What should i do?

Deja Vu!

...do whats right, tell, your grand mother...and seek, medical care for him...
...enjoy!

Sarah L

I think you should contact Alanon or another support group to help you answer these questions.

sunshine_2867

You need to talk to your dad directly ... tell him your concerns and how it makes you feel that he is drinking so much. Its really not fair to you if your time with him is on the weekends and he spends it out with his friends and hungover

roy and nicki c

i think your too young to have this put on you, your mother should talk to your father about this not you and its nothing to do with your gran either. your father was wrong to leave you alone all that time when you had gone to visit him, maybe you should go for days out with your dad for a bit and not stay over but make sure he is not under the influence of alcohol before getting in the car. good luck sweetie x

girlwhoknowsitstrue

I would wait until your dad was sober, and then tell him how frightened and worried you were when he's drinking - share with him the SADD stuff you get at school.

He's a grown man, don't be involving his mom in it.

No one knows what makes people alcoholics - but focus on how he makes you feel - tell him of your fears, and if he's a decent dad, that will impact him more than anything you can tell someone else.

Samantha

Its hard being the kid in this situation. I think you should talk to your mother and ask for her help because she shouldnt put you in the middle of this. Dont worry about your dad being mad at you. He will always love you and its showing that you care for him. He may get upset at first but it will only help him in the long run. Maybe you should go to him first and tell him that you are worried. If he sees how it has upset you then maybe he can deal with it on his own. Good Luck and im sorry you have this to deal with.

OLD SCHOOL

talk to your Dad Not your Mon or grandmother.Give him the chance to set down with you first .After all you are 15 not 5.Tell him how you feel .

Jessica C

Im 15 and my parents are divorced, I also live with my dad.

If my dad was acting like that I would maybe talk to him and tell him how i felt. See if he would stop on his own and if he didnt then you should say something to your grandma.

Scott

If he becomes one, others will find out eventually. Try to explain your concerns to him when he is sober.

curiouscanadian

I would start by having a heart to heart with your Dad. Ask him what the heck is going on - he is supposed to be parenting you. Ask him to reframe from going out drinking on the weekends that you are with him. He is the only one who can nip this in the bud.

5150

Adults deal with things in not the best way sometimes. I don't think it's a good idea for you to tell your G-ma just yet. If you're that concerned then talk to your dad about it first. THEN...if he doesn't respond in a way you think is appropriate then I'd talk to G-ma.
Good luck, sweetie. Divorce hurts everyone, but sometimes it happens. Feel free to talk at me if you like.

Jimmay

tell him yourself. let him know you don't want him to become some toothless desperate panhandling wino.. well, maybe not Those choice of words. but, let him know how you feel, and that it's how you feel. not your mom, or grandmother, you.

Paul

My dad was an alcoholic and died very young (age 44) as a result. You need to stay away from him as much as possible, especially if he is at risk of hurting you. You have no control over whether he is an alcoholic or not, but you have total control over his affect on you and your life. About two weeks before my father died, he was completely drunk and he called me and wanted to see me but I told him no, not until he got help. I was 17 at the time, and I found out after he died that he was on a waiting list to get treatment at a local facility. Protect yourself, and keep him at a bit of a distance...and yes, tell Grandmother politely that your worried, but she won't be able to nip anything in the bud.

Paulette

I think that you should tell HIM, "Dad if you are going to drink when I am here, I would rather not come over".

Then let him figure out if he is going to straighten out.

An adults Mother cannot change them usually, unless they want to change.

Untitled Sabrina Project

I think you should calmly explain this to your dad and say you're concerned, that you don't want to move out, and that if this continues, you'll have to tell someone. If you're meant to live with him, he'll understand and at least cut back.

JBrat04

If it has only happened one time then I wouldn't worry about it yet. He is a grown man and he can make his own decisions. A divorce is very hard and yes people sometimes deal with it by drinking but its just how things go. If you do anything I would just make sure he knows that you love him and will be there for him no matter what. He needs you right now and the last thing he needs is other woman telling him what to do (his mother). Don't worry everything will be fine.

Stuck in the middle of nowhere

He could jsut be upset over the divorce and went out and got wasted. If you notice him drinking all day or sneaking drinks and reeking of booze I would tell your grandmother or tell him that until he gets his drinking problem under control you don't want to visit him anymore. It could be just a one time thing, just keep an eye on him.

Pinkflower

Well I would not ring your grandmother for one as maybe a gentle chat from you about your concerns will help/ go a long way. He is more likely to listen to you are you are the apple of his eye. He must be going through aa really rough time at the moment and he needs to know he can count on you to help at times, not always at times. I might have been a one off, you will just have to wait and see if it happens again next weekend.

Chatting to your Dad might make him realise how you are feeling and your concerns about how he has been over the weekend.

Good luck and sorry to hear about your parents divorce.

Ellis Wyatt

Yes, he definitely has a problem. Tell him you don't like it when he drinks and ask him not to drink when you are there. Let him know you want to spend time with him before you grow up and the alcohol is taking that away from you both.

Roklimerchic

You should be honest with your dad. There is no reason to go around him and tell your mom or your grandma. You need to tell him you are concerned and tell him exactly what you see and that it is bothering you and you are worried about him. If he is rude or he gets upset oh well at least you tried being honest and giving him a chance to understand your feelings. Next, if he won't listen then its time to get the family involved and possibly have an intervention. If your dad's alcoholism is affecting your life, his job, or his responsiblities he is an alcoholic!

Stejian

he may be coping by drinking but it doesnt mean he will become an alcoholic. if it became every weekend then id worry, but one or two times, i say hes letting go a bit. i would talk to him about it and tell him your concerns, that right there would show him a lot a make him think. as long as he always keeps control he will be fine but when you give the power to the alcohol thats when your life goes to crap. some people dont realize that hopefully your dad will. this is coming from someone who does have an alcoholic as a father. its a sad thing to watch. so just talk to him and good luck.

MoreTisha (((frenzy & daughter))

I agree with Samantha, it's not your job to parent your father and you should not have to. Ask your mother to deal with this.

Doc Holiday

I think you should tell your Dad that he needs to spend time with you when you are with him, and not go out drinking when you are there. I also think you should tell someone about your concerns about his drinking,

Wait What????

This must be very hard for u to deal with u already had to go through ur parents divorce i think u should tell ur grand mom for ur fathers saftey it may only last for 3 months but that could even hurt someone. Good Luck.

jwood

poor baby, my heart goes out to you... bad situation for you to be exposed to. maybe you should not go and tell him why. maybe he will realize where his priorities lie.... time to reassess them and put them into order huh?! at any rate don't expose yourself.. you deserve better baby..

joe_fleeman

If he is driving drunk he is a danger NOT ONLY to HIMSELF but to others.He needs help.He may get mad at you for having him busted, but he will get over it and thank you later.See if you can get him into rehab before he kills himself or someone driving drunk.

cesar f

first ask him if it was a one time thing
if it happens again tell your grandma
sorry about what your going through
i went through the same

franks

My ex-boyfriend is an alcoholic and it was a horrible time of my life. He was always drunk and I can't think of a sober time. Stop him before he does something drastic - what if he gets behind the wheel and kills someone or hurts himself? He might be mad but you have to think about the other people.

me!

he might get mad but within time he will realzie u were tryin to do some good after all ure just a kid and ure his daughter

Moxie Crimefighter

Why would you tell your grandmother? It's none of her business...is your dad still controlled by his mother?...I say mind your own business and let your father deal with his problems...

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