What do you think about a wife who cheats with the idea of “getting even”?

Otis F

Terrible idea. You cannot fix your marriage by adding more pain to it.

xtratabasco

keep anykind of morales you may have and just leave the creep.

SpermFeather

2 wrongs dont make a right.

WENDY G

Why stoop to his level and lower yourself to do such a thing. Your telling him its OK as long as I get to do it too. That's stupid! Get help for your marriage or get a divorce playing games is immature!

tipper

Two wrongs don't make a right. Think about how you felt when you found out about him cheating on you. Not good, was it? Why do you think doing the same will make things any better. Chances are, it will make things worse, because then you'll start to feel guilty.

It's not worth the aggrevation. Either break up with the guy or work things out. Why add to the problems in the relationship that already exist. It doesn't make sense.

TBone

Stupid

David B

its silly, puts you on the same level, and bad karma too. just divorce him, take his stuff and all.

Lindsay

It's stupid and imature. If you have to cheat to get even maybe you should not be together.

john b

2 wrongs don't make it right.

Kenny G

Just realize you will be stooping to his level...be sure and think it through first, some things cannot be undone, sweetie...

Kyleontheweb

That's no way to act if you plan on keeping the relationship going. I wouldn't blame you if you couldn't deal with someone cheating and wanted to end the relationship. I do think, however, that cheating yourself in retaliation is just worsening things, and is not healthy at all to be doing if you care about keeping your relationship going. If you can't deal with the cheating, it would be far better to just break it off, I would imagine.

~Kyle

saharj007

You're better than him always always remember that. He doesn't even come close. And in the end if you cheat than really no ones right. Either fix the issues seek some therapy or get out. It's just gonna turn into a vicious cycle that nobody will win.

seeitmiway32

You're no better, morally, than the cheater. Why lower yourself? It will come back to haunt you.

If the relationship has ended, get out, and THEN, do your running around. Not before.

haki

Well be ready for the consequences....â˜»

susan22

Don't do it! Why step down to his level!

BabeHeart

Two wrongs don't make a right. By cheating, you are saying it's okay for anyone to cheat and that you don't mind being cheated on.

Be the bigger person...what goes around, comes around...doesn't matter that you feel justified in your behavior, you'll still have to deal with the consequences.

Treat others as you'd like to be treated...if you don't like being cheated on (and apparently you don't) then don't do it yourself.

Common Sense

You cannot "get even"...
You can only become a cheater also....
If you are angry about it then it is
beneath your character...
Don't do it....
Either forgive & forget or Divorce..
And..
Nice Rack...

If a woman feels that getting back at a cheating husband is to cheat on him, then who am I too judge. Do what makes you feel better. I say if you do, he deserves it anyway. They say two wrongs don't make a right, but those people who said it wasn't the one that was cheated on. And if that is you in the picture...WHAT THE HELL WAS HE THINKING? I say do what you have to do to teach him a lesson. Eye for an Eye.

DR. E

Even if she gets even, it will never be (even) the same.
" you hurt me so I am going to hurt you." so you are on the same level?
Well you could always hold yourself above his level in esteem.
If cheating has been on her mind before this happened?
Just waiting for an excuse?
You have your excuse.
If you still want to be with him, you can always use it against him. Every argument you have will end up with accusations.
He hurt you without thinking how it would hurt you.
You want to hurt him for the sake of hurting him.
I don't know which is better or for worse.

Bert

It's the most common excuse. It's always easier to misbehave when we can blame our actions on others. Personally I think you are better served by remaining faithful and sorting out your probs w/ your hubby. But hey, what do I know.

Tara P

If that is the entire reason you want to do it, I don't think it will help. I think it will make you feel worse about yourself. Hopefully you will get rid of your husband, then you can have all the affairs you want, when you want, for your own reasons unrelated to the adulterous acts of a weak man. Good luck, and I am sorry that you have to even think about this.

Rainbow Brite

WHAT WOULD YOU FEEL...THINK ABOUT IT.

bh37bh37

i think it is fair. but you define when you will start and when you will end.

x
tom
bh37bh37@yahoo.com

Mav

Try it.

You may enjoy it... I will make no judgments against you.

As the song goes: Love the One you are With;)

Chow

chowderboxallnite

Email me and I will help you decide.

diobalikal

Well that just makes everything better then, doesn't it. If he/she cheats, leave. This problem is really very simple, people make it difficult. When one cheats, they are telling you, "I have no respect for you as a person or wife/husband". I could never understand people who stay with people that cheat on them. THEN FORGIVE THEM. "OK, you made a complete *** of me, but that's ok because I love you". WAKE UP!

jumiboo

my advice would be to not do it. that is your body and to use it to get even just seems stupid to me. and if he cheated on then he is not worth the time nor the energy.

mari

Its not worth putting your self down to his level ................just leave him and start dating that will hurt him bad enough ....

deadgrl6

It's not the best way to do things, but if it was very long time ago, like 2-3 years ago that he did this, it's best to let it go, but recently, It would be a very hard issue. I know you feel like this is the best alternative and it is the real painful way, but are you sure you want to through this in his face? Its a painful act and hard lesson, but it will hurt you both even more. If he's constanly doing this you can play with the idea and tell him "How would you like it if I went and did ....." I'm sure he would not like it, but you know how things are! So, if its something your playing with be careful not to regret it or get burned! I've done it and we ended. So, Its would be real hard.

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