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MYRA C
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This is not morally wrong. Hiding & sneaking is silly and don't think for a minute 'mama' is stupid, she may not say anything but she probably knows. If anyone else knows then you can be absolutely sure she knows. People just love to gossip especially in places where they think it will hurt. Let's see you have been divorced for 29 years + let's say you were only married 1 year + let's say you were 18 when you did get married, that would make you at least 48 years old, you say in your 50's. That puts Mama I would guess at least 70.
Go for it, tell her up front both of you, give everyone something to gossip about for a week to 10 days. I'll give you the same advice I gave my youngest son in your position......You have only one life to live, enjoy all that you can. |
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Reagan
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There's nothing wrong here. After 29 years, you being married to his brother should no longer be an issue; you've both moved on. |
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quisp007
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It's not good to date a best friend or family member of an ex. It's an unwritten rule and a very good one.
You're being used and you can't figure it out. If he was proud of you he would want his family to know. He's hiding you for a reason.
Once the jig is up and you're found out, the fun and relationship will be over. Find someone outside the family and ex-family to date. It's unhealthy to be doing what you're doing. |
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jenny strawberry
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lol this is cute. live it up girl dont worry about mama |
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bill b
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Does anyone really care that you're together? |
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Lela A
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time to grow up |
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mybudnoobs
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Nothing wrong with that. I know it may be scary telling mom, but shell either be happy or not,. You got to go for yourself. Did you still get along with her after your divorce? That will help how you marriage ended, if their was no hard feelings. If so she will have to understand time goes on and things change. I would tell her before someone else dose.Good Luck. |
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recycler562
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Was he the cause of your divorce? If not, & if neither of you are married, then there is nothing wrong with what the two of you are doing other than sneaking around. |
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reinformer
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Time is catching up with all of you. Go for it whole hog. |
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alicat
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cmon now you must be joking...grow up already..or maybe the sneaking around is more enjoyable..have you ever considered that drama? |
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Erin
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Nothing wrong with that at all. You are divorced and have had plenty of time for self discovery. I'm sure you know what you want by now, go for it. |
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kapt_skyy
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There's an old saying " Never let your right hand know what your left hand is doing ". Somethings you just take to your grave with you. Do you like drama? Are you jealous and want to break them up so he can be with just you? Since you evidently need to hear someone tell you," Wake Up, You're Dreaming..........." And yes you are and were wrong. But it hasn't mattered before now sooooooooo.. Rock the boat !! |
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nightwing7011
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Not sure of exactly what your concerns are here but I think it's that you are sneaking around with your ex's brother? You haven't been together with the ex's for over twenty years, so I'm guessing you have had other relationship since then. So why not make it public knowledge that you and the ex's brother are seeing each other. Unless you like all the hush hush keep it quiet stuff you two are doing. I don't think morality really plays into anything here, other than are you being true to yourself? Re-post if I have this wrong and I'll come back and re-evaluate. |
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wickmo25
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I say date him....that will make for a fun and exciting Thanksgiving/Christmas next year.
At least you have morals...you're not dating you brother!!!
The dating pool must be pretty shallow in your neck of the woods. |
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Jai
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No that's fine enjoy yourself. |
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emily b
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its whatever you want. if you have too much guilt, then you should tell. if not, just have fun and enjoy yourself. |
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Bezza
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You have been divorced for 29yrs. You are in your 50s. Stop betraying your self, stop beeign ashamed of your rightful actions. Sneaking and hiding just eats you up. Head over heels at your age is a fantastic tumble share it with the world |
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Harley Lady
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His Mama ought to be glad her 50s year old son has found happiness, especially if you have remained on good terms with her.You have been divorced for almost 30 years. Your time has finally come. Embrace it and get Mama's blessing! There is nothing morally wrong.Quit sneaking around like a couple of kids.Good Luck! |
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SFC V
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I think, you are aware of your right to be happy. I think what really matters is that you not worry about what others think, and at any age----Is he the one, is he worth all you have, all you want, all you need,---then Mom already knows. It will feel strange, but she wants you to be happy. |
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Camille C
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i think it's great that the 2 of you have found happiness together! come clean about it to those you love, but don't let anybody come between you 2 love-birds.. |
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InMyOpinion
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it's your life, why waste it worrying about others judging you? And if "Mama" really cares about you and her son, she'd want both of you to be happy. I would see it as morally wrong if you left your husband for his brother, but 28 years later... nothing wrong with that. |
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Stephanie73
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If this relationship is something that could be serious, you need to come clean and tell the mom. It's been a long time since you were divorced, so it's not like anyone will think you left your ex for his brother. If you guys are happy, that's what counts. Even if his mom doesn't understand at first, she should come around when she sees you guys are happy.
If, on the other hand, this is just a fling, keep it to yourselves. There's no need to cause all sorts of drama for something that's not meant to last. |
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carpetbagger
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Keep it to yourselves, it's best for the rest of us (ha).
Are there any kids??
You are old enough to know what you want if not now then when? Don't worry, the burden should be on his part,after all he is the brother, right. That's what I think. Good luck. (there are about 50 million men besides him, but you have to pick him, here's looking at you, kid. ) Have a happy new year (resolution) By the way, I'm 53. |
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Aaron D
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no the heart wants what the heart wants |
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rdjlb51300@sbcglobal.net
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yes you should you are adults after all and you both deserve to be happy after all you are in your 50s and since you and mom are close i am sure she will be happy to. |
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Andy C
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Is your brother in law married you don't say and if so shame on you if not then go for it just because you divorced his brother doesn't mean you should live a life of Chasity |
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Be Still and know He's God
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If he isn't married then it sounds cute to me :O) |
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annie78
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You've been divorced for 29 years? There is nothing wrong! |
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Tracy M
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If you have been divorced from his brother for 29 years then just go for it. Life is too short to worry about what people will say. Grab onto this chance for happiness...doesn't happen that often in our 50's!! |
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