What do you do when your step kids don't like you?

hammer

Just keep doing what you're doing...they are teenage boys and they will see everything you've done for them and their mother when they are older. They will not only respect you for it later, but also be in deep appreciation.

Keep up the good work and don't give them a reason to think you aren't good enough....you could probably be the President and they wouldn't think you were good enough for their mom.

Ashes

I would genuinely just be nice to them - really it's natural to hate someone who you feel is taking the place of your "real" parent.

Its hard and sorry you're going through that.

x0blackmage

I say give it time. I have said the exact words to my step dad only because the situation is fairly new to me and I couldn't accept another man in my moms life.

He'll ease up on you, i'm sure. Currently I know he's just trying to get used that fact. But keep being the best dad you are--he forsure in turn will change his opinions about you. No doubt.

Emily C

Try and understand what they are feeling, Don't try and be the father. They love their mom and you understand that, They just don't want her getting hurt. They might feel angry and your the only person they can blame. The only thing you can really do is understand. Good Luck.

Breezy

they are probably a little mad about there mom an trying to replace their dad just try not to be too hard don't worrie about it they just need to get to know the real you a little bit better

willn2pleaze

you will need to step up and be the man of the house. she should have your back and should not let her kids talk to her new husband like that. don't let them stop you from being a good husband to your wife. ignore them, because they will need you before you need them and them will need to show you respect before you should be willing to do anything for or with them. first you sit down and talk to your wife and let her know your thoughts, but she has to be on the same page as you or you really don't have a marriage.

Life's short. Train Hard.

Teenage brats are hard to relate to. Just keep doing what you're doing and hopefully they'll eventually come around. Don't blame yourself.

Emilee T

OMG
I wish I knew it's driving me crasy
Im not a parent but i have step sisters and bro's
DONT SPOIL THEM IS NUMBER ONE

Ignore it.

Love my kittys

Just be consistent. It takes time for a step-child to warm up to a new mother or father. You may never have a father-son relationship, but you can always be their friend. Let them know, that you are not replacing their father. You are however, a valuable friend.

Radical

tell them you are not taking their dads place that you are in love with their mom and that you are taking care of everyone in the house. ask what you could do to help them and their mom. and to earn u sum gud points, show understanding
gud luk
i know it can be hard

rene

they probaly are just being like all teenagers or they might just miss there dad and they think your trying to take his place

Tracy M

Give the boys time to adjust to their mom being married to you. Right now they are testing you so don't let them get to you. Having said that their mom should not allow them to disrespect you like that.

T-Money

Sit them down and ask them y they dont like you. maybe it's not you maybe they just don't want to see another man with their mom teenage guys are very protective of their mothers.

Trey T

Well... I am a step child.... and these are the things that my step mom did to make me like her...
at first i didnt like her because i didnt like the idea of someone other than my mom being with my dad... but she didnt PUSH me to like her,,,, and she wasnt in my face trying to be the "cool" parent all the time... she was relaxed... and she was nice to me.... She didnt try TOO hard.... she didnt aggravate me, but showed an interest in my life... Over time... i felt compelled to become closer to her... and treat her like family... and she had never done anything to upset me... and most of all she did stuff with me that my dad would never do!!! and she showed a great deal of care for me when she would bring me to the airport and take a two hour flight with me just to go and see my dad for a week.... Just the things like that made me like her... and over time... we became close... and i love her now... because she didnt push me to be close to her... Now when she corrects me about leaving a cup somewhere, or not making my bed... i dont mind... because i respect her... Try being a friend to the kids... they will see that you are a good person... and dont try TOO much.... that gets aggravating. Good luck.

DomBby.

be the cooler parent.

MEL B.

First of all-please understand how very typical this is! Step parenting is a difficult thing to do-you are basically put in a no-win situation. You need to have weekly counseling or be in a support group. The things that the children say are things that they either hear your ex-wife say or it is coming from a point inside them where they feel threatened or "replaced". There aren't any simple answers. The children will "divide and conquer" you and your wife unless you sit down and hash out some ground rules. The children need to be respectful to you no matter what they may feel. If they cannot do this-there will need to be some consequences. Mom if the one that needs to do the disciplining. Good luck to you!

Xzodus

ignore it. u cant get mad at the kids because its not really your business since theyre already teenagers.
why do they say youre not good enough? maybe you should figure that out first for yourself

Chris

It will take time for the kids to accept you. Just keep doing what your doing. Kids always want mom & dad back together. When they realize thats not happening they'll accept you. Good luck!

tfblechris

They are teenagers, no one is going to be good enough for their Mom. Just learn to deal with it. Love your wife and love her kids no matter what.

my dog joey

The only thing that you can do is give it time. Teenager's have attitude problems for the most part anyway. It's not necessarily a bad thing they are just trying to assert some independence and you are an easy target right now. Once they realize that you make their mom happy then they might start to warm up to you, but I can't make any promises.

Sweetie Whites

Well, make them like you. they are just getting to know you, did you say you are in a new marriage, if that's so, HAVE PATIENCE!!!, they will get to know you soon.

Alex

Just be really nice they will like you sooner or later

geneo

you have to show them you are a frend not compition for ther mom do not leave them drive a wedge between you and your wife

Kaia

It is up to your wife ( their mother) to correct him. About all you could say is, I'm sorry you feel that way because I love your mother very much. I think it's wonderful that you feel your mother deserves the very best, and I hope you always feel that way.

Don't take it personally...some kids can just be twits, and he's probably trying to cause problems.

However, she really does need to tell him that's not acceptable behavior, and she doesn't want to hear it ever again.

folklaw62

Their testing you, trying to push you to your limit. Their teenagers, they don't want another father coming into their life. So be an adult but don't act like their dad. Their grown up and get over it unless you treat their mum bad

Liz S

Unlike the first answer, I think you should try doing things that they're father did, and try to understand them better. If I were you I would maybe ask them why I'm not good enough, and then ask them how I could be a better father.

MiaMonique

OMG. I've done everything possible. Show respect, don't try too hard, be yourself, be patient and tolerant, show you care, be attentive, be loving, treat their mother/father well, never talk bad about anyone in their family, don't intrude, allow them time to spend by themselves (without you), let them realize you're not the enemy and you're not there to steal anything from them or to replace their mother/father. I have a stepson (who's about my age...) and after almost 7 years, he's barely coming around...and that's only whenever he wants to borrow money; then, he turns into a total sweetheart. I figure he'll soon realize I'm here to stay. Good luck.

mikehok33

Five across the eye.

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