What should I do with old photos, letters, and reminders of my previous relationship?

Tim's DD

Don't throw them out. If it's difficult then pack away all those love letters and pictures. Someday you will want to look back on this time in your life.

onatea

if it's time to let go it's time to let go.

burn it up. i know it seems wrong, but it's not, you don't have to forget the good times, but there's no reason to have them looking you in the face if you've already moved on.

katydid

When I married my husband I tossed out old love letters, pictures, and mementos. They are just 'things'. I have memories if I ever feel the need to relive those times.

Who Knew?

new love... new life..let the old one go

Cassie

I sold the stuff I could, gave away a lot of stuff to goodwill and the rest I just threw away. I am currently going through a divorce and it's good to get rid of those reminders of the past. Yeah, I had some good times, but I also don't want to have a constant reminder of what happened and the way he treated me.

becky

i had the "box" in the closet & felt the same way. you can stash everything in a box & put in your home somewhere where you hardly go so you dont see it. i did this but overtime i just ended up throwing everything away & i dont regret it. the time will come when you wont feel so sentimental about the stuff anymore & be happy to let it go.

Ramona-please step back!

Get a BIC and lightem up!

Lakegirl

You can always give them to a relative to hold onto, or maybe a lock box at a bank???? I hear what you're saying.

aalkouri

You should hold onto them and make a shrine of him, snip a locket of his hair while hes asleep and smell one of his shirts at least twice a day.

Elle H

I don't even speak my ex's name, let alone save reminders of our past life together. If there were good times, you'll remember them without reminders.

rosie45

Well, if you are really committed to the person you are with, you should get rid of them. Keeping them is wrong on so many levels; you should be focused on your new partner, not casting an eye backward at failed relationships. Think of the message you would be sending.
If, on the other hand, you're unsure, you can have a close friend or relative hang on to them if they mean that much to you. It's always good to have an "exit" strategy.

tommysgirl

Sounds like the perfect excuse for a bonfire with all the trimmings.. Champagne/ strawberries.... mmmmmm lol You'll always have the happy memories. Who needs old letters/pics that will just upset your significant other???

Adi S

If you feel it's wrong to dispose of them, then keep them. If it's awkward to keep them, put them in a room that you don't enter a lot, under a bed, on a shelf, in a closet, personally though I think you should throw it out, you're moving on don't have any memories of your ugly past.

Pearly Girly

If you are no longer with the person, throw away those things. You're having an emotional affair with the past.

ragingapples23

keep them, i kept all my photos from my first wedding, its a part of your life, dont throw it away.

Babe

I think its better to throw them away because it makes it easier to move on but sometimes its good to keep them because when you get older you can go through the things and just remember the good times you had with that person.

cajunrescuemedic

You and her had a lot of good times together. I would say that you just need to pack them away somewhere. Your partner now will just have to understand....it's not that you're not happy with her now, it's just that you also can't deny your past. It don't hurt to look at things from the past from time to time. Have a good day......miss ya.

mrsdpm23

I've been there. It is very hard to part with things that have sentimental value.It will probably be hard for your new partner to except "you holding on to your past". I found it easier to just throw the things away instead of having constant confusion in my home about something that didn't really matter to me anymore.If you're truly happy in your new relationship then you may be able to part with the items, you don't have to do it right away,but be sure to hide them in a safe place.

sue z

but them all in a nice box and put it in the attic....in my opinion it was who u were ones...there is no way u are gonna forget and ur new partner would just have to accept that....

so put it somewhere safe...but dont get it out too often...

patricia

well im thru my divorce now and since the day i left him i did a cleaning in the house took all those pictures, letter postcards everything and i gave it to him what he did with it i dont know but if i took him out of my life its because i didnt work so whats the point to have all that. i think its enough to think about your past and find him in there. so move on......

bottom line

burn it up...give it to him....threw them away....do something but dont keep it............

good luck

ah i just left one of us for the kids..... itsnt them fault...you know but i dont even know where is it...â˜»â˜»â˜»

InTheDark

Put them in a time capsule and bury them.

Anon

Pack them all away into a box and seal it up, and put the box away into storage somewhere.
Dont burn them or throw them away.

ally

well i have come out of a thirteen year relationship and i have a daughter to this man and like you i had some good times as well so i put them in a box and put them in the attic away out of sight but keep them its our past and we like to keep hold of some of our memories so from time to time we can look at them and have a laugh i no we have memories in our head but pictures tell you more dont you agree

â™¥ Trixie â™¥

buy a cute photo box, or any decorative box, and fill it with the reminders, then store it out of sight, like in an attic or at a trusted friend or relative's place. that way you dont see it every day, but it's not destroyed.

n2mama

My MIL got divorced from my husband's biological father. When she married his dad (who adopted him), his dad went through and got rid of all the pictures, etc. that were related to her ex. It was kind of funny, because when I met my husband and he showed me a family picture he didn't look like anyone in it. When his mom moved she found two untouched wedding pictures from her first wedding and shared them with me. It's nice, because now I can see what my husband's biological father looked like (and they could almost be twins except for hair color). Box them up and put them in storage or a lockbox or something. Out of sight, out of mind, but not destroyed.

Guapa

I have even let all my clothes to him so can you imagine what I have done with the rest... and I feel very perfect about it just threw it away

HarleyChick66

I put them in a box, and put them in a closet. They are a part of you and your life in the past. I still have a scrapbook from my first boyfriend in high school. It's funny to go back & look and how immature we really were! My husband and I were both married before, and he was going to get rid of a photo album of him and his wife. I made him keep it, they are memories, that's all.

musicamor

I wasn't married, but i can honestly say i kinda stowed away with the pictures and letters for a while, i didn't get into a serious relationship until a year or so later so it was easier then to throw them away because i'm so happy now. it just began not to be hard..

iiidontknowdoyou

Threw it all out along with him! Kept a few photos for the kids!

deidara <3

well i havent gotten married.. but i trew my photos and 'stuff' away and it actually helped me forget

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