What should i do if my husband cheating on me, and we have a new born baby, should i leave or should i stay ?

discostu

lose him

clouds038

leave him you have family to take care of you until you can get your job back he doesnt sound like a good guy and think of the child i would rather live with one parent than with two parents that argue and dont like each other and i have had both so i would know

P.Z.

leave him if he's treating you like this.

stay with family until the mean time until you get things in order.

Sandra Lynn

get a new man. he is not worthy

NONAME

Do you have family that can help you out right now? Get away from this guy asap and let family and friends help you figure out how you can support yourself by yourself.

Princess

A man who cheats is worth a thing

J.M.C

Leave him, the sooner the better for both you and your baby. your man is a useless uncaring person....face up to it and go on, you'll do better without that load.

ChristinaN

Sorry to hear this! That is a tough situation since you have a new born. Can you stay with family or friends. Regardless you need to get out of this situation, even if that means raising this child alone. This guy sounds like a horrible husband and will probably be a horrible father. This is you life, the only one you have! Get away from him and find someone or something that makes you happy! You have a baby now and have to do what's best for both of you, and he is obviously not it! Good luck!

phishsports

if it were me, i'd move out because he sounds like he wants you there to have someone to comfort him, he needs you like a toe needs a hangnail, and i hate to be that blunt, but you really need to get away from him to have any hope of your self esteem........... get you and education, go to your state office and see if they wil help you, get your education...but you really do need to get away from him

Eileen

Leave him! He does not deserve you. I just wish you had not got pregnant by a man who already has 5 children and obviously does not care much about them.Your baby does not need a father like that!!
Good luck to you!

frostytink

he sounds like a loser to me, a man who doesn't take care of his kids is no man in my book. and what he is doing to you is emotional abuse, u need to get out of there. u say u want your child to have both parents in his life, but thats not up to you, thats up to him, and if hes not involved with his other children, he wont be with yours either, but the court will make him pay support so go to the court house and file papers for a separation and spousal and child support, hit him where it hurts... the wallet!!!

blastabuelliac

Get an education so you can get a career started so you can be a good role model for your son. Use a condom or get on the pill so you don't get pregnant again and get rid of that two timing good for nothing husband. He's bringing you down and not helping you. Move forward! Good Luck

jenw1403

It doesn't matter if you are together or not for the kid to have a father, that is up to him but it doesn't do the kid any good for you to stay in an unhappy relationship.

Shortstuff13

It's obvious that your husband is cheating on you now. He doesn't kiss you or touch you & girls are calling him on the cell phone, so ask your family or a close friend if your baby & you can stay with them until you get back on your feet. Seek legal advice as soon as you are able to. If he bothers you at work, get a restraining order. This man is not who you want to spend the rest of your life with. He's controlling, because he's insecure about his life. He has no idea how to love, comfort, or support you when you need it the most. If he thinks he won't have to support your son if you leave, he's on for a big surprise. Your baby has a father, whether you two stay together or not. We have to do what's best for our children & ourselves. It sounds to me like you need to move on with your life, without your husband. Who wants to be with someone who always puts them down & makes them feel worthless? Not me & I'm sure it's not you either. If your husband really wanted to change, he would have done so, long ago. He needs to grow up & stop being a bully!
Be strong, pray, & it will all work out for your baby & you.

kunversita

Honey, you should leave him. You can find better men out there for your child to call "daddy" and you to call your husband instead of that sleaze your married to right now (no offense or anything). He can cry all he wants to, but you should go out there and find another man that kicks your current hubby's azz.

Danielle

My Advice: "What should I do if my husband is cheating on me?" First off You should start trying to get a lawyer and those devorice papers. If he's cheating why stay? Secondly, If he's putting you down emotionally, and if he ever put his hands on you, he's not worth it. As for the girl who is trying to ruin your marriage don't stop her, soon she will find out how he treated you and the pass women in his life, let her be stupid. As for your New Born, The baby deserve better and don't need him in his life, nor do you need the man in your life. Go live with another relative and get your priorities straight. Have one of your family members watch the baby, and you go find yourself a job, or go to school. Leave, don't stay. Go get the key to the locked door and leave!

Aero-Smith

Just a little advice---your son can have his father AND his mother in his life with out them being under the same roof...

children suffer more in a household where the parents dont get along then when they are seperated- never stay with a man for the "childrens sake" the children will always be a victim....

Get out, make it on your own.....any man can make a baby- it takes a real man to step up and be a father when the woman has had enough....

be blessed,

Aero

bubba

sounds like you dont have much to work with here. you can try and work things out but its also hurtung your baby not to be in a loving relationship with your husband.

uneak162801

The only thing I can say is do what is best for your baby. The one thing I have learned is your child should always come first and foremost in your life. Also do not let ANYONE make you insecure about yourself. Life is too short to be unhappy. Always remember to live life to its fullest because once this life is gone you don't get a second chance.

