What has happened to me?

atomic_dolphin

You are heading toward depression if you keep this up. If he fails to pick up on your non-verbal communication (silence), you need to re-think your communication. Both of you need to reconnect with each other. If he doesn't feel the need to reconnect, seek counseling.

China Doll 3

Lack of communication, and not opening up to your real feelings is not good for your marriage, get counseling if needed.

Janet W

Because he is critical. Nobody wants to be treated like they have no value and that is what he is doing to you. You should feel excited about life and not have to worry about him passing judgment on you. I hope that you will find happiness. Don't live like his forever, make your life good. You can get away from him and be happy. I hate it when people treat others as worthless, especially the ones they are supposed to love.

Miss Cherokee

The reason you have become secretive and quiet is the pattern that has been set up by the blanket reaction you perceive your mate as having to you during your conversations. This behavior will not work and eventually will destroy your relationship. Try to suggest marriage counseling. If he won't go, then go to marriage therapy yourself. Maybe the fact that you would be willing to seek help even if he didn't , would be enough to inspire him that you are seriously needing some advice and input about this issue . Actually a third party could provide excellent advice and input to what is going on from the perspective of an unbiased observer to the activity. If your hubby heard your reactions to his negative reactions to your communications, through the eyes of some one else, He may be able to see it ,whereas , the same old song and dance you and he perform has had the effect of closing off thoughts of objectivity. An impartial mediator can definitely help you both see what it is your marriage and communication has stalled on. By you becoming emotionally distant and quiet,is going to cause just that. Your marriage will suffer and if you still want your marriage This is definitely an issue that shouldn't be ignored. No one likes to feel misunderstood and attacked every time they talk to their spouse. So many times of that happening and one learns of ways to avoid it, and the most effective way to avoid that scenario is to not talk to your husband more than you have to . This creates resentment and emotional isolation and frustration. These are not good ingredients to a happy marriage. Good luck, I hope that he can agree to get some marriage counseling with you.

joe_fleeman

You need to learn how to communicate with him, and he needs to work on communicating with you better.

parabola

Sounds like your brains arent on the same wavelength. You have an emotion and idea about something and he is way left field.

My bf and I are kinda like that. Pretty much because we were raised and taught different. Its mainly him saying his opnion about something and I am caught off guard by how much i dont understand or agree with him. If you can casually bring up a topic or a bit of news and try to express your opinion with out defensivness and and open mind he may do the same. Just avoid any bickering or arguing. You shouldnt really have to hide anything just so you can pretend everything is normal. Do your best to discuss things and yeah....apprently he needs alot of slow explaining on why you say or do things, lol. PLEASE COMMUNICATE.

happy_chipmonk

You're afraid of what he will say about you. That's why you are doing these things.
You had one or many bad experiences with this and now you're trying not to make it happen again. It's a psychological thing.
It's going to be hard to break out of, but you just need will-power.
You should start telling him things again, little by little, and try to make them as clear as possible so he won't misunderstand what you are saying. You should even ask him is he understands. Him asking you questions isn't a bad thing. He's trying to understand and that's good.
If you keep going like you are, you'll end up loosing trust in the relationship and trust is a MUST!
Try little by little, telling him things. If you slip up and find yourself hiding things again it's ok. It will take time to get over this. Just get back up and try again.
When a baby learns to walk, she falls down all the time. But she get's right back up...determined to conquer.

INTERNET HATE MACHINE LI

Maybe you've contracted diabeetus or AIDS.

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