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thoro_dream_queen
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Tell him that you caught him cheating, if you he can promise not to do it again and you can get past it then stay together and get some therapy. |
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Rich B
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You're going to have to get this out sooner or later and sooner is better. It's going to eat at you and your relationship if you don't. A lot of communication is in order. Suggest afterwards, you both seek counseling. |
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wilrycar
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ask him directly. dont go and cheat on him tho it will just make you feel cheap. you are better than that. |
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TrainerMan
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Wait, DID you catch him, or are you thinking of what you would say if you actually caught him? |
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Annie
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HAVE you caught him, or are you just suspecting? Or do you THINK you caught him? Make sure you have cold, hard evidence first before you decide anything, whether it be to confront him or see if it's just a fling. My advice is to talk it out--there should be no secrets. Just don't forget to listen to HIS side of the story, too. |
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Miss Mai Tai
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tell him straight up what you saw. nothing is wrong with that, remember if its true, he is at wrong, not you... |
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luvlisteningtomusic
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You tell him get your **** and get out!!! |
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maryjane
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Tell him "I want a divorce" |
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Tiffany P
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if you caught him cheating you should have dragged him out from that dirty tramp and took care of business gurl, i cannot believe you have still not said anything to him while he sleeps in your bed next to while you wash his clothes, clean his house, and cook his dinner you need to tell him that you know what he has been doing and you need to get rid of him !!! You are better than that and if he really loved you he would have not doen you like that if he has doen how many other times do you think you dont know about. divorce him and find a real man who can take care of you who actually appreciates you i would not sit around and try to work things out he will just do it again have some respect for yourself and get rid of him you guys made promises to eachother when you got married and obviosly he has not kept any !!! good luck to you and i hope you find the right guy who will treat you how you deserve to be treated <3 |
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krusty_blue_spaz
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ask him why,then divorce |
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juicy
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what do you mean you don't know what to tell him. tell him you caught him and thats that. regardless if you were sneaking around to catch him you had a gut feeling and you were right he should be the one explaining hisself not you. |
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ladybug
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Honey,let the cat out of the bag!!! Then, ask him does he remember John Bobbitt? And you need new butcher knives. |
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Sarah B
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if you definitely know hes been cheating, confront him, its the only way, if you've been together for a long time, he will probably know that there is something wrong and that you have something on your mind, and you never know there might be simple explanation for what you have seen, you will never know unless you ask him about it, i would if it was my boyfriend, i would drive myself mad if do not confront him about it, sorry to hear about this and i hope you are OK. |
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Annie Girl
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Read the book Happiness Sold Separately by Lolly Winston. |
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Rab
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Run don't walk |
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waiting for baby
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CONFRONT HIM |
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sexygirl
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you poor thing be honest, hes the bad egg here hell probably try and turn it on you, remember once a cheater always a cheater, you deserve so much better. Good luck i feel for you |
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Byron Brunski
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Decide first if you can live with the fact that he cheated.......Then decide if you can live with him when he does it again....... If not Kick his sorry @ss the curb....... |
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God's chosen
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Tell him straight up you got your facts! Best of luck! GEt him for everything! |
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Local Celebrity
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Devestate him and surprise him with divorce papers. Laugh all the way to court too!!! Make sure he gets just what he deserves - nothing!!! |
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sam
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I am so sorry that you had to find something like that out. I think you should take a deep breath and tell him. I know how it is because I was in that situation. I was just frozen and tried not to confront the situation because I was in denial and thought if I heard it from him, that it would become reality and hurt me even worse. In my own strange way, I was trying to cope with it by convincing myself that "Maybe if I don't say anything about it, it will eventually go away" which is not true because regardless if you say something or not, the problem is still there. You have to tell him and confront the situation because you need to know where you stand, get it off your chest (keeping it inside will make you ill or miserable), if he is willing to working on saving your marriage, or if you want to make the decision to leave. It will eventually come out even if you don't say anything because trust me he will notice that you are not treating him the same way and keeping it in will make you miserable and will change you as a person for the worse. God bless you and I will pray for things to get better and you should too. |
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stephanierudder
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So your saying that you actually caught him? Go see an attorney. Theres not much else left to say. |
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crystald
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leave him...now...Why havent you brought this up yet?
he is the one who needs help !
Sorry honey! Keep your head up! |
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green eyes
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you can't keep that to yourself! tell him you saw him!!! although he might deny it. tell him exactly what you saw, what he did and with who .. give him details...
then leave him.. he doesn't deserve you. |
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Mean Carleen
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confront him about it and take it from there. |
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free_angel
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Tell him his secret has been exposed and he's history. |
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sweenygirll
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I'm sorry that you have to go through such a horrible thing. Do not let him get away with it. He will just keep doing it again and again. Confront him. |
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oscarboy
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i agree with the second response to this question.... if you DID catch him and you are sure about it, then leave. 99% chance it will happen again, if it didn't already happen earlier.
sorry that you are in this situation... it will be very hard now and for some time, but it will get better... respect and love yourself! |
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jude
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if we catch him cheating we confront the situation right away, and tell him how much this has hurt u, than wait for him to respond, if he is truly repentant, and wants forgiveness and it hasn't been a pattern of behavior in the past, than seek therapy. if he is not sorry, and tries to lay the reason he did this on you, than there isn't too much we can do about it, but stand up to him, and let whatever will be, just be. yes u will be devistated for awhile, a broken heart takes time to heal. but u can't allow him to get away with it, just because u fear abandonment. |
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Debcee
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Did you or didn't you catch him? If you did and have solid proof, then there is no question. Get rid of him. Once a cheater always a cheater!!! Good Luck |
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Did you catch him ?? You have to confront him with the evidence sooner or later if you want it resolved. He doesnt love you if he cheated on you anyway so dont tell him if you dont want to, just leave him. Im a man and im not married but I dont understand a man cheating on his wife I mean for Gods sake You have to be madly in love with someone to want to marry them dont you ?? So why would you want to be with someone else and hurt your wife.. I just dont get it.. I had so called friends who cheat on their wifes and I can never understand why these women ever loved such arseholes. Why is it that good men find it difficult to find good women and vise a versa . I hope your not hurting too much, What else can I say sorry. |
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msjojo101
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It happened to me, Iam the mistress. I dont think the man will cheat his wife if he loves his wife. He cheats because he doesnt love his wife. What's the use of keeping him, lady? Let him be free, it's you who will become miserable in the long run, lifeless and unhappy marriage for life. Let him go and be free. All I can say is divorce him, he is not worth to keep. |
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