What kind of woman would deny her husband the chance to be a father?

Ade

Oh please. Give me a break. Its HER choice. He shouldn't have married her if it were that important to him. Clearly, it's not.

abc

first of all, you should butt out of your brothers marriage and whether they have kids or not, secondly, they should have discussed this before they got married.......sounds like she wouldn't be a good mother so not having children is a good idea....not everyone should have children...now butt out

James R

He should have established this before he got married. If he knew she was like this - then you can't blame her.

To ask your question another way: What sort of husband would force childbearing onto his wife?

the kidd

one who does not want children. iam sure your brother knew this before he got married.

cbrtrixta

Sorry to say but your brother and his wife should have discussed these issues BEFORE they got married. He's stuck now, and should be, you gotta know if your future spouse has the same life goals, especially children!

C'mon people!

TeaQueen

This is something that is so obvious, your brother had to have known she felt this way before they married, but he married her anyway making a common mistake, thinking he could change her once they were married.
So I ask you, what sort of man would marry a high maintenance, career driven woman and expect her to give up everything she's worked so hard for just to have children which she clearly has no interest, and NEVER, showed any interest in doing?

kitkat

The kind who disscussed it with husband before marriage and made it clear she didn't want kids. I suspect he knew this and had hoped to change her mind after marriage. Keep your nose out and let him work through this with HIS wife...

msgolf

This is none of your business. This issue is between the two of them. Maybe what your brother is telling you is different then what he is discussing with HIS wife. He made the choice to marry this woman. He is a man. Don't mother him just because you think every woman should have children. If she is behaving this way then thank God that they do not have children. Good luck.

seretazandrae

I would be willing to bet they discussed children before they got married. I don't understan how this truly concerns you. Some women and men too just don't feel the need to be parents. This is really their problem and you should stay out of it if at all possible. Don't you have a life of your own to be concerned with. I don't want to seem too harsh but this is how many marriages is ruined by well meaning relatives.Again. NOT YOUR PROBLEM

Sugarbabe

I don't want children and wouldn't marry a man who did. Its a PERSONAL CHOICE.

Valerie X

Their marriage is NONE OF YOUR BUSINESS!!!!!!

craz4ourgod

Speaking as a father of 11 and one more on the way,
I feel for your brother, nothing soothes the soul and make you appreciate life like kids, yes they are a pain in butt at times, yes they can aggravate you to insanity, but they also bring you the most obscurest of joys, like when out of the blue when your depressed, your 3yr old brings you dandelions and say here dad cause i love you.

as to the selfish female-- dogs are unfortunately NOT a replacement for kids, and it makes me sick to see people that treat them like humans....they are dogs and that is what they should be treated as......
the fear of losing ones identity after having children is another myth, if you seriously want your body back after child birth , then after giving an amount of recovery time, work on your body to get it back in shape. you might be surprised that after, you have a better body shape, more developed.

lastly I was curious... did they have an agreement between them, as to when, or how many kids they'd like to have?

are they on schedule? it's funny how fast life will pass you by,
you think you have time and wham, your 40+ wondering were your life went......
then again maybe it's a blessing that they don't have kids if she is so self-centered... the kids would suffer, and dad would be doing everything (this wears one out fast- my Grey hairs from x is proof of that)

good luck and hope this helps

Battery Operated Boyfriend

Based on your description of her she sounds like she understands her own limitations. Would you want your brothers children to be ignored and treated as second rate people? She does not want children and would not do well with them. He made a choice when he married her. If he wants children then he'll have to go elsewhere for that.

kaffegeek

obviously he made a bad choice for him. it is clear that she did not want children BEFORE the marriage. so, he has no right to expect her to change.

she was honest from the beginning, eventhought she is very shallow. AND a person like that should not have children anyway as they will be poor parents. help her and the rest of humanity by encouraging the tubal ligation.

tammy

Your brother knew these things before he married her. Why do you think its your business? Why do you concern yourself with the flow of her menstral cycle? your nosy and intrusive. Get out of thier business, mind your own. She has the right to not want children and even dislike children.
Perhaps when she get older her opinion will change. Maybe not. Not for you to judge.
Your brother married her because he loved her. Your interferance in thier marrige will cause him doubt and confusion and misery. You will be a problem.

