What is the best way to tell your wife that she needs to lose weight?

ricardo l

Tell her to get off that fat *** and lose some weight. you dont want to be marrried to a porker.

Are you saying that it's ok to commit adultery but that you don't want to hurt her feeling by saying she's fat?

That's wrong.

repent or do her a real favor and divorce

BahamaBlue

tell her that you just want her to be healthy and you want her to live longer. and if you have kids tell her that you want her there with you to watch them grow and watch your grandkids grow. Being overweight is VERY serious. Dont make it an issue of appearance rather make it a healthy choice. Tell her you want to get healthy with her!

Fabo

She makes you cheat on her because she's overweight? Ask her to lose weight and leave you, because you're trash.

gal-next-dr

ur not very nice, so u have cheated on her, she deserves better

misjes2000

make her dinners and work out with her.
Trick her into going on "active" dates

~Steffy~ Junior will shine in 09

Wow....apparently you don't love her. Love is more than whats in the trunk dude. Grow up.

julygirl75038

BahamaBlue said it best.
Also, go grocery shopping with her. And watch the biggest loser tv program if you are in the usa. I am also over 100 pounds overweight....or at least I used to be. My husband was up front and honest with me, went shopping with me to make sure we bought the right foods, and worked out with me. I have so far lost 65 pounds. Keep a weight chart to keep track of the weight loss. Weigh yourselves every 3 days and put it on the chart.

sheeny

You can tell her. But you better be ready to duck.

Amanda

There really is no nice way to say it, but maybe you can tell her that you are going to start eating healthier and ask her if she would support you by not eating unhealthy foods in front of you. This way she feels like shes helping you, so she feels good about herself, actually you will be helping her.

Joy

dont worry about telling her, because she is probably cheating on you with some one who loves her just the way she is. She is probably laughing at you behind your back calling you a dumb dumb *** too. At least I hope that is whats going on. Uh yeah I am probably right . LOL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

oldman

Oh man you are treading on VERY thin ice here. First off you are really saying that the ONLY thing you love about your wife is her body. Do you have any kids? If so...who had those kids a put THERE body through that round! If all you love her for is her body....not that she has been there for you possibly had your children been a friend and lover for how many years? Does none of that count for anything? Have you too not changed? Has she told you that you are going bald and she wants you to do something about it. or that your "Tool shed is getting a little big" ( in other words you have gained a few pounds yourself). I don't know how old you are....but maybe YOU don't quite "measure up like you use too" if you know what I mean.
I think you need to take a loooong look in the mirror and see if YOU are he same guy she married.....and if after looking you say " hell ya I haven't changed....you need glasses! We all change....now as far as using that as a reason to CHEAT.....You can not lay that one on her! There is NEVER a reason to cheat! Period!
If you really love her as you said.....maybe don't say anything at all....tell her that after dinner YOU would like to start taking walks for YOUR health....and you would like her to come along....that way you are NOT insulting the one you say you love...and you are helping BOTH of you out.
Best of luck.....now go look in the mirror

eddygordo19

Go with the health angle. Tell her you love her and that you couldn't bear living without her, but if she continues with her ways, then she will surely die early.

ally'smom

she dose not MAKE YOU CHEAT you cheat because your a loser and a terrible husband my best advice for her to lose over 100 pounds DUMP YOUR A**!.

browneyes27

Your a loser. Tell your wife what you just told everyone on here. You don't want to cheat on her but you do. yeah so you cheat on your wife as if that is not bad enough its even worse when you blame her for it. Yeah it isn't her fault you cheat on her thats your own fault. and don't say that you don't want to cheat on her because you do. you don't respect your wife because she doesn't look the same. thats just shallow. I think you are the one that needs a reality check. so why are you with your wife because its pretty obvious you don't really love her. I really feel bad for her she probably thinks that you are a good guy and husband if she only knew what you really thought of her. She should leave you.

Colleen

She doesn't MAKE you cheat. It is something that you CHOOSE.

