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What do women mean when they say "I love you but I'm not in love with you"?
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What do women mean when they say "I love you but I'm not in love with you"?

Is that just their way of trying to be nice and not hurt us more when they know that WE are in love, but they are going their separate way?
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By the way, this is my wife telling me this after 25 years together.


    




Strapper
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it means she isn't romantically interested but still loves you like a friend. sorry bro.


Mario E
The phrase itself means that they like you as a person.

They think you are nice, decent, they don't want to hurt you, and they are trying to softball a "break-up" as comfortably as possible.

They will pretty much go their separate way. So yes. You're right.

Women say it. Men say it. Keep in mind that if they are saying this, you should probably let it go.

Probably not right for you.

My advice: learn from it.


B!tch
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it means they love u as aperson. but they dont see u as a lover


nikkisimmons72
It means that your not romancing her stone sweetie


Nik
She just don't love you dude. She thinks of you like a brother.


mariel
she wishes you would go away so she could find happiness either by herself or with someone else.


Proud Stepford Wife
She has lost the excitement. I get that way every so often but my husband always brings me back by doing something unexpected. Do something unexpected for your for your wife. Make her feel like you two are dating again. The spark will come back it just needs a light.


Peewee
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Unfortunately it means I do not love you,anymore


Molly B
It's a contradiction. Loving someone is an action. In love is a state of mind. She is making excuses and trying to blame an unromantic husband for her selfish behavior.My husband very rarely buys me gifts, frequently forgets holidays, but always has my love. I am truly sorry for your situation. God Bless


trouble_sum81
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It means just what is says... That they love you like they love their dog, or favorite cereal. But they are not in love with you, as in you are not the one.


Very confused
i think it means they care for you, but don't feel a connection. I could be totally wrong though, because I don't know much about girls or relationships.


Dfreeman
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Exactly


cindra
I hate that saying and it reflects stupidity, ignorance about what love really is. What it means is that your wife is shallow. After 25 years, she's no longer feeling "sparks" or "passion" that she believes signifies "true love". She's an idiot, sorry to say. I think you should give in to her desires and divorce her azz and then go out with a 20 year old.


MJ247
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kinda yeah. but it could also mean that you have fallen into the dreaded "friend zone". And she loves you as a friend but not a boyfriend.


aew2004
When someone says 'I love you' it means that they care about as they would a brother or sister or a good friend. When someone says "I am in love with you' it means that they are in love with you and would like to spend their life with you in an intimate and personal relationship.


luva_gal_18
wow that is a long time
buy her roses and take her somewhere quiet
if i was with one person for 25 yrs of course i would love them and care for them in a very special way but i am sure the infatuation would be gone...maybe that is what she means


Bob T
not all women want easy listing fruits. put on some metallica and make that thing fart


rightnow
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both men and women use that when they need a cop out excuse it really has no meaning


Chaye
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It basically means what it says. The love you have for your mom, dog, favorite movie or vacation spot is a different kind of love. Being in love means you care more about somebody so much that you want to be their other half, their everything, their life.


J229
It means that they love and care about you as a person and a friend, but they're not all googly-eyed, head-over-heels in love with you.


Tiare
that is a very old saying, yes iy'd a nice way to let you know they are not really into you any more, ready to move on to someone else with some passion and dont hate you but since you have a past together they still think of you fondly.


myst770
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No I think that is sometimes that honest feelings that a woman may have. Think of it in terms of your best friend. Do you love them.... absolutely. You would not be a very good friend if you didn't. But you certainly are not in love with your best friend. There is something about truly being in love that is just different somehow. Sometimes love just isn't enough.


sshazzam
That acually means that they deeply care about you but they are lacking the excitement that they had when you first started dating.


CindyLu
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You got it. It means she likes you a LOT but as a good friend or a brother. She does not love you in a romantic way, and she is not going to sleep with you.


misslady
Yes they are trying to be nice. It means that they really dont see potential as far as long term lasting relationship is concerned with you.


DEEVAH
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I can say I love my mom, my dogs, my brother, but that does not mean I am in love with them. love is to care for deeply, to be "in love" is to feel head over heels for a person, to know deep in your heart you truly love that person, you can see yourself being w/ this person forever (at that moment) to think of that person constantly, the last person you talk to before you sleep, etc she just doesn't have that deep passion for you she jus loves you point blank I know that must hurt if you feel differently about her sorry. And no not all that time does it mean that we are trying to be nice and go our seperate ways maybe you asked her if she loved you or something? Maybe it could be to soon maybe gradually you all will fall in love it does not always mean that, but try talking to the women about it and see where her head is at on the situation it could just be to soon or she's just not feeling you.


azukibean
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They love you as a person, but not whom she wants to marry... kind of like a brother sister feeling kind of thing :P





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