What do I do with a cheating wife?

Msdeb gee

DO WHAT U WANT BUT ONCE A CHEATTER ALWAYS A CHEATTER

Barry D

Leave her,do forgive her,but leave her. There are plenty of honest women out there. Good luck.

â—ŠDiamond

one word: DIVORCE!

pastels c

leave

Debbie B

If you forgive her, be prepared to forgive her a second time cause she will cheat on you again.

Im just answering your question!

If you think you can continue to trust her and love each other enough to work through this then yes, give the marriage another chance. If you dont think you can get through it then end it now.

Patience

Leave her. If you stay with her, she will cheat again because you stayed and there were no consequences for her actions. By staying with her, your only allowing her to cheat again. As far as the child, both of you can have visitation rights.

You talk to a lawyer

me?

Forgive her, but if it happens again...divorce her!

Chessie

You need to find out if she wants to stay married to you. If she does, then you need couples counseling to find out why she cheated, and what you have to do as a couple so that it won't happen again. Also, you will need a lot of counseling to overcome your grief, anger and mistrust. You both have a lot of work to do, and I'm sorry this happened to you.

countryloving_boy

You have a few questions to ask yourself and some thinking to do. First is why, did u fight, u **** around on her, old boyfriend, what. And if u over heard her talking about it , was she bragging. There is so much here. I suggest u ask yourself first , do I really love this person? And does she love me? Look marriage is hard enough, before this. Love is spoken so much, I don't think most people really know what it means. If u really love her, then now u have to willing to do whatever itvtakes to make it work. Plus u have to maintain ur own self confidence. For if u seem like a wimp and will roll over for her. Then she is going to walk all over u. And now she has to be able to committ as well and love you trully to. This why u need to find out why? This will tell u why she did it? Then get help. Gobto church, seek god, if the both of u really want this u can make it. Remeber that it takes two.to do the tango, and it depends on the both of you. And u can't throw this in her face everytime something bad happens . You forgive and let go. A marriage is trust, friendship, commitment, honesty, communcation, loyalty, and love. U have to give it all.

Now if either of u has doubts or isn't sure , then don't prolong the ending. It's just going to get worse. Try to stay friends for ur kids. Now be careful of rebounding and what you think might feel right .

I was married for 20 yrs 4 kids and 2 grandkids. I'm still in love with her after being div for two yrs. Lost my job, my dreams , house, and kids. I know now I should have ended it long ago. But kept trying to work things out. We had a lot of good times and sum bad.

So look inside ur self and ask ur self what can u live with? And how do I love her and does she really love me?

Good luck and u can email me anytime at raybann5562@yahoo.com

albrightlesa

Well if she denied it she is not really looking for forgiveness she just got caught.I think having a child would make me reconsider more than just my feelings,Take her to counseling and find out if this marriage can be saved If not your child dose not need a mom who drags men in whenever get custody.WOW THE GUY ABOVE ME IS REALLY A WINDBAG

sophy322

Sorry to hear that.
It depends. Talk it out and see where her head it at. You may need to go to counseling.
If you feel that you can't see pass it or that she may do it again then you may have to start the divorce papers.
I'm sorry.

tanja3703

Depends on your frame of mind. If you think you can forgive her and never look back remembering the affair..Yes. However if you have a long memory and will not be able to forget the affair, it will come between you frequently. Trust is a dangerous emotion to lose.

Elle

if was a mistake and you think shes remorseful then try to work it out, if not, you may want to consider a separation.

KellyR

i never see divorce as an option unless cheating or abuse is involved. but if she only did it once and feels really bad and says she'll never do it again, you guys might be able to fix your marriage through counseling. i defiantly wouldnt stay in your marriage unless your both willing to do counseling. you'll never be able to forgive her for what she did, you'll ALWAYS have trust issues with her. and trust me not being able to trust your spouse is the worse feeling ever. your always wondering if they're lying or telling the truth. if they're gone your wondering where they are. my husband didnt cheat on me, but he had a horrible thing of lying in the beginning just to prevent fights. dont stay together just for your child. it will be worse on your child if they have to see you in a horrible relationship. they'll never get to see how a good marriage works. if you guys cant work it out and have a good relationship then you need to get a divorce.

susie12345

I don't ever condone cheating but have you been having problems in the relationship? Or, maybe she is just immature.

The problem is, if you leave and get a divorce, she can file for custody and you will pay child support for X amount of years. She could also alienate you from your child.

I would recommend trying to work it out. In the meantime, try to strengthen your relationship with your child. In the event it happens again and you do get divorced. It will give you stronger ties to the kid if she tries to alienate you from this child.

Makaila

Try marriage counseling, but you have to be prepared for the worst...if she can admit to it and you can come to terms with it and finally trust again then you can take the next step. If you can't let it go and she can't be faithful then it will never work. You should make every effort to stay together for your kids sake, but if your fighting all the time then thats not very good for the kid to see either.

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