What can you do about a crazy, stalker ex-wife?

justanother1

ring the police , change your phone no

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slap the *****...or call the cops, she might be a psycho and end up killing you both....get a gun and make sure your house is locked....call cops immidiately or video tape her to get proof

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call the police asap!

Rick B

How does your boyfriend's ex have your cellphone number?

Why is his family communicating with her?

Sounds like there is a bit more to all of this.

Either file a police complaint, or ignore her.

stormwarnfm

Ignore her.

Seriously.

If you all ignore her, then she will go away.

If she doesn't, then you can file harassment charges on her.

Document EVERYTHING.

lucky karma

Get your solicitor to write her a letter outlining her unacceptable behaviour towards you, including her slander to your partners family, and telling her you will take legal action against her if she persists, which may also include police intervention.

Make certain you are keeping a diary of her intrusions into your life.

You don't state whether there are any children from this relationship, and if not, if your boyfriend's family is also sick of the carrying ons, then they need to cut ties with her also. Ask your boyfriend to discuss this proposed action with them.

If there are children and access involved, then sorry, but you can't expect much assistance from the family as obviously they would want to keep on reasonable terms for the very sake of the children. However, if they are aware of her issues and her trouble making stories, then you need to understand their position and remain confident that their actions in tolerating her have nothing to do with how much or how little they like you. If this is the case, then you still need to address the issue as it affects you personally, such as her calls and texts, and threat of legal intervention on your part is quite within your rights and is probably the best avenue.

Icy Gazpacho

Block her number from your phone.

Threats over a telecommunications device are a criminal activity. Record and lodge a complaint.. obtain an Apprehended Violence Order restraining her from making contact or coming within 500m of you, your family, him, his family.

People get weird don't they!

hermitofnorthdome

call the police this is a crime

sandy3azul

get a restriction order

Romi

RUN

Shortstuff13

Go to the police dept. & get a restraining order against her, then tell the police what she's been doing. Save all text messages, phone messages, etc. Don't answer your cell when her number comes up, just let it go to "voicemail." Take this info to the police & they'll know what to do. This ex is sick, so don't talk to her & same for your b/f. That will just add more fuel to the fire. After you supply the police with her text messages, etc. get your cell phone number changed & be VERY careful who you give it to. In some cases, there will be no charge for the number change. (my fiance had to change his cell number because of some harrassing phone calls from a family member, & Verizon didn't charge us a penny.

tat2mom1

My husband had an affair while we were seperated and the female he was with did this too. It was annoying...and that's what she wanted. We stopped taking her calls and then she would leave 15 min messages each time. We had to change all of our numbers, then she sent her son to our neighbor's house. Then we would catch them driving past our house. I got a gun. Then we moved. She finally got bored and left us alone. It took her about 8 months to a year to calm down. People who do things like that are just looking for a reaction.
She kept calling me, texting me, e-mailing me, just to tell me she was too good for him and all of the things he use to say to her. She was crazy from the jump, though. She went thru his stuff to get my info. She started calling me before my husband and I even talked about getting back together. She's just not willing to let go of your boyfriend. She doesn't take rejection well. Change your numbers, tell your family members not to take her calls anymore. If you or anyone else slips up and takes her call, when she starts talking tell her, "Well, thank you for calling. Have a good day, now!" and hang up. Don't give her to opportunity to get into a long drawn out conversation and don't get ugly with her. My mom always told me the best way to get someone is to kill them with kindness. I didn't fully understand that until I was much older. But, it actually works! If she keeps on, get a restraining order on her, then buy a gun. Make sure you're protected. People are nuts, there is no telling what they might actually do! Good luck!

Kt C

get a restraining order

Bozema

Call the phone company and have her calls blocked from your cell phone. Make a police report and get a restraining order if needed. Don't worry about what she tells family members - they know she's a not job. Let them deal with her in their own way.

butterrum28

Call the Police on her and obtain a restraining order. It would be against the law for her to call your phone also.

And then pray for her to find healing in her heart-where she can let their relationship go in the past where it belongs.

