What is my right on keeping my engagement ring if my boyfriend was the one to break up with me. He wants it?

a_lot_smarter_now

If you want to remain friends, then I guess you should give it back, but technically, I feel that if HE Is the one that called it off, you should be able to keep it for pain and suffering. Especially considering he went back and forth with you so much...but I gotta tell ya....with "friends" like that, who needs enemies!

sparkleythings_4you

Give him the ring, why do you wanna keep something that symbolises the end of your relationship, it's doubtful it will be worth enough to sell it so give it back, when you meet a real man in the future he'll give you a new one anyway.

Kanakalele

give it back, and NEVER accept it again. Too much drama with this guy. He would never make a suitable husband.

kheserthorpe

Etiquette dictates you should give it back. Legality may depend on what state/nation you're in.

You aren't friends.

sylonthego

technically the ring is given as a promise to marry..if you arent going to marry, then he is entitled to it unless he wants you to keep it. I saw this on a court show one day. you accept the ring as a promise to marry him..if you dont want to marry him...you have to give the ring back.

Mary

Give him the ring back and NEVER take it back no matter how many times he offers it to you! You don't want to marry his kind anyway. So sorry you got involved with one of those! I don't think there will be any way for you two to be friends after this but who knows, maybe you two will find some way to laugh about it in the future. Best wishes!

Icewomanblockstheshot

I'm afraid not; if he choses to go to court, it will come out like this:

The engagement ring is your acceptance of his proposal of marriage, if the marriage never happens, you have to give it back.

You keep it, if you get divorced, not if you never marry him.

clubchaos1965

give it back, and stop letting him play games with you.

Case

Give him the ring back and like another poster said, do not ever accept the ring from him again if he offers it to you. Here's the deal: The guy buys the ring as a promise to marry you, if it doesn't work out, you give him the ring back. Why would you even want to keep it anyways????

tiny Valkyrie

Given this situation, give it back to him & cut off contact with him. He has no buisiness treating a marriage proposal as something trivial.

basketcase88

I would give it back to him....and never ever accept it (or anything else for that matter) from him again.

Depending on the state you live in, it can be considered a gift, in which case you can keep it. But I'm with some of the others, why would you want to? Unless you want to try and sell it for the cash, but you're not going to get near what he paid for it. I wouldn't want it....there's some pretty bad karma associated with that ring/diamond, etc.

Joachin Murrieta

Technically, it's yours....but if its over, why do you want to keep it?

moe497

Uhh, I wouldn't be friends with him. I wouldn't want anything he gave me-give the ring back. You are dodging a bullet, run away!!!

the_hedda_lettuce

Just give him the ring and kick him to the curb.

Apparently, if things aren't going his way he uses the ring as leverage in the relationship. Almost like dangling carrots in front of a donkey.

I wouldn't even bother being friends with the guy. He seems very immature and petty.

Secret S

keeping the ring only gives you bad memories, its just a ring, give it back to him and move on, you don't even need his friendship.

NY Yanks Girrl

Sounds like drama, why would u want the ring if it came from hima nd your not gonna get married? If you give the ring back you get rid of him which u should do, but it seeems like your holding on to it, thinking he'll keep coming abck for it. Move on he keeps stringing u along, he ain't worthit just give iot back!

mgerben

The ring can only be destroyed in the fire of mount Doom where it was made... oh wait, that was something else.

It was a gift. Therefore, it is yours. There are no exceptions for rings. Keep it, it's a nice reminder which means something to you. It's your preciousss.
As for your EX. He's your ex, you don't have to listen to a word he says.

BluePassion

I would give the ring back and not accept it again. Why would you want to keep a ring that's been given and taken back so many times. Give it back to him and move on. Don't give this guy the time of day again. He sounds immature to begin with.

loulu

If he gave you the ring and then called it off, then it is considered a gift and you are entitled to keep it. If you want to remain friends, keeping the ring certainly won't be the way to start. After all of this going back and forth, why do you want to be friends anyway? Go your separate ways and be done with him!

bina64davis

I've seen this on some court show, and usually, if the guy breaks it off, you get to keep the ring because HE broke the verbal contract, not you. If you accepted the ring, and YOU broke it off, you would have to give it back, but it sounds like you stipulated it was a "promise" ring, and he broke the promise, so the ring is yours.

whatev

I too have seen this on court tv. Here is what really happens:

If he gives you the ring and you call it off, it was considered a promise to marry and you must return it. It's considered breach of contract.

If he is the one to call it off, it was considered his promise to marry you and he breached the contract, meaning you get to keep it.

So you get to keep it. I would sell it though!

Robin C

If you want to remain friends then give it back. If not, break all ties, and sell the ring. He gave it to you as a gift, so legally it is yours.

windchaser

IF HE THE ONE BREAKS IT OFF YOU KEEP THE RING,NOW IF YOU CALL IT OFF HE SHOULD GET THE RING.KEEP IT, UNLESS YOU FEEL IT WOULD HOLD BAD MEMORIES FOR YOU ,THEN SELL IT END OF PROBLEM.HE SHOULD NOT KEEP YOU ON AND OFF AGAIN ,SEEMS LIKE HE DOESNT KNOW WHAT HE WANTS.

swtlilblonde31

Give him the ring back, who would you keep it....are you afraid you'll never get another engagement ring?

LDJ

If a ring is given as a gift you can keep it. But if the ring is given with a promise of marriage and you brake up you give the ring back. But from what I'm reading you don't need him in your life at all.

demarkation_line

At this point in time.....I'd keep the ring.

He's given it to you 4 times and is using it as a symbol of control and punishment over you. He will do this to another person down the road and needs to learn that a ring is a very serious commitment. If he doesn't get it back this time, maybe he will think twice before playing games with the next girlfriend.

MiZZ707

Give him his ring back..You'll get a better one from the next guy... And lastly he is no friend of yours!

who me

I watch court shows on tv and i have seen cases like this one. A engagement rings is a promise to get married if it is cancelled the promise is broken therefore the man gets his ring back. If you were married the promise was kept and its yours.

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