What does it mean when someone tells you to PLAY YOUR POSITION?

I've been married to my husband for about 1yr and we've been having a lot of problems. He lives in one state and I live in another. Anyway, the other day I was telling him my feelings. Blah blah, he got mad at me when i asked him what does he want me to do as his wife. So he got mad and told me that i should already know but, when u have kids your not always thinking about that. He knows that it's hard for me to go and see him like i used to b/c now I don't have money or transportation to get around, And if someone has a car they should be able to come and get me and my kids.Right. Well he thinks other wise. He thinks that I'm always relying on him to come and get me but, i could care less if he can't. So when he was telling me all of this he said that "I need to PLAY MY POSITION"... WTF, I feel disrespected and i don't want to think nothing of it but, I'm mad. I feel if ur married already to someone and being that I'm your wife. I already have my position. I feel if you've been dating someone and your single then that's when you tell someone that Not when your married.. Somebody tell me if I'm wrong.....................
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Also should i forgive and forget...

Me!

You feel hurt and you should be!
It sounds like he's feeling hurt as well or maybe frustrated hurt.
It would be good if you two could pull together and make a plan instead of having now hurt frustrated, hurt and mad.

Times are tougher and it takes some pulling together and making some plans instead of one just blaming the other for the impossible and seeing no way out except resentment of the situation.

Do some planning for the two of you to be able to get together and do some relationship building with some sweet and fresh experiences. Make plans for who will take the kids for a few days, make a date or a weekend and go for it. Keep it to fun stuff and keep conflict gone.

I don't mean just you, I mean both of you make the plan. You each do what you are capable at your end of the living location and go from there.

Remember, the situation is the enemy, not each other and people say things out of frustration which they hate after and when you have no control of the situation, you try to make the other person do something, when maybe they can't either, but you kind of hope that the other person can.

A recipe for being mad is so not what you need right now.

Wanting the best for both of you

Me! :- )

Tonya A

No I think you are right. You are playing your position. You just got a stupid husband just like i do.

toy

no car, you have kids, low on cash? sounds to me like he need to play the part and step up to the plate. who does he think he is? id be mad too. tell him to come see you (and the kids) or send you some money so you and the kids can get on the bus. you are married you're suppose to rely on each other. it sounds like he is an ungrateful ***! i commend you. that has to be tough.

Censure 455

I think he meant you should be a stay at home mom, take care of the kids, clean and cook like a traditional mom while he should go out to work and come home.

oracleofohio

Must be some kind of sports metaphor. Men! We're not as into sports (usually)!

I guess he means that if you're playing short stop, you have to not only play there but back up 2nd and 3rd base. You KNOW what you're supposed to do and you just do it.

Maybe he wants you to reply on him less and do the things you're supposed to be doing?

Who knows. Next time you're arguing tell him he needs to "Insert the tampon correctly"..lol....that'll get him!

Mike the man

what the hell kind of husband do you have that don't want to come and pick you and the kids up who are you suppose to rely on? how dumb can you be to have someone that treats you like that

Ruby Jane

l think he is saying that because you are the wife then you have to play by his rules...and be at his beck and call.
Wrong...
lt takes two to make a marriage,and its also about give and take.
lf you have no transport and he does,then what does he expect you to do?
You have children to look after nad they also need your time,love and comittment.
Ask him to come to some arrangement...where you are not chasing him all the time.lf elects to live away from you,then it is sometimes up to him to pull his finger out and be a husband.

soozemusic

Can't you move in with him or he with you? What your husband is trying to tell you is that he does not feel that you are living up to the duties/responsibilities if a wife. This means getting up with him, (if you are not working), taking care of the kids, breakfast, lunch & dinner, wash, the usual. Being there for him, etc. But, what bothers me is that he has a wife with children and no transportation. He too has to "play his position." Don't feel disrespected. Being married but not living together is a big cause for these issues in your marriage. Forgive, but don't forget or you'll be back in the same boat shortly. Change your lives before one of you throws in the towel.

thatartistwin

What the hell ever! "Play your position" simply means he is an immature little twerp who is trying to talk like a gangsta not realizing he has a wife and kids to support. Kids, who by the way are going to grow up to be losers if he does not get his damn act together or you don't get rid of his ridiculous azz

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