What would you do? Italy for 2 months or stay home with your new husband?

Apple21

If you were single, I'd say go. However, when you get married it's no longer about YOU. It's about US. You have to decide if that choice is best for your marriage. If you can work it out where he is comfortable with it and visiting each other, then fine. But if it's going to drive a wedge in your young and fragile marriage, then absolutely not.

JESUS ROX MY SOX!!!

Could you somehow arrange for your husband to go with you?

FAMILY FIRST

a difficult dilemma, you have to consider whether your going would split the relationship up.

i assume this trip is strictly business. don't consider it if it's not.

is there any way your husband can get any leave from work and come with you for part of the time, he can reassure himself that it is only temporary.

sit down toss a coin, see who talks first each give your viewpoint without the other interrupting each other you then have a point for starting discussion.

in the end you may have to decide which means most the trip or your husband. if you feel strongly that your husband has to decide whether letting you go for a couple months is going to end your marriage or your marriage is more important. both of you will now discover if your marriage is strong enough to find a solution.

Vera Lynn

My husband just went to Singapore for a month to start working toward a new position with the company. He will come home for a month and go back for a month and then things will be back to normal. I didn't want to get left with 3 kids for all that time by myself but I want to support him. He is trying to better himself. It's only 2 months. I hope your guy can see it that way. Good luck!

ouragon

If you were a man, you would go. You would also see that if you don't go, it will forever hamper your progress with your employer.

I went to France (from Texas) for 6 weeks. I was lonely, so was he, but it was the correct choice.

SheritaW

you are married now and your husband should be your first concern. Weigh your options and talk to your husband.

ringostargirl

You should go and hopefully he will support your decision. It would be rather selfish for him to not support you. It's okay for him to miss you, in fact that is great. Before you spring this on him come up with a plan for communication with him and the benefits to your career. I would take the emotion out of it and try to present it as a business case. Often companies will allow you to come home every few weeks. See what you can work out before you speak with him.

The more he sees that you thought it through, the better.

I went to live in another city for 3 months while dating my now husband. It was fine and we didn't miss a beat.

Memory

At first I read it wrong and thought 2 years, but it's two months. I say go for it.

spiderking88

it appears that only a few people have stated the obvious....it will only affect u and ur husband, so why dont u just talk to him! he may be excited for u and proud of u for even being considered for this position. dont sell him short by asking people that have no vested interest in ur decision. u and ur husband r the only 2 people that can ultimately make this very big decision ne way.

Stefniâ™¥

go.

Tbby

I would go provided that the company can guarantee a solid start and end date for your time there.

It will be excellent for your career, it will be excellent for your person, and it will give your husband a great excuse to pop over to Italy. See if he can use some vacation time to visit you. You can come home on a weekend or two and he can go see you.

The bottom line is that it is only 8 weeks and you will always regret that you didn't go. Also, you don't want to resent your husband because you didn't go.

Charlie

I thought you should stay with your husband when I first read your question but having analysed the whole situation, I think you should go. If he really loves you then he'd fully support you on this special project.

Confused

It is a part of your job, but if it is possible, try to include him in it. Have him fly up there for a week or so so you guys can still be together. Yes you may have to work, but he will get visit a new place and he will feel that he isn't so left out. The rest of the time you are away he will just have to deal with it. I am with out my husband now going on over three months and it is another three before I get to see him. People learn to deal with it so 2 months is nothing. He is a big boy and this is your job and may help you get a higher position in your job which will and up benefiting both of you. He just needs to understand. Go do it!!!

Jeanmarie

I wish I were you. For a loving husband and for your job.

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Jenn <Double N>

I say go...you have a whole lifetime together whats 2 months? If anything see if your husband can use some vacation time to visit you

Palindromic

Marriage is about compromise, and I'm thinking hubby can compromise and let you go!!

sissy k

I would not want to be away that long, but it is a personal decision. How would you feel if it was the other way around?

BloggingPrincess

Go, and arrange a way for your husband to meet you over there for a short vacation near the end of your assignment. Maybe if you sweet talk the company, they may even pay for part of his travel.

Sofia

I would go - but I would also ask that he be happy for me to have this career opportunity and not put a 'downer' on it because he doesn't want me to go.

You would be coming back.

You may need to reassure him on certain things, but keep the emphasis on it being only 2months and it's work.

Hugo

Go for it! It's only for 2 months.

Katie M

Go and have your husband come to visit after 1 month. Then the 2 months won't seem so long. After all, it is a "once in a lifetime" opportunity.

Brendan

definately go

Johnny

P1 Rubber Ducky

i would explain all the reasons why i want to go and ask him to respect my decision either way.

hes your husband he should love and respect your decision.

chnchita

Go.....if he's upset, that's his problem. It's not that long in the scheme of life.....and it'll help your career. He should be supportive and not judgmental.

Jery E

americans don't care about your problems with you and your dog walking husband.

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