What do you do when your husband hits you but leaves no marks??

pamalamadingdong_1

Oh, honey, he is so leaving marks, you just can't see them.....it is so easy for people to say to get out, but they aren't in your situation. First and foremost, you are better than that. You deserve better than that, and you will have better than that. This is not what God intended for you when He put you on this earth. The fear that you must feel is a horrible thing for me to imagine...first and foremost you need to make sure that you are safe, and if there are any children involved, they are safe also. I don't know what kind of area you live in, but most places have shelters for battered women. Police reports need to be filed, and even though is terrifying, they need to be followed through. Sad as it is, you may have to relocate, or have his sorry *** thrown in jail for a good long time. Even without the marks, if you he abusive physically, then he does it mentally also. He probably degrates you, and people have probably seen it. You need to find the courage to tell whoever will listen, even the ones that don't want to believe, MAKE them beleive, and then get the HELL out. There are so many options available to you, even though I know you feel like there are none. Talk to your doctor, your pastor, anyone that you know you can trust to protect you...don't give up, you aren't alone.

Avid

You leave him... and as fast as you can safely get away. If you're afraid, call a women's hotline in your area or the police department for help.

My EX husband used to do that, too, so that no one would know or ask questions.

Please get away from him. Don't be a statistic.

tiggerluvnmom

GET OUT cant stress that enough my exhusband did that all the time. If you fear that you wont be able to just leave then get ahold of family forces and look into a shelter or something to go into where he cant hurt you he wont even knwo where u are at. But you need to seriously get out you dont want things to get worse and trust me they will even though u think it wont it will.

Maureen F

Leave him. What does it matter whether it shows or not?

cowgirl

If he is not hitting you hard enough to leave marks, then he will one day. Don't stay in the situation long enough to get hit that hard. You need to leave now, before it's too late. There are many places to go if you are being abused. Go to a church, a trusted friend or family member, the police, or a call a domestic violence hotline. It may be hard to walk away, especially if you have kids. But, that's an even better reason to leave. If you have kids, chances are he will hit them too if he isn't already hitting them. A counselor at a domestive violence hotline will tell you what steps to take to get out of the situation.

montanamom

sorry to say but no one has the right to be hit. get help and get out no matter how much love
"love does not need to hurt"

rubber_lizard

if this didn't happen at a moment of extreme anger where he couldn't control himself or if ...he left no marks on purpose, it could only means he intends on doing it again so the only thing to do is to leave him... you don't need marks because you don't need to prove it to anyone, both you and him know what he does.

Ruth R

leave him.

jodie

Leave him or wait until the abuse escalates and you are permanently injured or killed.

olderbutwiser

My advice is to go to the authorities anyway. They deal with this on a daily basis. If you don't want to do that, then leave immediately before he DOES leave marks, or worse. There is lots of help available for abuse victims, marks or not. Good Luck!

petasucks101

LEAVE HIM. FIND A REAL MAN

WhAtEvEr

leave him and tell someone

dolphinchk64

leave him or seek counseling

robbet03

Report the abuse and leave his ***!

watergirl54

What, are you going to wait until he puts you in the hospital? Think how long this has been going on...you need to move yourself out of harm's way.

mycisco

your husband is abrusive toward you physically....domestic volence should be taken serious...report him

Wiser1

What do you do? You pack your suitcase and you get as far away from him as you can. He is a batterer and it will get worse as time goes on! Run!! And don't go back unless he gets into a treatment program for abusers and graduates with honors.

crushedlover

The best thing to do is leave. Even if he isn't leaving marks, there are women's shelters that will take you and kids if any are involved. They will help with counseling, and make sure he can't get near you. While there, you can file for divorce and get that sort of stuff out of the way. Alot of women fall for the "I'm Sorrys", but it only gets worse, and one day there will be marks, and they might just be marks you don't live to ask about....Please seek some help!

sparticle

Get a divorce and leave no property.

LuvDreamer

Leave him. He doesn't love you or care about you if he hits you.

Lady Ice

It shouldn't matter whether he leaves any marks or not. He has no right hitting you period. I would get out of the relationship.If he hit you once he'll hit you again.Get some counseling.

Cricket

Leave as soon as possible or wait till he leaves to go to work and pack your stuff and leave then. Either way I wouldn't stay in a relationship where it is abusive. Marks or no marks.

i think you better get out that's what i think you can always go to your local da and report it,he doesn't need to leave a mark he can pull your hair and still go to jail.

autumn wolf

Leave him! That is abuse, and you don't deserve that! As long as he is getting away with it, he will allow it to continue. He really needs counseling, but until he is well, you need to leave, do it for yourself. Once you find out that you don't need him, you may not even want him back even if he gets help. There are good guys out there that will care about you and give you a good life, but first you must break away from him, and look and see how to improve your life WITHOUT HIM!!!

Etiquette Gal

Get your important papers and documents, IDs, any unreplaceable sentimental items (photos), a few changes of clothes, medications, and get the HELL OUT OF THERE ASAP. Take your pets and kids and their documents too.

Call the police from a friend's house and MAKE A DETAILED POLICE REPORT.

The police can help you decide what to do next, whether legal or for personal safety, and whether you should go back to the house or not. The next call after that is to your local domestic violence hotline for advice on what to do next.

Do not mess around with this. Report it immediately. Too many women let it escalate and end up DEAD.

Good luck.

teddybar67

The question is what do "YOU" do when your husband hits you. Nothing, just stay where you are and take it or ?????
I hope the answers here are enough to inspire you to leave.

Delilah

I don't understand how he can hit you without leaving any marks.
Leave him. That's what I'd do.

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