What would you do about this marriage?

Midzy

u gotta get a divorce.. its not right to stay with your husband. he doesnt deserve to be with someone who doesnt love him. itll hurt him more if u stay. good luck!

Mr. Goodkat

This question makes me ill...

Limited

your very special upstairs

Raspberry

You made the vows to your husband so you need to fulfill them.

Good luck!

josie_lam

You're doctor told you to have a kid now and then retracted his opinion???? That's unprofessional of him, are you sure he's a competent doctor?

You married him under false pretences, that's very mean, you used him and made the whole institution of marriage a joke. He deserves the truth, he deserves better than you.

Trevor

This question show EXACTLY what is wrong with marriage these days! You got married because you wanted to have a baby in case you couldn't in the future? Do you have ANY idea how disturbing and just plain wrong that is?

What do you do about the marriage? You stay in it! You made a lifetime commitment to this man...maybe you shouldn't have but you did. Now you are thinking about ruining HIS life because you made an immature decision?!!?!

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I think you need to focus on yourself and stop marrying people on a whim. I feel sorry for your current husband, because you're the one with the problem, not the current or the ex.

Life ain't always easy

Start thinking through your actions a little more clearly. Obviously your husband deserves someone that loves him unconditionally and that is not you.

inhope

How strong is your word? Yes, it was wrong for you to do it that way - and for the doctors to tell you that. But you are married and you must believe that you were meant to be together - not with the ex boyfriend.
Be real with your husband - don't have any communication with your ex. He's your ex. Your husband is yours 'til death! (At least that's how it should be)

snick

you need to talk to your husband and you know what you did was wrong you should feel like crap !

jemmamomma

Why in the world would you ever marry someone when you loved someone else? Normally I would say something like get counseling, you are in a marriage so make it work, but I can't here because if you stay in this marriage you will make your husband miserable. I would set him free so that he can find someone who truly loves him and wants a family with him and will be only his.

Carl F

Love isn't always about "excitement" or "being fulfilled." It is about commitment. Your husband committed to you in good faith and you owe him something for that.....even if he is "boring" or "doesn't turn you on" as much as the ex.

If you divorce for this reason, that would be wrong. Try to make things as wonderful as possible for your new husband. You can be the one to introduce "excitement" whether in the bedroom or elsewhere if you need more of that. And I would also cut all ties with the ex. You are going to continue to haunted by him unless you avoid him.

Bellavita

You made a bunch of crappy decisions because you were obsessed with what YOU wanted. Did you think you had an automatic right just to have a baby, no matter what, no matter who else's happiness you had to sacrifice to do it?

Anyway, it's done. The kindest thing you can do now is to tell your husband the truth and let him decide if he's willing to stay with you. If not, and he wants to dump you to go find someone who really loves him and wants him, then I say good for him.

4E4A

Honor your commitment. Make a decision to leave the past behind and create a wonderful life with your husband. Don't spend your time making him and you miserable over a snap decision you made.

Then, learn from this and don't do this to yourself or anyone else again.

chicpower

I'd advise you get counseling and talk through all this. It's way too complicated and serious for anyone on YA to be able to tell you what to do about this. Counseling is a GOOD thing, especially when you have issues like this that need help working out! No one will be bias. The counselor will only care about YOU and in helping you make your choices.

sunshine

Well you should really try to work it out with your current husband because you made those vows. If you are determined to divorce and be with your ex, then I think you should divorce, spend some time alone to clear the baggage of the divorce, then call your ex up .... only after everything is final between you and the current husband.

Scouser

what you did was outrageously stupid! and now your in this situation were when you do what your heart tells you your going hurt someone!
if i was you i would get a divorce go marrie your ex and hope you cry your f ucking eyes out when your husbands heart breaks
stop living a lie and leading him along!

masZterP

Grow up...
You sound very young, and thats not a compliment.
You married your husband because you wanted a baby,
well that's just the stupidest thing I ever heard.
The second most stupid thing is that you feel marriage
can be thrown away like you are just dating.
When you divorce it hurts you badly, and believe me
no matter what your ex thinks of you, he will not see
your easy flight from marriage as a positive trait.
It will come back to haunt you, but look on the positive
side, with all the regret you fill your life with and the hurt
you do to others, the less people will trust you.

Grow up, and stop thinking of the past, believe me you can
never go back to what you had. Whether you know it or not
the world does not revolve around your shallow sence
of your self, and happines is only felt if you have earned it.

If you end your marriage to go back to your ex, no matter
what your ex tells you, he will hate the person you have
become, and will never trust your fickle nature.

Again, grow up...
P.S>Did you get married in a church or Las Vegas?
cus if you had a church wedding you vowed to GOD to
trust, keep, and look after your husband until you die.
I don't know about you, but if I made a promise to GOD,
I would think twice about turning that promise into
a lie.

Yasin

Your are trying to board in two boats at a time. Tell everything to your husband, he will take you in his love boat.

B B

You are very confident that your ex no longer has commitment issues. Sure, *maybe* you married your husband for the wrong reasons, and *maybe* you weren't ready for that kind of commitment. But, you did marry him and it sounds like you want out of your marriage just to go back to your ex, because you think things will be better with him now. Your ex probably still has commitment issues. You shouldn't leave your current husband to run off with your ex and get married. you must follow your heart. I suggest that you cutoff communications with your ex and try to work things out with your husband for a few months. If you aren't happy with your marriage, then by all means, end it -- life is too short. However, don't immediately run to your exboyfriend either. Give yourself some time.

jkviceprincipal_2007

To love someone is one thing &to enter into a marriage relationship with the same hoping that it is bound to succeed is not always true.It takes a lot of patience to make such a long & monotonous relationship work.However if you still think that you cannot live without him then tell your husband everything about it. Bid him goodbye but stay away from your boyfriend as well for a few years to examine yourself objectively to ascertain that you have enough endurance &ofcourse infinite love to make your marriage with him a success.

tasteofori

Talk to your hubby. If he were your friend before... he might be okay about it. Be honest. Talk to him.

Mykol

ok stay with your husband your ex is a EX a past. you wouldnt married your firend if you knew he wasnt gonna be the right person for you. your ex is just trying to hold off marrige and realized he shouldnt have. he knows for the future you taught him. now stick with your husband right now, you wont find no one better then him. your ex should of done it when he had opportunity.

We are all screwed

Your husband sounds like he deserves to be with someone that loves him as much as he would love her. I think as much as it would hurt him you should let him go and go back to your ex. Hopefully you ex really does want to be with you and not just because you are already married. Oh and I would find a new OBGYN.

JUNIPER

You must have been misguided......God will give you a child when He wants you to have one(regardless)....thats all you needed to know, now your in a mess and the only anwser for your question can be refrenced in the Bible.

Ya dig?

Oh lord, what a mess. Follow your heart, that's all I can really say regarding this matter. I feel bad for your husband, though. He didn't do anything to deserve this...

Ally

Wow,

It was really a bad idea for you to get married. You could have had a baby with your X and waited on the marriage part of it but what's done is done and unfortunately cannot be undone. Just try to find strength. I feel that it would be selfish of you to divorce your current husband. He didn't do anything to deserve this. On the other hand, its unfair to stay with him because you don't really love him. You love you X. Everything is not about marriage. In the future, try to not to make rush decesions. I can't tell you who to be with. I just hope you husband gets out of this marriage with the least amount of heartbreak.

miss misschiff

well hind sight is a killer, you should have slowed down and not rushed in to anything as you can now see. really just deal with it or be up front with the guy and tell him ya only wanted his nuts ta git a kid. best of luck

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