What is the best advise you have gotten or can give about having a long and happy marriage?

artisticallyderanged

Love, respect, and communication. All are key.

simple, but true

Never go to bed mad, and remember that you are now one and each others priority. Live for each other and let God guide you.

L J

I think the best advice I got was from my brother. He told me that there are going to be days that you roll over and look at your spouse and think, "ugh, you again".

You won't be crazy about your spouse every waking moment and the honeymoon does eventually end, but that by working through those feelings of "ugh" and always being open with your spouse everything will work out.

Irish Girl

Communication, honesty and trust without those a marriage can not last.

mom of twins

I agree with the person that said to laugh. Don't hold a grudge and make sure to communicate it is the key to a happy marriage.
Me: 15 years!

rachie

laugh and laugh often!

kat

To be open and honest with each other and dont stop talking and never bottle things up.

nwnativeprincess

commitment, communication, honesty, laughter, and love.

Tziporrah B

The happiest couple I've ever seen, who stayed together death-til-we-part, always patted or kissed or in some sweet way acknowledged the others presence when they passed through the house, etc.

Jimfix

After 38 years I feel qualified. Never try to have the last word. Never say anything that you will regret. Nothing is that important. Do not impose your will. Be spontaneous. Never ever lie.

God first, communication, trust, partnership

smecky809042003

Pick your battles. Compromise. Don't nag.

dpcemker

Lasting relationship are all about been patient and loving to your partner. Understanding is the key to the secret.

Sadie

If you both put the majority of your energy into making your spouse happy, you will have a happy and lasting marriage.

Ikkin

I've been married for 9 years. My advice is to always remember that the two of you are two different people and won't always agree on everything. Also, men do not think the way that women do at all. You may get really upset with him over something you think he should be doing and he has no clue what the heck you are thinking. Communication is key. Listen and learn together.

Destiny

Still go on dates, respect eachother and flirt.

Elvira

Pick your battles. Don't fight over the little stuff.

janetrmi

Put each other first and make God the center of your marriage.

Kari R

Couples who play together stay together...
Also communication is VERY important, and compromise.

Sweetness

No name calling when arguing. That is never forgotten.

C M

Space and trust

ransdoll90

Communication...And find time to spend together doing fun things. My husband and I have two nights a week that we spend at least 4 hours together, doing nothing but talking and listening. We have been married for 17 years and everyone around us says we have the best marriage. There are always mountains to climb in a marriage, but the foundation is what makes you able to climb those mountains.

Poppet

My mother on my wedding day said, "Pick your battles. Is it worth fighting over? No, stop fighting and get over it. Yes, stand your ground until they agree or a compromise can be reached."

A co-worker said off-hand something that I have never forgotten and I honestly believe is true, "I wise woman keeps her man satisfied."

samwise25

don't lie or cheat,always communicate no matter how much you want to sul up,always respond when your spouse tries to be affectionate even if your not in the mood,never say anything you wish u could take back because you can never take it back and they will never forget,always tell your spouse u love them when they leave or on the phone,always be supportive never critical,ask for what you want don't demand it,and be happy,laugh together and talk and snuggle this is the person you are supposed to grow old with.....

Coolltw2003

communitcation!! and never put yourself in a situation in which your partner questions your trustworthyness. always ask your self "would my spouse be okay with this?" if the answer is no, then don't do it!!

Lachelle

The first and most important way to be on your way to a happy and long marriage is marrying the right person. I realize this sounds obvious however, I have seen many marriages fail simply because the two were not right for each other. Marriage is not something to rush into! Take the time to really get to know the person. Talk about what you both want to do in life, and make sure your goals mesh. For example, if you want children and they don't, it won't work. Make sure you know what is important to you and that they share whatever it is or will be supportive of whatever it is. This is where honesty is very important! Realize marriage is work and be willing to work for it. Know that it will not always be easy.

richard_beckham2001

Always keep the romance alive, never take each other for granted.
Support your partner when they need you most.
Remember to say i love you at least once a day.
Do your own things from time to time, just because your married you are still entitled to enjoy doing your own things.

Keith Python

Give each other the same level of love and respect that you expect for yourself.

WKDPIXY

Communicate, be loyal, be honest, be consistent, no name calling, never go to bed angry with one another, violence is never the answer, don't air your laundry, never say something you don't mean - even in the heat of the moment, don't wield words like weapons of destruction simply to hurt the feelings of the person you claim you love, it takes two opposing forces to have a conflict and both parties are at fault in every argument. Love sees thru a microscope, not a telescope. Respect is a two way street.

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