What do you start to do now if you have told your husband you are leaving?

NONAME

pack a bag

eqaddix

1. Pack stuff, or pack husbands stuff
2. move out, or have him move out
3. file divorce paperwork
4. take care of the children.
5. take care of herself

ahleesha14@yahoo.com

first get a lawyer and they will do most of the work. I was married and had to file for divorce

Phyllis M

If your friend had the guts to tell her husband that she is leaving then the next thing that she needs to do is leave.A lot of people are afraid of change and this is what your friend will have to do.Change is scary.By her already leaving him that is step one for her.She will just have to take it one step at a time.She does not have to move out of town just move.I am not going to tell you that it is going to be easy because it is not.It takes a strong woman to do what she did.I myself have been in the same situation.Just knowing that there is a big cold world out there is enough to make anyone scared.She will just have to take one step at a time and one day at a time.She will proably have to have help from family members and or friends,but that is okay.Like the old saying goes you have to crawl before you can walk.If she really has her mind made up to leave the best thing that you can do for her is be there for her.She will need family and friends more than ever now.Starting over is not easy but believe me she will be able to do it.Tell her to keep her head up and to keep telling herself that she can do it and that she is going to make it.

dr. know it all whocan'tspel

let her move in with you for a month, it might not even be that long before they get back together
as long as he or she hasn't cheated they will try again.

Popeye420

Well first she should leave as she said she was going to. Or he should leave but I bet he will resist. She really can't file papers until they are living apart so that is her first step.

She needs to see an attorney and if she can't afford one then she can go to the local court office and seek help there. Most courts or all courts have what is called a "family law facilitator." It is a free service, not legal advice, but they will help with the proper paper work needed and documents.

If I were you, I'd stay the hell out of it as you don't want to bring trouble to you and your family. Not only that, people tend to act like nuts when a lover leaves the relationship. She is your friend so you really need to be there for here but try to remain neutral and stay clear of hubby.

First she needs to leave, then file papers to include child custody and support, and then she needs to stay clear of him because any sign of reconciliation can be used against her in court. That and she needs to get her rest because when only one party leaves the marriage it tends to be a huge battle.

Bibi

tell her you support every decision she makes and that you will be there to listen (and do that only) because if you tell her not to ever get back with him and she does come back to him you will look stupid

Mr. Puddy T

First things first - you honestly need to butt out their situation what she needs to do is sit down and have The Talk with her husband.

1. Inform him of her feelings and that she is no longer wanting to remain in this relationship.
2. Temporary Financial arrangements who will pay for what for how long.
3. Prepare for the separation - finding a new home - packing - moving and a lawyer to finalize everything.

All you can do is offer your support when she is down and keep her busy otherwise keep out of their affairs - understand?

Tat

Esco2nd

She needs to tell you to mind your bees wax!!
that is not your relationship so stay out of the way

Put it like this... if they get back together ... they could blame you for the problems they were having. then your going ot be the bad guy not the husband...
trust me i have seen it happend to people that dont stay out of other peoples relationship and it gets ugly.

marypoppins

she should get an attorney and start the tedious process of divorce. she can stay in her home.

ps. if she's leaving, then why is it NOT the point of lawyers yet? i wouldnt move out of the marital home until she's talked to a lawyer. that may be considered abandoment and can cause problems, legal problems, later on.

for now, she can sleep separatedly. decide who will do what chores around the home and will you have dinner together. anything that you did jointly, decide what you're now doing separatedly.

Anya N

She needs to start documenting every case of neglect that she can remember in recent history and ever reaction that he has that is violent or neglectful after telling him that she is leaving. This is going to go to court and documentation will show that she has a strong basis and has been thinking about this for awhile. She also needs to focus on his neglect of her child, not just her, if she wants to retail full custody.

Good luck to her.

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