What is one to do?

Jumana

once a cheater always a cheater, if you can live with him cheating on you, go ahead.... but no one deserves to be number 2 on her husbands list! talk to him, confront him, try counseling, do all the works so you can say i did everything i could to keep that marriage if it results in separation...
good luck..

nighteyes2118

If you think cheating on a cheater is the answer it isn't. Two wrongs definately don't make a right. If you feel you can't trust him and doubt you love him then it's time to move on. If you're not ready for the D word then try a trial seperation. Get outta the house. Meet some people. Join a club or class where adults get together for good clean fun. Don't answer this problem with sleeping around. In the end it will just confuse the issue. Being cheated on is the worst. No one deserves it!

wish I were

Why are you even still there? You deserve to be misserable if you are willing to accept this behavior and stay with him. Cheating isn't going to make you feel any better, you need to LEAVE!

laydenirvine

u need to get divorced and soon...

mick

I'm truly sorry.

Still, I think that doing the same thing to him would not make you happy at all. Right now you feel used and uncared about by him. Finding a guy to sleep with out of revenge will only let you feel used by the new man as well. It may hurt your husband, but I doubt it. He is already sleeping with others, so he really doesn't care that much. It will hurt you, though.

Better to leave him. Take time by yourself to heal, to recover, to find some stability by yourself first. Then you would be ready to start thinking about the next thing to do.

kellbelle21

2 times in 3 days? you need a divorce, dont sink to his level...

noblelady

you need a break, rather than jumping to someones bed. Leave for a few days go to family or motel, or go far enough away you sepnd the night away and just go shopping for you etc.

Give yourself time to clearly think thru things, then go from there.

If you really love him, then you cna forgive, and if nto then you need to divorce and get someone who derserves you.

Jumping into bed wil only complicate things and not help at all.

PiNkY

You and your husband need to get into counselling as soon as possible if your marriage is going to survive! You cannot have a successful, happy marriage without trust!!!!! If you belong to a church, see if you can speak with your pastor. If not, get out the trusty yellow pages and find a marriage counselor!!! Meanwhile, please don't stoop to his level and cheat with someone else - that will not fix anything, only make things so much worse.

I wish you well.

olderbutwiser

Revenge is NEVER sweet! You will not feel a bit better after you sleep with another man. At least now, when you look at yourself in the mirror, you can be proud of the person you see. If you have an adulterous affair also, you will lose a lot of that pride, and self-esteem. I know you're miserable, but if you can't stand it any longer, get a divorce and move on in your life. Good Luck!!

Julianna

The problem with that is you are contemplating revenge and not your own pleasure. The saying is true, if you're out for revenge as in "digging the grave of another" then "dig one for yourself" as well. When you exact revenge upon another you pay a heavier price more often than the one you set out to hurt.

Instead, collect your dignity and either move out or put HIM out. It's time for either marriage counseling or a divorce. Either you want to work on it or you want to move on. Please know that I don't speak lightly concering either. You're in my prayers. I hope the best for you.

nikkiby_nature

Honey, get out of this marriage now! You sound miserable! That person is a sorry excuse for a man, and you deserve so much more. Okay things may have turned sour, but the best marriages need work, and the fact that he just went and slept with someone else instead of coming to you and working through these things shows how much he thinks of you. Dump this loser, and start living YOUR life again, be happy and confident and don't even bother stooping to his level!

monetspicasso

get a divorce and remarry when you grow up

JOSH W

DUMP HIM ONCE WE CHEAT WE NEVER STOP

4HIM

Doing the same thing he did, would be wrong. You must respect yourself and demand that others do too. You must leave someone who does not respect you and is committing adultery against you. Can you stay with family until you can deal with the problem?

MONA H

if he has done this to you once he will do it again and again. just as long as he knows he can get by with it. let him know you know aboutit. leave him and find some one else. there are better men out there. dont stay there and be misserable and be punished for something he did wrong, you deserve to be happy too. go for it .

Tasha

I know that cheating seems like the answer but I think that it would crush you. There are a lot of bad emotions that come along with it and I don't think that any of them are worth lowering yourself to his level. Leave the guy, then get it on. You'll respect yourself a lot for this.

flyboy1

well logically, there is no respect anymore especially if it is happening periodically. Talk to him, see if theres a source for the cheating, why is it happening. Is he not happy?, Is it something that you can fix? If theres nothing that can be done about it then there is only two logical things to do, counseling or divorce. You may feel obligated to cheat also but then when you step back and look at the situation, why are you together in the first place? Talk and ask questions?

Ultimate Guitar Hero!

You dont want to stoop to his level do you? So, dont do it! You will just be as immature as he.

ashlynmadelynmommy

I'm sure that you are hurt. But sinking to his level isn't going to better you. As a matter of fact, it will only make matters worse cause then you will have to live with your own conscience. The only real way to handle the situation is to first decide whether or not you can repair the damage that he has caused. Is there any hope at all? If yes, figure out where you two can start the mending process. If no, move on. If you feel you need love / attention too and he can't give it to you, get a divorce. It is lawful and biblical. Then, and only then, would I consider a new start. A real man will never give you the love, respect, and honor that you deserve while you are married to another. You will just be a convenience. Good luck and may God bring you through your pain.

bobweb

Get some counseling from your church or local family counseling center.

jetta

If your husband has cheated on you that many times, why are you still with him? It is obvious he is not happy and neither are you. You need to either put him out or you move out. It is awful that this man has had more than one affair and you are still with him. I tell ya now, if my husband did me that way, there is no questions to be asked b/c I would be long gone. Honey move on and get rid of that no good husband of yours. He is not worth holdin on to. Please go to the clinic and get checked for STDs too. There are some nasty women in this world.

Jesus Christ Track Starrr

first of all calm down. And leave him. sounds like he's an ***. Don't get angry and try to get even, just leave.

itscarolj

LEAVE HIM or get relationship help....marriage is about monogamy,love,understanding one another,and caring for one another,and of course the s word.These things must be shared with only one othre person or else it has no deeper meaning than what is seen on the surface, and marriage is about having a deeper connection.

fucose_man

Just read down the questions here for married guys with the same problem. You'll find some.

NLH823

You need to leave him. He obviously doesn't have any respect for you or your relationship. Cheating on him will not make you feel any better and why? You need to move on.

roky_emad

live him

monica your new bff

get rid of him. Its obvious.

gianina m

If he's cheating on you well i'm sorry he doesn't love you. You deserve better than that and trust is everything in a realationship and if you don't have that as your foundation you have nothing you need to be treated better than that ask yourself do you really want to be with someone who always wants to sllep with other women.

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