What to do regarding the "office spouse".?
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What to do regarding the "office spouse".?
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Ok guys, here is a puzzle that I am trying to solve:
I have a had a gf for almost a year now. She has been working part time in an office while going to school. She works closely with an older guy (2-3 years her senior, grad student) and their very close, office spouse I should say. Only problem is, a couple weeks ago, he told her that he had feelings for her. She then proceeded to tell me that she had feelings for him. I gave her a choice on who she wanted to be with, and left her. She called me and begged me to come back, making the decision that she wanted to be with me. I've been trying to move past it, except that they are still communicating and still being friends, although she assures me that there is nothing going on, (she never told him how she felt). I understand the need for communication, as he is her boss, but I feel like a real scumbag because I am inherently suspicious of her, and still don't feel comfortable with the situation. She also has told him that she doesn't reciprocate his feelings. Should I trust her? Why should I stay with her? I care about her, but I'm not sure if I can stomach this, considering she will be working full time for half a year very soon. Any help will be gladly appreciated.
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Gregory
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since you made the decision to come back you have to trust her. as long as their communication stays work related you'll have to deal with those trust issues yourself because she can't help who she works for. maybe she can transfer or work under another boss. or maybe if its too much for you to handle you leave for good because trust is the number one thing in a relationship and if that is not 100% nothing else will be. keep in mind that she was honest about her feelings |
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Em-Jay
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Her admitting that she has feelings for him as well was the turning point. Feelings aren't like a light switch, you can't just turn it on and off. Plus they're working together. If she hasn't slept with him yet, it's only a matter of time. Give your conscience a break man, dump this girl! |
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sj
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if ever u have created a suspicious mind then its better u stop the relation or ask her get a new job...if she's true to you she's not going to cheat u and she has told tht she needs you...even if she doesnt do any wrong im sure u might suspect her...and thats going to ruin ur relation...
from my exp i tell u...my own exp...u r never going to forget it and widout u knowing the anger will comout one day..because u don't like that...howmuch ever u try to forget..it will jus be a try only i think...but yes, there are cases whr the relationship is very strong and d 2 forget d mistakes dey make and try understanding each other... |
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Sarcastic Swan
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While you are reading this he has her nailed to the desk. Sorry dude but I thought that was a given. |
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Sweetie
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You have reason not to trust her! I'm wondering why she has not looked for a new job! If she knew you don't like what going on! I know jobs are hard to find these days, but I think she just wants her cake and eat it too, and She likes being around him! I think you should move on! |
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