What is the best way to win my wife back after splitting up?

vegasskiier2581

Why was she wanting the split in the first place? You may want to start there.

jazzyj

Wait on her and don't keep calling her or being too pushy, because she'll take these as signs that you haven't changed!! Just keep going to counseling, and when she finally does call ask her about joining you in counseling to work on the relationship, so you can get ready to come home!!

redhead27

I think you are doing plenty, counseling... and trying to talk to her.

its up to her now to make the next move.

maybe send her flowers?

EagleWatcher

Stop hunting her down! For crying out loud! Give her some time and NO 3 weeks ain't long enough! Don't you realize it by now?
You are either the hunter OR you are the hunted! God, give her a break! Go out, spend some YOU time.No, I'm not a girl, I have 2 daughters and a wife. They think that I don't listen when they have their "mommy" time. I read my newspaper.
This is going to sound crazy, but if you really want her back in your life, take a week-end. BY YOURSELF. No phone. No TV. No cell. No pager. No beer.That's right, NO BEER! Just you, pen and paper. Leave yourself to your memory. Write down the things SHE talked about. What's important ot her. Her favorite things. What's on her mind.
When she starts hunting you, you'll be ready to wear the shirt that she loves on you. Take her to HER, not ours, not yours, HER favorite restaurant. Do that little "thing " that you do that makes her laugh. Let her remind herself why she fell in love with you. SHE DON"T NEED YOUR MEMORY!!!!!!!!!!!!
Time, space, comfort, patience, acceptance,
practice, practice, practice.
I'll leave you with this final thought:
"The only constant is change".
Good luck!

Douglas B

Sometimes it's not about how many times you call that will make the difference, it might be no calls at all. She knows you want to talk to her so let that one go. You have to work on yourself now and that is what is important. It seems that you may let your wife get you off track and that wouldn't be any good. You may have to face the reality of it sooner or later, that she might find that she just doesn't love you anymore and you will not change her mind. Even if you could talk her into coming back and it was against what she felt, don't you see how that might only make things worse? That the whole time she is with you she would only be thinking of getting away.

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You should watch the movie FIREPROOF.........they have a "Lovedare" book thing that they follow and it's really cute. He won his wife back by following that book. You can also go on to www.fireproofmymarraige.com and there is a real "Lovedare" book that you can buy! Good luck! Hope everything works out for you!

MJV

Also sometimes a wife doesn't want to get back together just for the kid or kids, they want you to want to get back with them for THEM, like you have to want her totally and not just like, "Well my parents were divorced and it messed me up." Otherwise in the back of her mind she's thinking that once your child grows up everything is going to fall apart.

Clementine

tell her that you cannot stretch it any more, that is what you want, and you want her to think about it, think it through if it's worth it for her to give it another shot, and get back to you to let you know. And don't bother her in the meantime, let her take her time and think. You can always send her a little text message, like I miss you and stuff. Good luck

mydickbender

why would you want her back you should be thrilled its a new start man seize the moment

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