Kim B

If she doesn't want children, that that's her choice. I imagine that your brother knew what she was about when he married her, so he's probably not surprised. She may change her mind and decide she wants to have children in the future, but right now she is going to do what she wants.

If your brother loves his wife as much as you say he does, then he is going to stick with her no matter what you say.

What kind of woman would deny her husband children is the kind of woman that does not want to be a mother. What kind of man would force his wife to be something she did not want to be?

Marge

it's not her fault she doesn't want kids...it's your brothers fault for being with a woman who doesn't want kids..it's clearly his choice.

Lady in Red

If a couple decides together to not have kids, fine. If they want to, fine. However, they should be in agreement on that issue. That's a biggie. Up there with "what constitutes cheating?" Myself, I am a super-fidelity person who considers hitting on other people at bars wrong even if you "never plan to sleep with them", etc. Anyway, some issues should be non-negotiable, and that's one of them. Negotiable issues would be "who does the dishes" "bedtime for the kids" (if there are some) "who cooks dinner" "where to live" and other compromiseable issues.

Kasja

Your brother should have known about this befor they even considered getting married and you should just stay out of it, it is not your business.

â€ Evonneâ€

A woman who has her priorities all mixed up. She sounds selfish. Here's the thing, She doesn't have GOD in her life and she definitely would NOT make a good wife.
If she had God in her life, everything else would fall into place.
Your brother also sounds like HE too needs to seek the Lord. He is blinded by his wife's beauty. In the Bible it says;

Proverbs 12:4
A wife of noble character is her husband's crown, but a disgraceful wife is like decay in his bones.

Proverbs 31
Sayings of King Lemuel
1 The sayings of King Lemuelâ€”an oracle [a] his mother taught him:
2 "O my son, O son of my womb,
O son of my vows, [b]
3 do not spend your strength on women,
your vigor on those who ruin kings.
4 "It is not for kings, O Lemuelâ€”
not for kings to drink wine,
not for rulers to crave beer,
5 lest they drink and forget what the law decrees,
and deprive all the oppressed of their rights.
6 Give beer to those who are perishing,
wine to those who are in anguish;
7 let them drink and forget their poverty
and remember their misery no more.
8 "Speak up for those who cannot speak for themselves,
for the rights of all who are destitute.
9 Speak up and judge fairly;
defend the rights of the poor and needy."
Epilogue: The Wife of Noble Character
10 [c] A wife of noble character who can find?
She is worth far more than rubies.
11 Her husband has full confidence in her
and lacks nothing of value.
12 She brings him good, not harm,
all the days of her life.
13 She selects wool and flax
and works with eager hands.
14 She is like the merchant ships,
bringing her food from afar.
15 She gets up while it is still dark;
she provides food for her family
and portions for her servant girls.
16 She considers a field and buys it;
out of her earnings she plants a vineyard.
17 She sets about her work vigorously;
her arms are strong for her tasks.
18 She sees that her trading is profitable,
and her lamp does not go out at night.
19 In her hand she holds the distaff
and grasps the spindle with her fingers.
20 She opens her arms to the poor
and extends her hands to the needy.
21 When it snows, she has no fear for her household;
for all of them are clothed in scarlet.
22 She makes coverings for her bed;
she is clothed in fine linen and purple.
23 Her husband is respected at the city gate,
where he takes his seat among the elders of the land.
24 She makes linen garments and sells them,
and supplies the merchants with sashes.
25 She is clothed with strength and dignity;
she can laugh at the days to come.
26 She speaks with wisdom,
and faithful instruction is on her tongue.
27 She watches over the affairs of her household
and does not eat the bread of idleness.
28 Her children arise and call her blessed;
her husband also, and he praises her:
29 "Many women do noble things,
but you surpass them all."
30 Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting;
but a woman who fears the LORD is to be praised.
31 Give her the reward she has earned,
and let her works bring her praise at the city gate.

Did you catch the last part of that scripture?
Where it says;

30 Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting;
but a woman who fears the LORD is to be praised.

