What is the MOST effective way to communicate with MEN?

ursoolovely

I used to be the person who thought communicating was done in the form of yelling at the top of my lungs. Hearing that you want to be able to communicate without lashing out, is the first step. I hope the advice that I'm going to give you, helps you. It may not be what you want to hear, but if you are open minded and truly want to change for the better then it will shine some light on what needs to be done on your part.

First off, think about the reaction that you are giving to a situation. When you feel yourself getting to that point where you want to go off at the mouth. Take a deep breath and ask yourself do I want to communicate in a manner that I want to relay my feelings to what he/she just said. Or do I want to fight fire with fire and yell back or say something hurtful to him/her. You, yourself has to become level-headed. You will have to put forth the effort to change. Remember it's a good change, and remember to make the change for yourself.

I hope this helps you!

net1

in all seriousness have you tried an anger management class. a willing participant is the best student.

henry r

It's funny, and a bit sad, that women think that nudity and beer is the best way to communicate with a man.

The answer is so basic that it often gets complicated.

The answer is to keep things simple because we often are and approach things the same way.

Leave nothing to interpretation, be forthcoming and truthful.

tommygavin04

you answered your own question. Stop doing what pushes men away. Be more understanding, sympathetic, and lose your need to patronize people and be rude.

Blondie8

I am the same way. What I do is just take a reeeeaaallll deep breath when I feel myself getting worked up and then I think before I speak...Because if I don't I am going to piss someone off more than they already are. Before you speak, think if you would want someone to talk to you that way. I still have trouble with this but I am working on it. Good luck!

jackielafemme

Read a lot of stuff about self assertiveness, books, internet, whatever come to your hands..thatÂ´s what you need, youÂ´ll feel great to see how it works in your live..you wont have to go through the same attitude issues youÂ´re dealing with. Here a link read and you will understand what I mean.
http://www.businessballs.com/self-confidence-assertiveness.htm

John

If you want a Man's attention while talking...

Stand in front of him in panties and a t-shirt, holding the TV remote and a plate of Bar-b-Que ..... works every time.

So your expressive .. you will find a man who wants that in a relationship .. don"t change who you are .. find a guy that fits in your life ... and who strengthens your weaknesses & enjoys your strengths.

Amy S

ive learned if you have something negative to say to a man, sandwich it in between compliments.
Example: honey, i love when you help around the house, can you please take out the trash every morning, you are sweet, i really appreciate it.
Men are frustrating creatures, but attack them in a way that they dont know there being attacked.

Ruskie

I used to be like that for years and lost a lot of relationships because of it and one day I decided that I needed to just relax, calm down and stop flipping out and I'm not perfect but once I realized how I looked to others, I changed.
It's all about discipline..just change for the good

alice

I think one of the best things you can do when you notice something really angers you is to sorta...take a step back from yourself and ask "why am I getting so angry? Is it really so bad that I need to react so violently?" And just take a deep breath and make a decision to not let it bother you. It's not a big deal..just relax. Unless something really does go horribly wrong or someone offends you deeply then there is probably no consequence that will really harm you. It will take a lot of concentration but you can sorta train yourself not to react so drastically by just breathing deep and counting to 10, shrug it off :] things will go much better that way I think. Good luck ^_^

nebula

This has nothing to do with communicating with men, it has to do with your obvious anger issues. You need to figure out how to control your emotions and temper, however you can. Maybe you need to see a therapist, maybe you need to read some self-help books. I can't tell you what you need to do, other than make it clear that this isn't about the man you want to communicate with; it's about you.

Ozgood

Men are physical, and visual, action is what speaks to us.

ehhyo

I am the exact same way!
I find i have to take myself away from the situation and calm down. Then I think about what it is that's actually bothering me and the best way to communicate my feelings (well I try to do this, but its hard not to lash out sometimes).
It's better to say "Leave me alone right now," then to blurt out hurtful things that you can't take back.

Wyman

make an effort. I hate girls who do sh*t like that. If you ever did that to me id smack you but hey, just take everything as a joke. That always helps. Dont say anything mean cause it is a major turn-off. Thats why i broke up with my girlfriend a few months ago, she was always saying things that turned me off instead of turning me on lol. I just got so sick and tired of it i just called her and said i wanted to break up with her cause of that kind of behavior. So please. Be nice, keep calm. It aint the end of the world.

B0uncingMoonman@aol.com

You sound like a naturally `angry` person. You should sit yourself down, have a quiet think, and try to understand why you are so angry and fly off the handle so quickly.
Is it because you think you are always right?

In other words, take time to calm down. "Calm Down Dear" as that Telly Wally Guy says.

slinky

There is no way to communicate with a man......unless your naked or have a beer in your hand! lol

Mean Carleen

Anger management classes

iverson12346

just say that i like you and i give good hand jobs then the conversation will get going lmao..

Shery79

First thing when men upset you something and you lost it. Take a walk and not talk to him for a short time until you calm down first. Such as I need do something or do errands such as tell him that you need wash dishes. Give him a silent treatment, too. At least you can do that to control your temper.

Think of three sentences that you want to say to him. More than three sentences, he will be unlikely to listen.. Find something clear and short for men. No rude and offensive messages. Just plain truth with good message.

Also make sure that he is not busy with sport tv or something that he love to do. If he is, wait until he is available. Men only can focus one thing at time.

TOASTEE

you must be on tv, half (or totally) naked, and talk about sports...

thats about the only way. sorry

Mr. Shpongadongle

You have to give up the ego to support the relationship. Your ego will kill any relationship you're in. Meditation is a good way to calm yourself down.

pureblueagave

Find someone just like you... a guy who is also a smart ***, and one that can return those remarks back to you. One of two things will happen, either you guys will get along great, or you'll see how it feels and change your ways.

Dr. Z

breath, don't get angry breathing is the best way to calm down and effectively think through what you are going to say

Smileygreeneyes

wow. Not that being really good at handjobs wont get you far in life.
But guys like funny girls. Ones that can joke around with. Watch funny/ stupid movies with. Like step brothers or superbad. Youll get far if you like those movies.

Ms. Intellect

Hold yourself together. Take a deep breath, and think about what you want to say before you say it. Don't whine. Look at him in the eye and speak reason. Don't yell. Speak with a normal tone, avoid attitude.

Maybe something on the lines of this:
"NAME, I would very much appreciate it if you think before you say things to me. You keep hurting me. I don't want to get mad at you but you have a way of getting under my skin. Please stop."

Hope this helped.

Lifetime sentence of school

Most guys just need time to cool off, maybe you should try that. Just take a deep breath and remove yourself from the situation for awhile
Or start humming or whistling
lol thats what I did when I worked at a daycare and was getting stressed out and annoyed. I just started whistling something and it made me forget and put me in a better mood.

Ashley D

Learn to have fun with it. When he says something that gets you going just think of it as flirting or an opportunity to flirt and do that instead. Plus, you could tell him like "whoa - you sure do know how to set me off, or get me going, etc"

CAMS

You can be straight forward and honest without being a c*nt.

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