What do think of men who make enough to provide for their house but still want their wife to work and then ?

Duniche

being the heard of the house doesn't make him to a king so he can call himself whatever he wants. I think it is good for a woman to work no matter what , work make you independent and even if come home after work clean and cook you are not just a "housewife" . your are the queen of the house and can kick out your king from your house anytime you want.

Mike T

Some men fear being the sole provider. What if they lose their job? What about medical insurance? Having two people with access can be helpful.

Head of the house is the one who is most decisive. Not necessarily the one who makes the money. Many women run their households and don't work outside the home.

RICHARD

I think it is each couples job to decide.

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BikerChick

I cannot say I can blame him for wanting to have his cake and eat it too.....BUT, I think a WOMAN who goes along with that plan is a total fool. There is this little tiny word that works really well when you use it and do not back down - - it is called "NO". Go ahead and work, cook ONLY for you and the kids (if you have them), clean up ONLY after yourself, assign chores to the kids or just do not do the things you do not feel like doing, and ONLY pay the bills YOU make. Let him whine and complain - then say "hire a housekeeper, because I am not doing it and work full time - period. YOU make that decision." Stand your ground and watch what happens. If he leaves, then you do not have to be his maid anymore.

Gooroo Foo

Modern times - doesn't matter if it's a man/woman, woman/man, man/man, or woman/woman:

If a person is okay with their spouse not working, then the spouse should do most of the household chores to make up for it.

If both spouses work, then they should split the household chores equally.

If one spouse is the only one in the household that provides income for the household then they should be head of the household.

If both spouses work, then the person who makes the most claims head of the household.

Taz A

the thing is we are no longer in the 60's and men need to except the fact that women and men are equals. if they are married the work load of the house should be shared equaly. if they are both working then they both run the house and have a shared decision on what goes on in the house.

guineapig

The whole things sounds kind of silly and old fashioned. I think a woman would want to work for her own sanity and so she isn't dependent on some guy. If she's working, the guy should absolutely pitch in around the house. Head of the household? Unless that is on your taxes and it's a question of who earns more, that is just silly.

Lynda

You need to negotiate that kind of stuff. That's what a marriage is all about. Both parties need to grow and learn and share the responsibility of making a nice home.

For years while the 3 children were young, I was a housewife. Then when they got a little older no longer needing childcare, the employment market changed. My husband's job was in jeopardy and I returned to work. Before that time, I heard about older widows with insufficient income for their old age living in poverty. That was always a worry in back of my mind. So actually I am glad I returned to work when I did. I worked another 18 years, earned my own retirement. You can split the chores. That is what we did based on interests. That doesn't mean the other partner shouldn't share the chore, though. For instance, my husband shops and cooks - but he loves it. I keep my hand in the kitchen and cook and bake when I feel like it, too. Unfortunately, he doesn't like cleaning or maintaining the house and yard. So that leaves me to do it, but I enjoy yard work.Whenever I pull out the vacuum sweeper, I ask him to help me and do some of the rooms, move rugs or furniture. He carries the laundry down and does it and also takes garbage out.

Go Girl!

vw2kbug

I don't see anything wrong with a women working (as I don't depend on anyone), but you have to split the responsibilities at home. A women shouldn't be obligated to do it all. Pffflease!

TruckersWife

If you're both working outside the home, then you both should share in the household duties. If you can't discuss this, come to a happy medium together, then you shouldn't be married.

Also, head of household is just a term on tax papers. Let him have it, but tell him you wear the pants in the family. LOL

Jenna J

This is my life my husband works and makes enough for me to sty home but i choose not to. I would go crazy. As far as me coming home and cleaning and all that crap. I sit behind a desk all day long and answer yahoo questions i have no problem attending to my duties at home an he is the head of household but i am the neck and with out me he does not move. =)

Michael Q

This is a western country in the 21st century. Everything should be equal in households.

skeeter

I think men should have to do the cleaning, they usually dirty it. I also think if they don't ,you shouldn't cook because most of the time the woman is the best cook Let him figure it out. I am the queen of this castle.!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!1111

girlypearl

I'd say that they should be equal heads of the house, no one, man, or woman should have to do everything. My man and I split up chores, and because he is the main "bread winner" at this moment in time (until i graduate from college) I try to do a little more around the house to pick up from my lack of money. Try different ways to even the field, I mean its not 1950 anymore!!