Matthew 7 - The Wise and Foolish Builders
24"Therefore everyone who hears these words of mine and puts them into practice is like a wise man who built his house on the rock. 25The rain came down, the streams rose, and the winds blew and beat against that house; yet it did not fall, because it had its foundation on the rock. 26But everyone who hears these words of mine and does not put them into practice is like a foolish man who built his house on sand. 27The rain came down, the streams rose, and the winds blew and beat against that house, and it fell with a great crash."
28When Jesus had finished saying these things, the crowds were amazed at his teaching, 29because he taught as one who had authority, and not as their teachers of the law.

May your brother seek the Lord (FIRST) with all his heart. May the Lord bless him with beautiful children that he can raise in God's Word. -God Bless you and your family.

Happy-2

Sorry, but I find that I just can't seem to work up any righteous indignation for you. Presumably, this was a subject they discussed before marriage, as any reasonable couple would do. See, your brother has NOT given up the thing he wants most. As a matter of fact, he HAS the thing he wants MOST: his wife. What you're saying is that she is denying him the thing he wants second most. He made a decision he obviously can live with. You should learn to live with it too.

Colleen O

It is HER body, she gets to choose wheter it is to be used as an incubator. Obviously your brother made the wrong choice when he got married...maybe he should have had better COMMUNICATION with the woman of his dreams and found out she wasn't interested in having children. What you should ask is WHY is your brother still in a marriage with a woman who clearly doesn't WANT children...There's nothing wrong with HER...what's wrong with your brother?

littleviv2000

He KNEW what this woman's views on motherhood were before he married her, and the only one denying him children is himself. There is nothing wrong with a person that doesn't want kids, but something wrong with a person that DOES want kids who ties themself down to a person that DOESN'T want kids.

And this woman's situation is a clear indication of how the process of getting sterilized needs to be made easier. She never wants kids, but has to be forced to cause potential harm to her body through the use of BC's when it could all be avoided with a simple procedure.

Mother of two boys here. I really don't understand why other parents just have to tell childless people that don't want kids that they are missing the greatest joy of their lives. Umm, for them that don't want kids, no, they aren't. Kids aren't fabulous blessings in everyone's opinions, jut fabulous blessings in some people's opinions. BTW, I do think my boys are fabulous blessings, but I'm a realist and I know that not everyone feels the same about kids, and I don't try to make childless people that don't want kids feel bad because they are childless and want to be that way. Get over yourselves, you are no better, or happier, then them, you just have kids.

lotteda717

Don't be your brothers keeper. He is allowing these abortions to happen,so he is as bad as her.He knew her when he married her. This must be the way he wants it.Some people are just not parent material,and it is best they never have children.When they are forced to be a parent,they are lousy at it.Or abuse their children.If this the thing he wants most,he should divorce her and get a motherly type wife.and pop them out ever 9 months.Then you can be happy.

switchmistress

shes selfish, and thinks only of her..tell ur brother to kick it to the curb

Grant M

A selfish ***** thats who....

his wife

I don't know but I guess there are some out there. She sounds to selfish to be a mother atleast a good one anyway, so maybe you and him should count your blessing.

On the other hand this topic should have been brought up before marriage.

susta1951

thats to bad. wish he would have known before he married her. well maybe she is all he really wants. may god bless them.

vannili

If your brother is happy with her,let him be. What ever his decision is, it is his life with children or no children. Please remember it is not your place to mind his life even he is your brother." What kind of a woman would deny her husband children ? I will not waste my time judging this woman it is not my business ,it is her husband business.

ronidl76

In fairness to her, your brother must have know how she felt about children, but he thought he could change her mind. Don't feel so sorry for him. He made his choice, and seems like he chose her over having kids. No woman who feels that strongly against having kids hides it, especially from a fiance (I'm sure he knew before they married). He had the chance to bail, and he didn't.

satsuki

although i agree with you but i must say your brother has his own life and his old enough to make decisions. No matter what you think you do not have the right to meddle. You can only be there for him once he realize his missing out on a lot of things by not having children and putting up with his selfish wife. ..

For as long as your brother is happy support him and love hims some more he will need you once he wakes up.

Pray that he wakes up soon! Good luck

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