What do I do with future stepmom?? HELP!!?

Ok so, my dad has been dating this woman for 3 years, the first year a friend of mine told me this woman was a golddigger, so i told my dad and he was like yes, poeple always say alot of things which are not true, and then he got mad, and not like a month ago, my mom told me, that this woman, is telling everybody that she will do anything to get married with my dad, and she will make sure, everything that he ownes (money,properties,etc) will be at her name, so when my dad dies she will get EVERYTHING (that belong to me!!!!, because i'm his daughter, and everything all his effort during years are for me, not for a woman that walked by for 3 years, all life effort my dad made) at her name, so she will have it and give it to her 3 sons, and she said that I would get whatever!, i mean, what should I doo!!!, that woman like brainwashed my dad, and when I talk to my dad about this he gets mad, he says I have to like her, that he is going to marry her!!!,, but I don't like that, since she just wants him for his money!! she is using him, and he can't see it!! he is blinded!!! what can I do?' what should I do???!!!

Im very sad!!!

okay first, this woman is married,,, but his husband in coma!, secondly everybody knows she is a golddigger, since she has always been poor.

i already talk to my dad about his will, and he told me everything was at my name, but if he dies, this woman is in charge, but nothing is hers. but im afraid that when they get married, things change!!..

i mean that's all i will have about my dad, and i don't think its fair a **** like this comes, and takes away what my dad made for his family!!

and yes well. i tried the "actions speak louder than words" and I ended with psychologist, and psychiatrist.. and nothing changed

MissE

Firstly everything is his, for him and his to do with as he sees fit. Just because you happen to be his daughter does not make you entitled to the fruits of his hard work. He can do with it as HE likes.
So come off your spoiled bratt high horse and be sensible.

secondly you are completely right for being upset that he is being taken for a ride. But you should be because it will hurt him, not because of your own interests. By the attitude you are taking you are pushing him further into her arms and away from you. You catch more flies with honey than vinegar and you seem to have a lot of vinegar in the jar at present. Not saying roll over and play dead, but be nice to her so nice that she lets her guards down and collect evidence that way. Will work much better

bere

are you just concerned about the money?
if i was you i would be concerned about this woman trying to win over your dad completely to the point where She is more important than you!

if you really think she is a gold digger & all that then make her life miserable!
but it could just be rumors who knows!!
just drive her crazy so she can leave!

craft painter

Okay. Tell your Dad if he is so sure about this woman that he really should protect him self anyway. He should draw up a prenuptial agreement with this woman before they marry and this way he can be sure you are protected in your future. They usually state in these agreements that anything either one of them had before going into the marriage will be given back to them in case of a divorce.
If this woman really loves him then she will sign it and if she does not then she is wanting what she can get from him. He also should find a way of protecting you by buying bonds in your name or something. Any of these things she cannot get her hands on.
My father made several bonds out in my name and his only.
Also tell your father that since she has children of her own that she is naturally going to want to give them all she can and that does not seem fair to you. I hope I have helped some. If this woman does marry him though you will have to try to get along with her because it will only make a rift between you and your dad. He is in lust right now dear and only thinking of her. Sorry..

Ani Del Franco

I do understand what you are feeling. You did what you have to do - warn your dad about the woman. Your Dad do know what he is doing and if you love your Dad, then let him do what he wants to do and be happy for him.

Your mom and dad are divorced already and both have a right to be happy. and I do believe that your Dad already gave your "family's" part of money or property in the process of their divorced and you are not a family anymore. why don't you ask your mom about it? Iit is up to your Dad with whom he would like to give it ---lto your stepmother or give a part to you. I think it is wrong to say that it belongs to you, it blelongs to your Dad and it is only your Dad have the right to give any of his money to whom he pleases.

One question --- are you really that concern about your DAD or very much concern on your DAD's assets???
just asking.

Arranged Love= Archering in Dark

Your dad is dating a criminal. I don't think that lady will do any good to you or your dad. Tell him that and ask him to grow up now.

Ok so you have two accounts on yahoo.

<Karmeen>

You did talk to your Dad about his will an he said everything was in your name, you are his daughter.. Even if she maybe in charge when he does pass away I don't think you have to worry.

LovingLife

There are always rumors about the new man/woman in the lives of the ones we love. The only way to prove this is to get the people that she told this too, and bring them to him, with her there.

With it coming from people that are close to him, and those that call themselves friends, there will always be doubt, So to be fair, and not hearsay, you need ot have an intervention with the people that heard it..

little owl

I know how you feel - in my case it was my stepfather but the problem is the same. I never hated anyone in my whole life as much as him.
There is not much you can do about it because he has set his mind on it. He wont listen to you when you beg him not to it will only make him more determined. If you are calm and controlled it may make him think again but NOT if you have tears and tantrums
Look - dont criticise her (no need to praise either!) the talk could be just gossip. Try very hard to control your temper and because I learnt that it doesnt help one little bit but makes a horrible situation worse. Eventually he may find out the truth about her( if what the gossips are saying is true.)
If not you will miss out - you dont have the power in this situation - she has - so dont make her hate you . He may not marry her at all (hopefully) Play it cool if you argue with her and rubbish her your dad may side with her against you - this happened to me. So be wise dont let this happen When you are old enough you can leave home and let them get on with it - dont do your head in over this. I really feel for you - good luck - keep your spirits up as best you can dont give in to despair.x

Nale

What if there wasn't so much money being left to you? You seem really concerned about the money. Unless your going to be cut off as soon as they get married then take it easy.

Sweet is much better than sour and thats all your showing your dad from what you wrote. Try spending some time with him so that he understands where you are coming from when you question the wicked stepmother.

If your really that concerned for daddy, you want to resolve your issues with the wife to be so you can be closer to the two of them so you can see what she is up to. (If anything)

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