Dont wait until something drastic happens, like an altercation between you two or your boyfriend. Then eveyone gets in trouble with the law or worse- hurt.

catdogpenny

file police reports.

David M

First get some evidence if possible (voice recording, photos, copies of letters); Next, tell her it's harassment and to stop or you'll have to take action; third, get a restraining order (the local police or your bf's attorney can help). One more thing... He's been on your side and not being neutral or encouraging her, right?

Amanda

Change your phone numbers first of all.

Every single time she comes around or calls....write everything down...save texts...make notes...AND CALL THE POLICE!!!!!!!!! Start making police reports because what shes doing is called HARRASSMENT!!!!!!!

Get the law involved and she will have no choice but to stop. GET A PERSONAL PROTECTION ORDER! You cant get one for no reason and thats exactly why you have to start getting police reports and proof.

Good Luck!

EDRO

This kind of situation really do happen not only to a woman but also to guys. The woman being an exwife of your boyfriend feels she is overrun or being taken advantage by her former husband. She wants to break even with him by destroying your sweet relationship. She wants to let her husband feel what she feel.

My advice to you my friend, is this, if you have time to ignore an avoid her, please do. She will only continue to disturb you, if you react and show her that you are affected. If the exwife will find that no one is listening to her, she will get tired and eventually stop.

But if she really out of her mind and crazy, I would rather advice you to talk to your boyfriend about her, and let him do something to stop his exwife. But if nothing happens, and you have plans of living together as a couple, I would suggest that you better leave the place, and reside somewhere the exwife could not disturb your happy life. Good luck and God Bless!

Kathryn H

Sounds like time for a restraining order--actually, if she's making threats, it's time to document things well enough to go to the police. Your local court should have a website with information about how to get restraining orders.

Also, if she's calling/texting, you can block her (if she's using the same number/account). If she finds a way around this, complain to the telephone company or her Internet provider. This behavior is against the terms of service everywhere. She'll probably get a new cellphone and ISP, but at least this'll slow her down.

At least if everyone's tired of listening to her, you know they don't believe the trash she's talking about you.

Doesntstayinvegas.com

Depending on how bad it is..

Call Metro. (or the cops if you live outside of Vegas)

Have an order against her.

Change your phone number.

Cut off the current relationship, change jobs and move to a different area.

If still having problems, learn how to use a firearm.

brwneyedgrl

ummmmmm question, how did she even get your phone number???

Anyways, id change my phone number and give it to only people i trusted with it.. she cant pull a number out of thin air.

As far as his family they need to get some balls and either block her number when she calls or flat out tell her to stop calling their house and hang up on her once she realizes she's not getting anywhere with them she will stop.

Then u get a restraining order, tresspassing order put against her so she cant come with in some many feet of you or even come on your property..

You have to be smarter then her and never let her see u sweat if she knows she can get to u, she'll keep doing it cause thats what she wants, a reaction out of you..

Steve B

both you and your boyfriend should join the Marines on the buddy system. Within a year (after bootcamp, etc.) you will both be in Iraq or Afghanistan. You're problem is solved and you even get paid military pay for solving it. Sounds like a win win to me.

Sue C

If it's honestly that bad & you really want to do something about it, you CAN get a restraining order out on her. She is harrassing you. You don't have to put up w/it or her either. You CAN do something about it & end it IF you really want to. You do have the law on your side. Just go to family court.

now what is he doing to her to egg this on maybe hes still seeing her behind your back more to this story

mel

get her high, then call the cops & she'll get arrested for P.I.

set a block on her.

sugar bear

Invite her in for a three0some! That might throw her off her rocker!!!

thank u man

find time to go to the gym with her where there is a boxing ring put on the gloves and talk while you beat her up.or ask her to sit down for coffe and ask her whats the problem between you and her.or did your boyfriend cheated on her with you.something might cause this to happen, cuz if the girl is the one to break it off this stuff wont be happening.

Mrs.Tricey

CALL 9-1-1!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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