What do you do if your wife is not hot as she used to be?

Jenny

get over it. For better or for worse, right??? Well.... God doesn't care your excuse, marriage is forever. You are bonded and you need to try and work it out. Take some time off together, in a stress-free zone. No kids, no work, no phones. Try, and she will too. When you're 80 with saggy balls, I bet you will be offended if she wonders the same about you...??!!?!

RaineeBug

well if you love her it doesn't matter. are you the same "hotness" as when you got together? doubt it.

maggie

did you marry her because she's hot or becAUSE YOU LOVE HER?grow up....i bet you're not as hot either

kim h

Are you as hot as you used to be? She should be hot to you no matter what. We all age and we change.

Ken1912

Look in the mirror and think "What am I doing wrong?" or perhaps "What am I doing differently that is not turning her on". From your profile you appear to think a lot of yourself and perhaps this has become a little boring to your chosen woman? Best of luck in the future.

VoiceofCommonSense

She probably feels the same about you, but tolerates it. So wise up, and stop the pettiness, or she'll leave you and collect a ton of alimony.

glamorousvivica

You look in the mirror and hold a picture up of how YOU use to be. If you are not as hot now as you were back then, then you ask your wife to please go out and have an affair because you are no longer worthy.

Loser.

imonetoremember

You divorce because that means you married a wrapper and that will never last. If you married for love you wouldn't be asking this question cause it wouldn't matter as long as you were together.

life.

Get another one.

Silenceâ„¢

Maybe you should buy her something that she can wear that reminds you of when you first met. Treat her to a spa, get her hair and nails done. Throw some perfume in just for some extra points.

Veronica S

Absolutley! That is what I did when my hubby stopped being as firm as he used to be. A girl has needs after all!

Memail

it's time to ask yourself if you r still as nice to her as before. Be kind...

JDL

If you really love someone then you will not mind a little change, after all we age and go through spells of weight gain and weight loss, we have our ups and downs, but over all we are the same person that you fell in love with to begin with. Perhaps a little self examination and you will see how you might not be the same "hottie" that you used to be. If you were in a serious accident that left you scarred and disfigured you would want your spouse to still love you right, because you do love them for more than their looks right? If you say no to this then perhaps you should re-evaluate your relationship and what it really means to you.

j92cool

You sound like my ex. He had this strange idea that because he was still slim that he was way hotter than me. So what I put on a few kilos after the kids. He thought he looked years younger than me and spent a fortune on dying his hair etc etc. We are not together anymore and now I want to loose weight for me. The more he picked on me the more I thought stuff you and did nothing. I was only classed as overweight not obese. Give your wife a makeover for her birthday or something. If a woman is caring for a family they often put their needs last. Show some interest in her as a person and you will be surprised what a difference it can make. A happy healthy wife will exude beauty.

seamist

Let me tell you a little story:

In 2002 I found my husband with another woman. Though he'd spent months denying it, I knew what was going on, I just needed proof. Well, when I found them together, that was the end of that. On my way home to pack, I stopped off at an attorneys office and filed for divorce. Well, the female he was having the affair with was also married. Her husband found out and threw her out. Her and my ex started living together, thought they couldn't get enough of each other, up until then. You see, once they started living together, he found out he couldn't stand her. So he threw her out. She in turn sued him for money he owed her that she had loaned to him to pay for his divorce attorney. So, the moral of the story?? The grass is not always greener on the other side. And in case you are wondering, I was in excellent shape. So much so, that when I met my new husband 6 years ago, he thought I was close to his age, 38. He was very shocked to later find out I was 47 with 3 grown adult kids. Now we both have a few medical issues but we would not dream of wondering. Looks are superficial. They die and all we have left in the end are our personalities, self respect and dignity. I want to be able to look at myself in the mirror in the mornings, as does my husband, what about you?? Could you really look into her eyes and know that you betrayed her and your marriage vows?? And remember this, one day your looks will be gone, then what?? Is this the way you would want to be treated by your partner?? I'm a firm believer in "what goes around, comes around". What if she were in a car accident and in a wheel chair?? Would you leave her?? What is your marriage based upon??

Shannon

Physical attraction is important.
If she 'lets herself go' it can really get to you; starts affecting your desire for her; in turn lowers your drive to pay attention to her; etc... very downhill run.

Part of the problem is that stigma of shallowness it has which makes it hard for you to bring up without feeling like an ***.

Give her positive encouragement only. Think carefully about what you will say. Be willing to make yourself change in ways she would like.

Vickie May

Take a look in the mirror, chances are you aren't as hot as you used to be either. Did you marry her because you loved her , or for her looks? yes , maybe it was a bit of both, but if she is good to you & faithful, you should be the same if you still love her. If not don't cheat, just get out of it & do your thing, don't use her while your out having a marital affair, that is unfair to her.*

divorce her or deal with it don't cheat karma its a b****

Ginny

Give her teeeny hints to help her shape up. :] Be nice though!!!

tweety

Ask yourself did you marry her for her looks or for the person she ?

trouble

look at my xwife and you will think your with mrs america!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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