However, to answer your question, that is a tough one. Actually, my hubby needs to lose weight, too. He won't even listen to his Dr., or anyone in his family, including me and his kids. I'm trying the "leading by example" and hoping that works. I have told him that I need his "support" because I am trying to lose weight. I told him that we should take walks together. No, again. That was an excuse. "My feet hurt. I walk all night long."
Good luck AND nothing she does can make you cheat, that is such bull!

MmEe

Brad Pitt? Is that you? Oh, sorry, I just thought because you must be just soooo hot yourself! Loser!!

Max Power

tell her that you are very worried of her health because she is overweight, you can do exercize together

sunflowerchick

your an a** if you love her size should not matter!!!

LiL Momma

Dont tell her any kind of BS! The best thing is to encourage her and maybe you both can get healthy together not only over weight people have health problems you may look okay but you may not be.

gardener24

wow very touchy subject:
if i were you i would find an old pic of ya'll or an old dress, outfit, pair of jeans, etc. that she had from when she was smaller and say something like "i would love to see you slip into this again for me" but use the right tone, your tone of voice is very important.
or maybe she has said something about how she wants to lose wieght or that she's not happy about her weight, so get her a membership to a gym or a ladies only fitness club, when you give it to her tell her that you know that she's been wanting to get back into shape and you thought maybe that she would appreciate the gift. be tactful about it. let her know that you love her either way no matter what that way she won't think that you're degrading her for her size. but that you just wanted to do something nice for her

fantasia.

Just say....lets go on a salad diet for about a month we both need to lose a bit of weight. Whether you do or not doesnt matter but it will not hurt her feelings this way.

cherry pie

dont cheat on her! how can yuo say you love her if her physical appearance is so important to you it makes you lie and go behind her back? im sure that yuore not what you used to be and have changed, but hopefully shes not cheating on you! if you realize you do truley loved her and youve made a mistake, just say you want to loose weight and ask her to do it with you as a bonding experience and to help encourage yuo. you can both diet and workout together.

Jane D

I think your going to have to be honest with her here and sit her down and explain how your feelings are towards her. make sure you let her know you still love her and you want to be with her but the attraction is gone. and you dont' get excited like you use to.

and that you want to help with this your in it together afterall she didnt' get fat on her own. Im sure the food you have in the house the dinners your bring home from time to time fast food doesnt' help the driving her to go get a sundae etc...

So let her know you want to help. And if you have the money get her to join a gym if she doesn't like that get into sports together if she' doesn't want to join with strangers you take her bike riding or out for exercise.

You can start by going for a walk with her after dinner that will also give you time to catch up on both your day.

Can also help her by saying she will get a new wardrobe of nice things and you'll buy some new clothes for her soemthing she really wants. So she has a goal to go for.

Oh and find out if she's eating for comfort. sometimes women are loved by there husbands and so they fill the gap with food. So dont' forget to check yourself out do you swear at her put her down all these things will bring her down and she'll eat to forget the pain.

Hope that helps.

luvlisteningtomusic

Don't put the focus on her weight that would make things worse she will just get even bigger. You should tell her that you have been wanting to eat right and exersise but you need her help and tell her how hard it is to keep away from the goodies if they are there in the home. Ask if she would like to join the gym with you and make a game out of it. Tell her she looks beautiful and praise her when she looses a few pounds.

BWILD & GODSDIVA

You first have to compliment her often on how beautiful she is. Then she will start loivng herself more and wanting to lose weight. If she feels she is doing it for you she will never do it. Then you have to take her for walks (romantically). Then you will have to buy "yourself" workout tapes that are fun and start workout with her. Make it "quality" time. Tell her that you would like her to help you. Believe me, I lost over 100lbs this way when my husband did that and I am keeping it off myself. He tells me that he will love me unconditionally and he shows it and I show him by trying to look my best for myself now to show my love in return. It works. If you like a sport show her how to play. And remember you are not perfect so when you are then you can complain. Treat her like you want to be treated. Take her dancing. Doing this will "kill two birds with one stone". If she still rejects this (which she won't) then don't give up. She will come around when she feels you accept her.

Journey

What makes you think your what you use to be?You obviously have no idea what love really is.If you really wanted to be with only her then thats the way it would be.

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