What do you think of the situation my son was put in?

nikiandneish

Let them spend time together in YOUR house, a HEALTHY enviroment! Your son does not belong in a racist enviroment, he's 11 and can't comprehend what's going on. How dare he say something like that in front of your boy, what an ***!!!!

cheermomgoteam

In my opinion, your son would do better to not spend time with someone who is racist. How very hurtful. I'm sorry that ignorant POS made your son feel that way. Perhaps it would be better if he spent time with his friend at your house.

notyou311

Unfortunately, there are bigots everywhere and your son was bound to run into one sooner or later. Explain to him that this man is ignorant and that he is a poor excuse for a man or a father.

I would not let him go to their house or anywhere with that man again.

aven

maybe the man didnt know that your child was of latino descent, so he let a comment like this leak out. talk to your kid about racial comments and stuff like that.

nAnCy iS oN!!!!

yeah thats so wrong

MoonGoddess

I think that this man is just ignorant. I doubt that he made the comment to deliberately hurt your son. But that fact is, it did.
As a parent, I would go back and let him know that your son was hurt by his comments and that you don't support that kind of talk. I would let him know for three reasons:

1. Your son's feelings. Most important!
2. Your son needs to see that there are times when you do need to step up to the plate. Set an example that he can learn from and be proud of.
3. Eliminate this situation from coming up again in the future. That way, if your son goes over there again, he will not have to deal with this on his own.

This man will probably be so embarrassed by his comment, that this will not be an issue again.

philosophy

I would call the man and let him know that his comment was made in front of your child who is bi-racial. He may or may not care. Then I would not let my son go back to that house. If he wants to play with the boy, then let them play at your house. You can make excuses for your son not going over there.

skunk pie

It doesn't sound like that man was trying to intentionally hurt your son, but I don't know why you would want your son exposed to that sort of racism, then again in America can you really limit exposure of racism?? Either way, maybe next time have your son's friend come over instead of your son going over there and do talk to your son about why that man's comments were ignorant and let him know when it's okay to speak up.

Georgia

It's great that your son made a new friend, but ashame the father is so rude. I don't think the father meant to hurt your son, I think he was just being rude. If he truly didn't like your son, I think he wouldn't have invited him for pizza, right? Unless you think the father enjoys tormenting young children.

Even though the dad is a pig, I don't think it would be fair if you broke up the boy's friendship. Invite the other child out, and see how it goes from there. If you son is offended by the father again, then I don't think you should say anything to the father without talking to your son about it. Ask him what he wants you to do, it would be horrible if you embarrassed your son and you never know what's going to embarrass them...

Hi!!! :)

You should not let it blow by just because your son is not Mexican. Other people can be hurt just as much by tht rude comment. However, you are not sure if it was intended to hurt your son personally. I think you should leave the sitiuation alone for now. If the same man ever does this again, step up and talk to him about it :)

Nick

I don't think the man meant any harm to your son.He does sound like he's judgemental. But, you might speak with him Kindly (NO ANGER!). Explain how his comment offended your son and hurt him. Then you will know if the man meant your son any harm and you'll know weather you want your son in his company in the future. As a concerned parent that would be my suggestion to you.

goodies make the boys jump on it

i don't think he said it to hurt your son but i think that you should let this kids father know cause it might happen again

Tony T.

I think that you should wait if yous son tells you he said more comments on the mexicans. If he doesn't then don't do nothing. But when he does you should step in.

Liz

The man is a racist, therefore a moron. I would not let my kids socialise at the home of a moron, no matter what race / mix of races they were.

tinkerbell

you know the thing is your son was hurt by his remark.... and he probably did pick up that he may have been reffering to him..... i wouldn't do anything this time , but if such remarks are made the next time he goes to his friends house then yes i would say something

fluke

not intended for your son, but you don't want him around a fool who would say that in fornt of his own child, let alone another child. tell your son not to go to that house any more.

Titus12

That was offensive and your son was hurt by it. It is obvious the man does not know your family ethnicity or maybe he is trying to find out. Either way the comment was not nice and your son was offended. You can talk to your son and let him know that there are evil people in this world who have hard hearts but for your son to NEVER be this way, God created everyone of us and we are all beautiful in His sight. The ignorant man let it slide, it is obvious he was raised this way and not let your son go out with these people again. They are not the good example of people you want your son to be around.

getmymackon

I don't think he meant to intentionally hurt your son sounds like he was just shooting off at the mouth.

david m

your son knows a chicken liver when he sees a chicken liver . my geuse is your son wasn't so much hurt but probably wanted to know from you how to react . i wouldn't let my son hang around a man like that and i would tell the man so in front of my son as well , maybe even politly and calmly , but state your case ( when your done can i slap him ? ) it's called standing up for what is right , the sooner your son gets the gist of that the better .

