should set out in marriage with the same goals and mostly they do, but as people grow and mature more, they may set their sights on other goals which may not be the goals of their spouse.

It is fine to have different interests - sports and things, but two people should have similar goals to work towards in their lives.

Communication is a very big problem these days. One or both people don't always listen to what is being said.
Sometimes when their is great frustration, one or both people will go out and seek someone who will listen to them.

But the arguing and quarreling - that is actually a normal part of some married life. Two people cannot always and forever live blissfully together - fighting helps to bring people closer. Sometimes the fights are quite silly, but the two people sure don't think so!

However, if there is beatings and severe arguing, then the couple should seperate and go their own way.

Each person is different - but chemistry helps a great deal.

Take your time when it comes to marriage, and make certain that you communicate with your spouse as best you can.
Not all people are reasonable - some want things and they won't listen to the other.

It takes two people to make or break a marriage.

beelzlebulb3695

Because the hidden unconciousness stress kicks in to say that you are married and not just some teenage teeny boper couple in love. AND has turned into reality and then life sets in to say that you ae commited and now you just cant walk away and not leave any strings untied. Then there are the kids that has a certain need that has to be met. bills that are now shared so now the stress has doubled. and just knowing that now all this is now all yours and you dont get to get mad and storm out and not have to come back because now you both have double R E S P O N S I B I L T Y !!!!!!!!!(*.*) AND THATS A`LOT TO CHEW AT ONT TIME

m_cyberfriend

May be it was not s true love.. true love makes people feel great on marriage..it compliments each other and family created with the love will just be great..

Jaetty

Loosing mutual attraction

billy_2_guns

she cauch him wearing the babysitters panties

dazed&confused

Society and the decline of moral values, and the advent of technology.
The divorce rate in the USA is almost 50%, we live in the instant gratification era, don't like today what you loved yesterday, trade up for a different model.
Back in the day, people got married because they were friends, they loved each other, and they depended on one another to make it through whatever life brought together.
Back in the day people had a sense of personal and spiritual values that told them trading in or up was not an option.
With today's technology you can be halfway around the world in hours, you can even meet people without leaving the computer, so finding a new someone is very accessible, and a society that supports the notion its ok to love one today and a new one tomorrow.
People had money problems and all the other problems we encounter today for the last few thousand years, the problem is the overall decline of moral value and the anything goes, and its all good if I want it attitude of today.

tonyevans50

Because complacency takes over from original love. We get bored and lose sight of what we saw when relationship started.

geno887

Money seems to be the big issue these days. A married couple that has problems will probably cease to have problems if they were handed a big sum of money. This is the unfortunate reality of today's world.

J W

Usually money and insecurity, sometimes jealousy.

chen_chen

mostly financialy in nature...

ANIMAL LOVER FOREVER

i believe before you can "love" someone or be "in love" you must like the person first. marriage is full of ups and downs. if two people really like each other they have a better chance at a long marriage.

anonymous

biggest one is lack of communication in my opinion,

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