What do you do when you are in love with a married man and you are dating each other?

nwnativeprincess

Carve" I'm a homewrecker" on your forehead.
What low self esteem you must have.

redpeach_mi

nothing. there is nothing you can do. he's already married and if he really wanted to be with you he would have left her for you by now. move on and find your own man.

bakerchris

realize that either you are his wife, or his wh*re

prissytwin

Don't you want a man of your own? Your "boyfriend's" taken already. It's not nice to disrespect his wife like that. And what kind of man is this anyway?? One that you KNOW will cheat! be very careful with your feelings.

Magaroni

You aren't dating. Married people don't "date" anyone other than their spouse. You are screwing each other, and when he gets done doing it to you literally, he's probably going to do it to you figuratively. I'm not saying he's a bad guy, I'm just saying that this is how affairs work. The married person (man or woman) almost NEVER leaves the spouse, and the other man or woman ends up feeling burned.

Walk away. Find a hobby that doesn't involve married men.

Disco Stu

Slap yourself and realize you are being used.

R.Stafford

YOU ARE AN IDIOT.

joe

You end it because you are not comfortable knowing that you are an adulterer and will contribute to the destruction of a family.

Rein

I don't do that. So I don't know. I would probably have myself committed if I ever dated a married man or cheated on my husband. This behavior is just wrong....so wrong I don't even know where to begin.

Modern Man

You already did it. You are in love with a man that is committed to another woman. Realize you can not be happy and you probably know because it seems that you are struggling right now but can't stop. The best thing to do now is to move away, cry, and start all over. Even if he went with you, you will always wonder if some other woman is going to do the same thing to you. Good luck

Friendly

Why would you date a married man? That is awful. Just realize that you made a mistake and move on-forget about it. He's an as*hole and so are you! The only thing you can do to get your mind off it is occupy your time. Stay busy and have fun with an UNmarried man.

redessa

YOU DON'T DATE MARRIED MEN! You get over being "in love" and stop being a homewrecker. If he wants to leave his wife, then you can date him AFTER he's divorced. But why would you want to be with someone who can't commit to you? Don't you deserve better? Doesn't his wife deserve better? I just don't understand why women do this kind of thing to each other.

kitten

Think of his wife and the hurt you are causing!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Laura

What the first one said. Get the book, "He's just not that into you." There's a section about married men. Basically, you have to decide that you're worth more than being someone's mistress. If he's so unhappy with his wife, let him get a divorce.

whackiejackies

Well, think about the lives you are affecting. Think about if he has any children? You are the homewrecker. Another thing, say if he does leave his wife for you. Then now what? If he could do it to her then he could eventually do it to you as well.

Roxanne G

do some soul searching and find out why you are seeking out an unattainable relationship and then dump him it's wrong and no good will ever come out of it.

New Nana

Know in your heart you are only a F###. Probably at lunch. He will treat you exactly the same. Just hang on.

Xena77

Walk away! It may be difficult if you all ready have feelings for him. It will tear you apart later when you fall for him.
Just remember to always lookout for you, after that lookout for you and then make sure you lookout for you.
When your #1 person can't make you his #1 person it will only bring heartbreak.

If you're all ready questioning it...it's probably because your instincts are all ready trying to tell you something... they're usually right.

karMA_DAME

why are you dating a married man. 1 he is not going to leave his wife for you, because he already knows that you are a sl.ut

2 you are a pon, he is just using you to get what he wants. i am willing to bet you are buying him all kinds of gifts and he has barely bought you thing to even equal the amount that you spent on him.

3. you have know no respect for yourself. what if you were in his her shoes how would you feel (Karma is a ******, if you didn't know)

4. you might say, if she was doing her job as a wife, then he would not turn to you. if you were doing a better job than her, then why hasn't he left her to be with you.

if is different if you didn't know about his marital status, then i could have sympathy for you, but the fact you know makes you a low life. find your own man and i hope he cheats on you.

Dan M

If children are involved. STOP!

If not and you don't believe in Mortal sins or are not affected by religious beliefs. Do whatever you want?

You should always consult the big guy upstairs, though.

rie

The mistake was the day you found out he was married & you continued to see him.You are taking the time away from his legal family that he has a commitment with.This is the man you're in love with???You sound like you think you have a problem,but you & this guy deserve each other.He's a cheat & your the 'other woman"..Sounds like you got what you signed up for....LOL

~NIKKI~

There is nothing that you can do and you put yourself in this situation by starting to date him knowing he is married..when you date a married man you are giving him all of the control. HE decides when to see you, HE decides if he wants to stay with you and HE decides if he will stay with his wife. You have no control over anything, so get used to being on a string, when you mess with married men you should know that the ball will always be in his court. You will always be his little slave girl to come when he calls , leave when he says, call when he says, and do as he pleases and never get anything out of it. Except heartache.

So what do you do? You realize your place in his life and stay there until HE decides your worthiness

Good luck with that by the way
what a waste

John M

decide if you can live with a man who leaves his wife for another woman. If you can, ask yourself if you can live with yourself having been part of breaking up a marriage. If you can, give him an ultimatum, its either her or you. and stick to your guns. Being the other woman is a terrible life compated to what you will find when you get over this man. And you will get over him if when he finally has to choose he decides to stay with his wife.

Think hard about this for three days, consider his children if he has any, and then do what your heart tells you is the right thing to do. But do something. Do not let this continue more than three more days.

Tina L

i am going through this right now as we speak. my husband left me filed for divirce and i found out hes been with this girl that works for him in his office. he is 6 yrs older then her and we have 3 kids under 5. i confronted her about it she admitted it and i told her she was a homewrecker and that she should go find someone else and stay away from my husband. i know we can work out our problems if she wasnt involved but she is making it harder because hes so sure he isnt coming back. i hope she loses her job because of it and everyone knows in the company. you think you are in love but tis not love trust me. its called an "emotional affair" you guys are just a sympathetic ear for each other and you should be the bigger person and call it quits especially if there are kids involved. my kids are so hurt that daddy isnt here and it breaks my heart terribly. do your self a favor and find a guy who isnt married so your not to blame for it all. because you will be and the fingers will be pointed at you every time.....

Marbts

You should stop seeing him. Because HE IS MARRIED!. And how can you be content knowing that he doesn't go home to you every night. Or that he has a family out there. and who knows you may not be the only one he is "dating" . And even if he does leave her in the future, he will always go back because to his wife. Because they have a past together and continue to have a future obviously. So don't continue to this relationship because in the end he will always go back. And might end up hurting you in the end once his wife finds out .

I'm just me

It just never works. He will never leave his wife. As much as he says he might love you (and indeed he very well might), he will never leave his wife. they never do. You're far better off breaking it off now and mending your broken heart, because it will only get worse the deeper in you get into this. YOu will always and ONLY be the other woman. She and their life together will always come first. You will never be able to have the kind of relationship with him that you want and deserve.

Nandina (Bunny Slipper Goddess)

You realize that actions speak louder than words, and if he isn't divorcing his wife for you it means that he doesn't love you - you're just the convenient piece on the side.

Dump him and find someone who's actually available.

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