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Donald J
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Wow. Since the first month? Has this been with the same person all of these years? This would make a difference in how I'd suggest you handle things.
How did you find out? Did he come out or did you discover it in some way?
An essential question is how do you feel about him? Without knowledge of the cheating, how has your relationship been? Many men who cheat do so because they are feeling disconnected from their wives for one reason or another. If it has been going on this long, it is not just a passing distraction. There are some fundamental factors going on here.
If he has been an attentive spouse all these years, I can see how you might not want to throw it all away. There are options people find to recover from such a discovery. I'll keep an eye to see if you update your information (or you can send me an email).
Good luck, whatever you decide to do. |
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i know it all!
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divorce the piece of sh*t. He won't change. Once a cheater.......... always a cheater! |
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Brittany P
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leave him and go get an std test |
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CeciliaM
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I divorced him. Cheaters don't change. |
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rockyfella25
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Try to take him for everything you can and get a divorce |
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nakedman_3333
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If it started that soon he is an a s s h o l e.Divorce. |
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Pam H
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Kick his a** out and get a good attorney. I would be so hurt and angry I don't think I could speak to him. |
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IJToomer
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Dump his sorry butt and go file for divorce. |
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Meg
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Get a divorce. He obviously doesn't care for you and you should move on with your life. |
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mercinineteen
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I caught my wife cheating. It was horrible. We went through a nasty divorce. We had been together ten years and two kids.
Several years after the divorce I can't believe how much happier I am without her. |
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ndnqt1966
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Cheating for 9 years? I would divorce his cheating miserable azz....Couldn't keep it in his pants long huh? |
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Mrs.Lopez~has 2 wants 3
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I am so so sorry to hear that. I know that this is not going to sound good and is not going to be easy expecially if there are children involved. But you need to leave him. If he has been cheating on your for 9 years then he is never going to stop. You need to get out now with your head held high and take him for all that he is worth!!! |
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lonewolf
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tonya d, Take the money and run !!! |
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.::>>JASMiiNE<<::.
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I WOULD GET SOMEBODY TO WHOP HIS A** THEN I WOULD TEAR UP ALL HIS STUFF LIGHT IT ALL ON FIRE, BREAK HIS CAR WINDOWS N SO ON THEN I WOULD LEAVE HIM |
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i d
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wow, you should have done something about it 8 years and 11 months ago. if he is still doing it, then why are you still subjecting yourself to the pain that goes with it? you deserve to be HAPPY and be with someone you can TRUST! |
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DG
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First - get confirmation.
Second - seek professional guidance (counselor, attorney)
Third - seek family support
Fourth - take care of yourself before you make a decision
This decision should be final so make sure you'll not regret it later. |
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Lv Dr. 4U
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Seek therapy and counseling to see if you can work through this and if not divorce court may be your only option. |
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♡♡ Eliana ♡♡♡
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Wow. He's been cheating on you for nine years with no feelings of guilt. There's no hope for this marriage. Like the first guy said, "Divorce the piece of $hit!" |
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makeloans2
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I would kick him out of the house, change the locks and see a dovorce lawyer. He's been cheating a long time, and just tell him to go live with the other woman. |
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Lady M&M
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Thats a long time to be cheating on someone you love. Maybe if it just started i would say its up to you maybe give it a chance but for 8 years i would have to say let it go. if he could lie to you this long he will do it again. it will hurt but will hurt more forgiving him and spend 9 more years with him and find out he is cheating or let go and heal in 9 months ready to take on anything. just do whats best for you you have to think about your self now. |
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No one
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First off make 100% sure that he has been. Don't take everything that you hear for the truth. Talk to him and have him tell you he has been cheating. Don't accuse him of it. Let him know that you simply want to know the truth and that you guys have been together long enough to where you owe each other that much. If he fesses up to it then you have your answer. If not then you have to decide what you believe. |
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Now What?!!
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You can stay and be miserable or you can leave. If you stay around he's not going to stop. Don't waste another 9 years with a man that doesn't respect you. Get out while you're still young, you're getting older and the longer you stay the more likely you will not leave. What is he is doing is not fair and you deserve better. |
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Hollywood ♥
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if i were you i would divorce him..You cant change him..A cheater is always a cheater!! Good luck!! |
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elvlayarvvi fEisty wife and mom
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divorce, alimony, child support, milk the bank account before you call your lawyer, though =)
run up the credit cards =)
run up the gas bill and the light bill and the phone bill... =) |
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~Baby D~
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Cut your losses and move on. You deserve better. |
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the_hedda_lettuce
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Change the locks on the door, pack up his crap and throw it out on the lawn.
He can't be trusted if he's been doing this for 9 years.
But I'm also sure you've been aware that something has been amiss in your relationship or in his behavior before this. |
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American Beauty
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The man has been cheating for the whole time? For the whole 9 years? That's ridiculous. Divorce his sorry butt and move on. |
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Shana H
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I have two words for you.......GET OUT! Get out now! He will never change and doesn't it make you feel like @@## knowing that for 8 yrs and 11months he hasnt been able to keep his @@@ in his pants???? You need to pick up what selfesteem you have left and get out of that nightmare that you call a marriage. I am so sorry for you but girlfriend you need to get it together if you ever want to feel like a human being ever again. You need to get a hold of your family or anyone who will support you emotionally and let them know whats going on so they can be there and give you the encouragement that you need. Then you can take the steps forward into re-building your life with someone new! Good luck and God Bless! |
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Twice as Nice
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You cannot trust the untrustworthy. Without trust, you don't have a marriage. I suggest you put a plan in place to leave him.
You should also go to the doctor and make sure you don't have any STDs.
Then, set an appointment with a counselor. You may have been an enabler all of this time. You need to get yourself on track so you don't wind up with someone just like him in your next relationship.
Take your time. Make a plan. Work the plan. Move on with your life... |
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