What is wrong with me?

Rachel

OMG! You are perfect. I would love to have a partner like you. If your wife doesn't appreciate you, sit her down and find out why. Things will only get worse if you don't communicate. And if it is something fundamental which you can't or are not willing to change about yourself, then call it a day now before it goes any further, It will only end in someone getting hurt, which it seems you are already.

popeyetcj

dam, if my wife read this, she'd want to trade me in for the younger, new and improved model...you!!! :)

Seriously though, "FAR FROM PERFECT" reading between the lines there she could be saying she's closer to perfection then you are and to that I would say hogwash. None of us are perfect. Sit her down and ask her what is it she expects from you and from the marriage.

Joyce B

Your wife finds you far from perfect? So what? Do you expect her to worship the ground you walk on? I'm sure you realize that she is not perfect either. Sounds like you may need some counseling. Together and separately.

George

You need to establish some honest communications with you wife. I know it is difficult. What I get from my wife is 'I didn't want to hurt your feelings' or 'I just told you what you wanted to here.' You base things on what you wife tells you, then you find out she has been lying. I call that not giving you a chance. It has caused many divorces. Things keep building up, and finally things collapse. I wish I knew an answer to the problem, I have been searching for one for years.

todayillsee

Well if you think about it, every person in the world is FAR FROM PERFECT, no one is perfect and no matter how hard you try you will never be perfect. You should remind her of that and tell her that she should be thankful for what she has because not many men do the things you do. Don't let it bother you because you know she's far from perfect herself.

kpopp

So, why don't you ask her? What are you afraid of? This is exactly why so many marriages fail. One partner or the other is afraid to ask. They fear a rejection or an argument. Get to it! Ask your question. For more info on what goes into a marriage, check out my source.

Anne W

These are questions that you need to ask your wife. Obviously there is something about you that she loves - but nobody likes EVERYTHING about EVERYBODY all of the time. Or even some of the time. Such as - my husband and I have been married for 19 years and I absolutely abhor the fact that he smokes up to a pack of cigarettes a day and has for the last 20 years. Do I hate him for it? No, but I hate the fact that he does it. Do I think he is perfect otherwise? No, because he is HUMAN like everyone else. Do I want to be with someone else because of it? No, because I love him.

Sit her down and ask her what is going on. It is probably something trivial and not anything real important. More than likely nothing that will change how she feels about you (especially since you sound like a great guy!) and possibly something that you can change to make her feel better about things. Just remember that we are all human and no one is perfect. THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH YOU.

ColdHardTruth

Some people are NEVER satisfied with what they have. She sounds like one of them. She will always find fault in you no matter what. Stop trying to be perfect because you'll never accomplish it in her eyes.

I Like Grapes

I honestly think this happens to everyone when the have a new baby. I gave birth 5 months ago and I AM the one forgetting things but I do look at my husband diffrently sometimes. I think it's just stress I think it's good that she points out the your far from perfect, to me that means she loves you enough to not be afraid to hurt your feelings. I dont think that she regrets marrying you or wants another person. I go through times in my life and think "Is this as good as it gets?" And I think maybe thats what shes going through. I believe you have a great quality in being a "listener" instead of a talker. But with that said u need to get her to open up by talking to her about how you feel.

Maybe she's lonely? Ask her to think about what she thinks is missing from the marriage and to let you know. Date night?

i8pikachu

"Far from perfect" is a very vague term. Does she think that not putting the commode seat down is far from perfect or does she think having an affair is far from perfect.

You have to give an example of what she thinks is far from perfect for anyone to give a good answer.

It also seems like you're trying to be who you are not to accommodate her: trying to be a talker, listener, etc... and she expects this. When a woman expects a man to act like a woman, there are problems. She sees this accommodation and she doesn't see love. Instead, she sees a weak man who she can push around. Deep down, she does not want a man like this even though it's appealing at first. You are, no doubt, a very nice man, but you're weak. You need to remain nice but also be assertive and let her appreciate you for being her man, and not her girlfriend.

im the boss : )

you are who you are and that sounds good to me! i wish my husband was more sensual, lol.

tell her to take it or leave it. it sound like shes never satisfied!

Into the Mystic

Reba Mcintyre-sp? had a song that said "You can't make your heart feel something it won't". Great song, very true. I would suggest getting a divorce before the child gets to much older. I don't know if this makes a difference but if I was gay and you was gay also. I would date you. You sound perfect.

Him Roy Dull

Here we go the "new" smell is wearing off. Long term relationships take a lot of understanding and most of all work. Kids, jobs, babysitters, friends, family, time alone, who takes care of what, yada yada the list goes on and on. Let her read this to REAL LIFE IS KICKIN IN time to go to work.

If you think things are getting old then meet someone else give it some time and you'll see real life just keeps comming back. You two seem young so listen up here. YOU AIN"T PERFECT NOR NEVER WILL BE. This is where "for better or for worse" kicks in. You except others faults but it's hard to except one anothers because of a unique relationship you share.

Just work on being what the other one likes but be RESPECTFUL of what you ask from them. You two do this because you love each other and care. This is what commitment is all about. Long term relationships take work and if you two don't learn from a crissis and just give up then you will never be in a long term relationship.

Life is tough and now you two are dealing with it together and thats even harder to do. Just have faith in one another and for Christ sakes don't give up. LEARN how to communicate without showing anger. If you talk like you are in control in a arguement then the other one will NOT respect your wishes. When someone has a problem with you be understanding and not defensive and TALK about it not argue. Your not perfect nor are they. You might not agree with what they want but you do want to make them happy right? You can argue over what to watch on TV but not your relationship K.

Seek counsiling even if you have to just don't give up please LEARN from this. How do people make it to that 50th anniversery with thier grandbabies? You think them nor I haven't already been where your at. Hell I'm going through the toughist time ever in my marraige and we both still feel we'll make it. I've learned giving advise here on what I've learned helps me cope.

Let her read this to and you two get ready for a wonderful life with that baby. Its tough but you are the adults here and welcome to life its only what you make of it.

RedneckBarbie

Maybe you're too egotistical for you? Maybe she's just trying to bring you back down to earth a little?

My husband thinks he's perfect. And he woudl brag on himself like this... but there are things that make him FAR FROM PERFECT.

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