PrettyBoi

You have a right to your opinions. I just don't want to hear them.

Joe

Lot's would say he is not the best person, but the woman who accept this person as a partner has also a problem

pineapple_the_great

I'm only in 8th grade so I don't know much about this stuff, but I think a husband and a wife should split up the job. You both can work but one day he can cook the food and the other you can cook it. You both can clean the house anytime. The man should definitly not say he is the head of the house if he doesn't do any work! You both are the head of the house and you should split the job so no one will be piled with wokr to do after they come back from work.

RichSD

you should both work, cook and clean.

CypKitty

Head of the house?

Man, I'm the head of my house lol just kidding, what I mean is, we both work and we share housejobs. I'm on a rotating roster so if I work late, he does the cooking - that's called love

Nate

If a man makes enough to support the household and still wants the wife to work I think that's fine. Maybe he wants more than to just provide for the family, and would like some luxuries, or to save up. As for the cleaning and cooking, that should be split as both work. Unless he does something physically exhausting like construction all day and is beat by the time he gets home. But even then he should still pitch in.

ronnny

Find what works in your house and make sure the deal is equal in some way. If she has to work then he needs to help with other. Who does what is different from one home to another. find what works if he does not want to do his share then need to talk about other options.

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cici k

The man has to realize that he HAS to pay the cost to be the boss! If I am working my tail off and then coming home cooking and cleaning...then this house is my domain! (Which I was doing for 4 yrs.) So I know how you feel.

Nebraska Born and Raised

That's a bunch of balogny. I'm a housewife and my husband works 4 12 hour shifts a week, but is still willing to do a load of laundry or vacuum (without me even asking) when he's actually home. Of course he spends the rest of the time in front of the tv watching football, but oh well ;-)

Zeena

The chores should be split up.

ellioT

I would probably call this unfair division of labour, since the man is expecting the woman to do all the 'traditional' roles of a woman and to be a 'breadwinner', unless the man is doing his fair share in housework.

The 'head of household' is the person who makes most (if not all) of the important decisions regarding the family and the home. If this decision making is joint, then there is not really a head of house hold.

Lana K

you forgot: plus take care of the kids and go grocery shopping....
among other things

Lou

It depends on how many hours the woman works if she is working full time there is nothing wrong with him helping around the house.
Maybe she shpuld quit work and stay home and do the cooking and do all the cleaning. If she doesn't want to then they should pay for someone to do these things.
Life is about choices and if you either him or her work full time you have less time to clean etc.

:: HunnieBun ::

There are times when both the man and woman of the house work, yes it is common if the man of the house has a job that makes very good money and can pay the bills and all that to want to the wife to work. You have to look at the big picture. Do you have children? There are so many different reasons. Mainly because he wants to make sure everyone is provided for. Some men think that all woman is to do is cook and clean and then there are some that feel, well i go to work every day and make the money to pay the bills the house note, car note, and then don't want you to spend the hard earned money and want you to get a job to get what you want with quote your own money. But a lot of times its just to know that you both have employment and if something ever happens to either one of you that you cannot work you will have money saved. It is just a money in the long run thing if you ask me.

Jesse C

no, I think both should work at home, none of both should work more than he other at home... if he doesn't want to cook he should clean something... 50/50

corey4515

i think it is ok for wives to work too,even though the husband makes enough money to maintain the home.her monies might mean hard time monies or (the saying we use to use, mad monies),cooking and cleaning they both should lend a helping hand. depending on the age of the children (if any)they should pitch in too.head of house hold is only a title.it don't mean diddly

hilz23

I think it's different for every couple, but i try and be equal with the house work, you shouldn't have to do everything yourself.

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