What should I do about soon-to-be-ex-husband screaming at me just to impress his new girl?

favrd1

Don't get upset with him, and don't scream back...(as hard as that may be). When he's finished screaming at you, then ask him if he is finished his screaming tirade....Just tell him it is not necessary to scream at you and you would appreciate it if he would be a little more respectful to you, and it is setting a bad example for the children. (Leave the girl out of it).

Also tell him that the next time he screams at you, you will hang up on him because you do not deserve to be treated like this. Do not scream back.... The next time he screams at you, tell him, Ok, I'm going to hang up now. You have to be consistent....if you keep your cool, he will ultimately have to change his behavior. If you're not screaming, he can't scream back and vise versa....

RunSueRun

No need to yell back. Just hang up. Before you do, tell him to calm down and call back.

tbonz

He doesn't mean to do this to hurt you---he's trying to show her that the relationship you once had is over.
Next time, wait until he finishes yelling. Then quietly say, " You don't have to yell." Whatever you do, don't yell back as it will only escalate things. If he continues, ask calmly if you can talk about this later. If he says no, tell him you have something to do that just came up and that you will talk to him later(when she is not around).

livlafluv

They all do this just laugh at him thats what I do!

Lamplighter

My ex does the same thing. I just tell her to call me when she's not trying to impress her boyfriend with how much she hates me, then I hang up.

Alexandra

Just tell him if he cannot talk civil to you that you won't talk to him and hang up.

btpage0630

Don't take that garbage. You might consider recording the calls so when you go to court over custody you can show that side of him.

jons_plan

I suggest you laugh at her the next time she flips out. People with easy-to-push buttons get even more irritated when they're being laughed at by someone who they are jealous of.

If anything, you'll start laughing even more when you see her reaction.

I feel bad for you though... you must be very broken-hearted over this whole affair. Your ex-husband sounds like a nimrod, so if anything, it's for the best.

Never forget to give your kids encouragement and hug them as much as you can... otherwise they may start to emulate the anger given off by your husband and his *****-*** girlfriend.

Rod Rod Go

Hang up on him when he screams. He may see it as impressing his new girl, but if I were the new girl, I would think to myself that it could be me one day that he was yelling at.

T-baby

when he starts screaming hang up on him he will get the message

stellablue1959

If she is impressed by the screaming,there is something wrong with her too.If my boyfriend was screaming at his ex,it sure wouldn't impress me,just the opposite.
Next time he is screaming at you on the phone,just lay it on the table and walk away,let him scream to the air.Turn some music on or something to let him know you are technically on the line,but don't ever speak to him.Let the phone off the hook for a good long time.Even after he hangs up,he won't be able to use his phone because the line to you is still open.I did this to my ex when he would call,really pissed him off cause he couldn't call anyone else while my phone was still connected.If nothing else,it is good for a laugh.

rcdc_wva.

say to him (laughing) "yeah-you da big man" then walk away or hang up.that's a swift kick to the b**** with only words.

jay b

Do you think she is really impressed by him yelling at you?

Lucinda M

I feel for u girl. I have been divorced from my kids father for 3years now and we are both remarried. I can always tell when he is talking to me away from his wife because he is pretty civil to me. I know she is around when he is short with me and rude. I think they do this because they think if they talk nice with her around she'll think they still love us or want to be with us. If the guys are rude or in ur case yell at u they think the new woman will feel secure. I personally think this is childish but then again we are talking about men and face they are childish. If I were in ur shoes and I am just blow him off and hang up if he starts his crap. If he ever ask why u hang up on him just simply tell him u deserve a little respect being the mother of his children and chose to only speek to him if he can show that respect. This may help but my ex still shows his *** when he gets the urge around her. Good Luck.....

Falling to pieces

Tell him to F U C K O F F in front of her REALLY< REALLY LOUDLY !!!

Kismitt

hang up on him--and keep doing it until he can treat you with the respect you deserve. weather she is around or not

queenofkings2525

Reach through the phone and smack the sh** out of him. And I guess since that's not really possible... just do it when you see him.

T-NEE

straight up immaturity. tell him to grow up! is he trying to seriously impress his new woman by screaming at his soon to be ex-wife? does he seriously think that she wants to see that kind of stuff? talk to him about it, you did say he is nice when SHE'S not around, so do it when she's not there.

Kaska

Tell him to call back when he is in a better mood and hang up.

Please don't take that crap from him. Sounds like his girlfriend is an idiot also. I'd be thinking when he was going to do this to me.

WendyDarling

I would just hang up on him. You don't have to put up with that, you know. If he's yelling at you in person, ignore him. Act unphased as if you don't care. I'm sure with children you are probably good at tuning out noise.

mum

Wow sounds like youve had a lucky escape, at least if hes being an a#rse you wont be wondering if splitting up was the right thing to do! I wouldnt worry about what his new girlfriend thinks it'll be her one day and she'll know exactly where you were coming from.
Send his new girlfriend a "deepest sympathys" card! it wont solve much but ul feel better!

For peace

just ask him straightly.."whts making u crazy when she s around?? and do u think she s better than me tht u r shouting at me??"

just show him love as usual but also at the same time show tht u can live without him if he does any crazy things.......

throughthebackyards

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TELL HIM HE IS TRAILER TRASH AND THAT HIS GIRLFRIEND MUST BE TOO IF THIS IS SOMETHING THAT ACTUALLY IMPRESSES HER!!!!!

...IDIOT...

DON'T YELL BACK THAT'S SO IMMATURE AND A HORRIBLE EXAMPLE FOR THE KIDS, DON'T HUMOR HIM WITH IT.
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Andrea D.

You don't need that especially when you are going through a divorce. Tell him if he can't talk to you nicely, then you won't talk to him at all and write things down or hang up the phone. Every time he yells at you on the phone, hang up. If he is yelling at you in person, walk away. It's the best thing to do for you and your children.

crashpops

do the same thing what he does to . You try faking a boy of yours and then you scream at him for nothin .
its obvious that he would ask you about your weird behaviour but then you can tell him about your feelings when he does that to you .
hope this much is more than enough to bring him back to his senses.
and the next best thing for you to do would be to record his calls and then screw him up at the court

rosecitylady

There's nothing you can do about him, but you can control the way you react to him. Hang up when he starts screaming at you, or just hold the phone away from your ear until he's done. Don't call him unless you absolutely have to. Whatever you do, don't start screaming back at him. Your kids don't need to hear that and it will just escalate his screaming. Next time when you talk to him and he's being nice, try to discuss this with and let him know how hard it is for you to talk about the kids when he's like that. (That will probably get you nowhere but it's worth a try). Good luck.

luckydo6

what a loser what did you get with him for. well you could get an mp3 voice recorder record him yelling while the kids are around and play it when you go for the custody battle for the kids xD, gl hf MC on the phone at you well simple hang up the phone

helly

Well, for a start it sounds like you are well rid of him, and his new girlfriend is welcome to him!

As for the screaming, just hang up if he ever starts doing that. As soon as he starts to raise his voice, calmly put down the phone. Next time you speak, explain that you wont be shouted at. Keep it up, he'll learn.

gary t

ANYTIME he starts yelling, just hang up. Sooner or later he will get the point. If it's a face to face meeting and he starts at it, simply turn around and walk away. He will be frustrated that he cannot express power over you. Chin up girl!

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