Mule and T

I think Lyndy C hit the nail on the head. I do believe that it is mainly your son's decision. He is 11. He is becoming a young man. Be open with your son and discuss it. Children deserve honesty, and I think he will surprise you with intelligent opinions. I have a 10 year old son myself that will be 11 next month and he actually surprises me from time to time. Just raise him to know right from wrong and that there are very very ignorant people in the world. He just needs to decide for himself if he wants to associate with such behavior. But, by no means punish his little friend. Another person who answered suggested letting that child come to your house. I absolutely agree.

I hope this helps.
Good luck

LindseyM

I think if he was trying to hurt your son..he wouldnt of let him stay in the first place if that was how he felt..he may not have known that your son is..however, you may want to call the dad and let him know it hurt your sons feelings

Red Rose

If it were my son. I wouldn't want that guy around him. If your son is dark as you say. And it is obvious that he must be non "white". The man offended your son with no care towards his feelings at what he said. Though not directed intentionally at your son. At some time he would have noticed what he said and apologized to the child. Since he didn't it leads me to think in the future it will happen again. The same kind of comment and him not caring who gets offended. Your the child's mother. It is your duty as so to demand they respect him. He told you the problem. As a child I bet he feels and thinks you as a parent should do something or say something.

Anticonformity

Calmly talk to the man. I'm sure he didn't intend to hurt ur son's feelings. Give him a chance. If it turns out he did intend to, then by all means don't let ur son in his "care".

humanbeforeamerican

I think that, whether or not the man's comment was directed toward your son or not, it was an ignorant comment that should not have been spoken at all, especially in front of a child. This, unfortunately, will not be the first time your son will come across racism in his life. I think this is a chance to empower your son, and you should allow him to choose how to handle this situation. He is 11, which I think is old enough to decide whether or not this hurtful comment should be pursued. Give him a voice. Reassure him that racism is real, but it doesn't mean that the theories and stereotypes behind racism are true.

mmurray001

Sometimes people say things without thinking that could affend the next person and being that your son is biracial I can understand why he felt this way because if he talks about the mexicans like this what could he be thinking about me.
though he enjoys his friends company. Explain to the parent how thi smade your son feel. maybe you should talk to his parents about this. Because you dont want their habbits rubbing off on your son.

best of luck

Marcie

Seems like a good opportunity to educate your son about this kind of thing... it won't be the last time that he experiences this type of comment.. Depending on your son, you may even let him decide whether he chooses to be around this man again. I think I would use it as an opportunity for growth for your son. Sometimes a BAD example will teach a child even more what they don't want to do.... than a good example showing them what they DO want to do.
Maybe even ask him if he ever said things in school... like kids do... to an over weight kid or a slow kid... Maybe he can think of an example where he said something that may have hurt someone..... You aren't going to change that man's ignorance, but you can teach your child.

brwneyedgrl

My daughter is only 1/4 mexican, but i make sure that she is proud to be who she is.. there is ignorance all over in the world.. and you cant fight every battle for your son, but you can teach your son to be proud of himself and to know about the ignorance of others.. because this man will not be the only man your son will have to face ignorant comments from in his life.. you teach ur son about ignorant people, and u teach him to be stronger and rise above the ignorance of the world and if he wants to fight back to fight with his brain and be the best he can ever be, your son at 11 has more class in his pinky, then that man does in his whole body.. , at this point, i would let it blow by and hope that the man was intending that comment for the growing problem lately with "illegal" immigrants and not the race itself.. but if he ever says anything in front of your son again, by all means let the man have it.. i only say that because id hate for your son to lose a friend because of his friends, fathers ignorance.... but please explain to your son about the ignorance of others, and to be proud to be who he is and to never let "anyone" ever get him down.. life is to short for hate..

nfgatcer

When it comes to your children, nothing should be let go. No need to play his game, just don't get too involved with the parents, if you son knows his friend does not feel the same they should stay friends.

roxiecat4200

I would let the other child's father know that you were offended and that your child will not be able to be around him if he continues with the racial slurs. I would normally say don't let your child be around this man, but it's hard for kids to make friends these days so if he is friends with the child then it is inevitable that he will be around the father. I had a boyfriend who's parents were extremely racist, but he was one of the nicest people I have ever had the good fortune to meet, his parents just had issues.
I would step in, and let the father know that what he said hurt your son and that your son was afraid to let the man know that it hurt his feelings. Most likely he said it out of ignorance, and hopefully he will learn a lesson and not say that sort of thing again!

Marc X

I've been offended many times. They were never intentional, but it didn't change the way I felt. I just chose to never associate with them again for that reason. If they asked why, I'd tell them. If they asked why I didn't let them know, it's because it didn't really matter. They could pretend to be something different, but I already knew better. And why would I want to be around people who were only acting a part for my benefit?

But telling them off doesn't change the fact that I was offended. Even if they apologized, it still doesn't change what they are. I could eat myself alive about them or just forget about them. But I'll never change them.

And personally, I'd really rather that bigoted people didn't stay quiet for my sake (or anyone else's). If they didn't show themselves by shooting off their mouths, then how would we know which ones were real and who were the phonies?

By the way, children often don't share their parents' political or social views and your son may still want to be friends with him without dealing with the father.

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