What do you want to tell me about marriage?

Jewel

My parents have one of the best marriages I've seen. They've been married for 46 years this July. They still flirt with each other, still cuddle, still hold hands, still kiss. Mom does thoughtful things for Dad and he does thoughtful things for her. The secret is working through the tough times, working at the relationship every day...both people, and doing selfless things on a regular basis that makes the other feel loved and wanted. You need to try to understand each other, always give each other the benefit of the doubt instead of jumping to conclusions and, just as important as love, you need to TRUST.
I can't answer from my own experiences. My first husband was abusive and my current is a control freak who cheats.....if it wasn't for my parents example of what a marriage can be, I'd just tell everyone who's thinking of marriage to RUN, don't walk, and don't look back! But I know marriage can be a wonderful thing. It just takes the right 2 people to make it work.

stushie

we were friends for 6yrs then we got married we are now married for almost 4yrs in a couple of weeks, we have one child. It's only good when you keep up the communication cause that can make the other spouse seek other individulals to share thoughts that should be shared with only you, hey that where relationships start with someone who we can relate to then we start to like each other and the rest is history.

openminded

Marrie someone you like becasue they will not change. Passion dies down that doesnt mean you have fallen out of love, and kids pull most couples apart. divorced with 2 kids.

chanel

i'd say the thing that makes a marriage work is compromise. i'm VERY happy. we have one little one & have been together for a year next month
:) having a family is hard but the fun times and smiles make up for the little bad times. but when you're in real trouble you'll know that you have a family that will stick beside you no matter what. we're a very strong family.

silly_duck96

Don't marry some one who you have broken up with and gotten back together with, especially several times. Don't marry some one you spend a lot of time arguing with. Don't marry some one who has cheated on you.
Marriage is a compromise. No one is the boss. Both people should do their equal share of working and taking care of the house. Before you get married make sure he understands this. Tell him you are not going to take care of him like his mom did. Make sure he understands this.
You both need to know what you want. How you will raise your kids, what kind of house you want, pets, EVERY THING. Make sure you are on the same page. I know pets may seem silly, but trust me, discuss every thing.
My marriage is great. We have been together more than 2 years, have an 8 month old. Every thing is good. I stay at home, work only weekends, and he works full time. Since I stay at home I do ALL of the house work except taking out the trash.

angel4u

Its the best thing we ever did for us. We are more of a team, we think stronger, successful thoughts, and we are always on each others side. We are a family. we will always be togther
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I am lucky to be inlove and married. Yes we all have our off days, and we do what we can to resolve issues. But you have to teach yourselfs to BOTH think POSITIVE! OR you ant gonna survive. Sometimes my huby was a bit negative, and would said why did I ever get married. But that was natural for a guy. I told him be glad you have someone. Some people would die tohave what we have. We met when we were 16/17yrs old. been more on than off, and have met others in between. I always saw the other guys as never good enough. Thats apparently is sign he was the one!!

Tasha W

marriage is a good thing, very happy and strong founded. thats the right way to do it. communication is the first key.

**Missy**

Marriage is good as long as you are both in love and prepared to put hard work into it as its not always easy and you must believe that the vows you make on that day are things you can keep during your marriage.
I am happily married, i married in Nov 08 and i was only with him for 7 months before we got engaged and when we married we had been together 1 year and 4 months.
No we dont have kids, i am 25 and plan on having kids when i am 29ish as we should be better of financially.
Marriage has its highs and lows. When its good its 100% fantastic and i feel ontop of the world, when its bad i cry and feel like giving up. But the good times heavily outweigh the bad so its worth it.
The main thing i have learnt so far is you must talk to eachother and keep your communication doors open, we are still working on this as its neither of our strongest points but marriage is all about give and take and putting someone else other then yourself first. Its a great learning curve for when you finally become parents.

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