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ghosai
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my husband is the same way, not confrontational. you are just not adapting to his method of solving out a problem. men aren't very good at expressing their emotions especially if you are right there in the flesh. here's what i do and it's helped out so soooo much. When i feel like i want him to just listen to what i have to say, i write him a letter telling him how i feel. then i just ask if he's read it and if he has any comments on my feelings. if i want an answer, i text message him. for some reason men are more comfortable texting you their emotions and how they feel about a situation. try it out. I hope it helps you as it has helped me... |
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cristelle R
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he wants to avoid confrontation |
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twizty1
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sounds like he really doesn't care. |
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nath22192
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Maybe he feels like whatever he says it doesn't matter. No matter what he says or does hes wrong and there's no other chance of any other outcome. Usually in a fight two people would talk, and since you are the only one whose fighting, it sounds like you are just yelling at him. Try approaching the problem with an open mind in a calm tone. Then again it could be all his fault. |
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null_the_living_darkness
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A lot of guys can't communicate...so they don't.
In a fight he has nothing to say, or worse he only has very, very, very, very bad things to say.
Most guys don't believe in 'working it out' much, as that is code for 'doing things the woman's way'. |
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johnnysunshine11
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He can't handle confrontation so he avoids it. Keep assuring him he needs to or he will forever be walked on and disrespected by not only you but his marine counterparts. |
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m dunaway
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he may have his self-control turned to high. likely to avoid being rude |
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i know how frustrating it is. but i think that doesn't mean he doesn't care or anything. i guess that's just the way men deal with problems/ situations. its hard to understand i know but we can not force them to talk if they really don't want to so better leave it at that. |
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Doc Phil
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maybe he is trying to stop the fight. sounds like you think fighting is a normal thing. he has a long horrible life ahead of him if you have that attitude |
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tanja3703
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He avoids confrontation because he has no interest in arguing. He thinks about what you are saying to him and is trying to reason it out in his head. My husband was in the military 25 years and did the same thing. Still does sometimes. Best to walk away and let it go for a short while. My husband needs an hour. Find out how long yours takes by being patient. Go for a walk and rethink it out yourself. Pick your battles is the best advice I have for you. |
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Phoenix mom
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yeah his a pacifist |
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Soph
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dont worry i have a partner who does the same thing.. and it just frustrates me even more.. |
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lostmindproductions
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if he doesnt have anything to say then just leave it at that, then when the argument is over and things cool down, try and talk to him..............talk TO him...dont.....talk AT him. |
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Beezee
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No you are not doing anything wrong. I have noticed with my own husband is that when I'm trying to tell him he has done something wrong he get stubborn and refuses to admit his own faults. The best thing to do is to walk away, don't force him to communicate with you. Calmly tell him what the problem is and if he says nothing then you wait till he is ready to talk. Then if he tries to change the subject say your not willing to talk until you problem has been resolved. |
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Sealed with a kiss
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You're fighting too much or you're putting him down and making him feel like he's only doing things wrong. When you do fight, make sure that you don't yell or speak in a dimeaning way. |
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DAYEN
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I am a woman and I am telling you He is right! It's better to be silent than to say things you will regret later and you can not take it back. Why not talk to him in a nice and calm way when you are not fighting? Maybe you should change your way of communicating with your husband. I learned that men in general doesn't want to talk when women is in hysteria they'd rather go away. |
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mamaflutey
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You're not wrong he is.
Drop the looser. |
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s.i.l.l.y. s.a.r.a.h
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he wants to avoid confrontation |
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