~life sucks~

Oh honey, I feel for you. Not that i condone divorce, but your husband sounds like a controlling manipulative a**hole. You can try to make it work, but the question is: do you really want a marriage like this? He sounds like he has no respect for you what so ever. There is help for you out there. You have kinda answered your own question by pointing out all the negative aspects to your marriage. Your husband cheating, never showing you affecttion, putting you down, pointing out to you that he is your caretaker and not wanting you to get a job for fear that other men will be around you. Honey, this world is full of men, so short of staying at home 24/7, you will cross paths with another man. He is controlling and I am guessing your marriage is new and if it is this bad now, it will probably only get worse. Seek the help of family and friends, build a support group around you, look into state assistance for single moms and really consider your options. You dont need this kind of negative treatment and mental abuse from the one man who is supposed to love you and cherish you and RESPECT you. I wish you luck. Take care

cope_acetic

Why did you even get involved with this loser??? You knew he was a baby machine--how could you fall in his trap??

Leave him now, before the poor child forms any attachment to him.
Struggling to make it on your own will be better than the heartache you'll have if you stay. He'll always cheat, and you need to kick him to the curb!

April

By the way this question is worded, you do not have the English skills to get a job, hon..." He have....... is incorrect, and you have run-on sentences. The pronoun i is capitalized as in "I have four dogs."
And the rest of this is filled with errors far beyond laziness, but a real lack of command of the language. I'll make it real for you sweetie:

With these skills, you have no employment opportunities, even if you hadn't just had a child.... You're stuck, hon. Until you can get an education, to make yourself employable, you need to stay there for financial reasons....having a child that you cannot support, in addition to the fact that you yourself couldn't support even yourself has put you in quite a bad financial spot. So, stay, hon. stay. And if you have the smarts, as soon as possible, go back to school. And if you are college material, get a degree or some training.... you may be a single mom a long time.... And, as an added piece of wisdom, don't have any more children you cannot support yourself.... trying to trap guy number 2 into supporting you will just leave you with now two children you cannot afford. There are plenty of truly sad questions on this site--- most probably genuine:

"Oh, please help me!!!!!!! I have 6 children by three different guys. I am 25 years old, with no education, no child support, all these men are deadbeats, I have no friends, and no where to go, and the guy I am with now cheats on me, drinks, beats me up.....yadayaddaydaydaya........."

wildchild0905

im terribly sorry, no one should have to experience that kind of neglegence. with a new born baby it is hard to say, your baby needs a father figure in his/her life but a man that cheats on his wife while shentakes care of a newborn baby doesnt deserve a family. i think you should make sure that he is cheating on you and if he is indeed with another woman then you should find a place to go for a while and try to work things out and if there is no progress then you and your husband should try counseling and if that doesnt work then divorce.once again im sorry and i hope everything works out ok.

Anita G

Leave him....If you are not happy and you know he is cheating, like they say once a cheater always a cheater!
Go after him for child support and if he chooses not to pay then child support enforcement will go after him.
If he chooses to have nothing to do with the baby then that is his problem. All you can do is be there for your child and do what makes you happy!

GOOD LUCK!

rainwater97345

Unless you want your baby growing up to believe this is how men should behave then leave him NOW. Most states have help centers just for this reason and believe me in the long run 6 weeks isn't very long. Show him you can be strong and go find a man who will treat you and your child right and be happy. If you don't leave now you never will you will always make excuses for him and when your child is older they won't understand why you want to leave because this is the norm to them--Good Luck I did and me and my son's are better for it but I can also say no one can decide when the time is right but you.

Brandy

Girl first of all you need to learn to love yourself.
When I was young my mom stayed with my dad because she wanted her kids to have both parents. Because my mom did not believe that she could make it without him I suffered. You do need a man to help you do bad. You can raise your son and get positive role models to be in his life. LEAVE and live in peace. Pray and ask God for guidance!

hotchick_kelssie

You need to leave him. Yes it will be hard but he will just keep doing it. It is better you leave him now then later because it will be harder for your kid to deal with it. so, do whats best for you and your baby.

Chequinah C

Well you shud leave him right now before the baby grow up and gets close to her dad my mom left my dad when i was 7 and it was hard to let him go and i was mad to my mom till i was 11 but im cool wid her now but leave him if u r SURE he is cheatin but u have to find a new man before your baby comes to a age were she knows whats happening , meaning find a new man to take ur husbands place as father atleast at the age of 3 or wen ur baby starts going to school or else if its after that she/he will be furious

lhyn

sorry to hear that but do you know his name by any chance cause i have same situation that my husband has five kids in different relation....so if can tell me thank you,

lhyn

sorry to hear that but do you know his name by any chance cause i have same situation that my husband has five kids in different relation....so if can tell me thank you,

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