What would you do if after 14 years of marriage and your husbands leaves.....?

the_secrets_keeper

11 years younger?
First of all. I am sorry. I am very sorry that he decided to trash 14 years of your life just like that. I am sorry.
be strong and do your best to move on. Dont date or try to get back at him yet.... Just worry about yourself and about moving on

del b

well baby that happen to me twice . the only thing i would say is
drop his a** fast when this happens they wont change there no good run fast sue hard
run baby run and don't look back

Cary Grant

Get a good lawyer.

ncvasarahlee

I am not sure what I would do. I know one thing, my heart would be broke. AND his *** would not get out so easy, he would pay deeply .

xcutiejessx

Tell him that I loved him, but if he's not interested anymore. Leave him and find yourself a new man. I bet you can do better.

cobrasnake

Honest answer: He is making the big mistake in his entirely life.Try to talk with him,tell he is doing the big mistake in his life.But if he does not listen to you,and anyway he is going,let him go.After, he will find,that you were right.God bless you and good luck.Have a wonderful weekend.

red1967

Take every thing you can in the divorce. Child support and support for you. I would move on with my life there are plenty of men out ther that would love to date you when you are ready. He is going to fall on his face with this women and then you can say I told you so. He will want to come back to you. Do not take him back if he does. It seems men think the grass is greener on the other side.

scotty

this Internet is a bad thing for marriages what can you do divorce him and take him for every penny you can

luvlisteningtomusic

Tell him do not let the door hit you in the ***. He thinks life is greener on the other side of the barn. She has kids from a previous marriage and a ex to top that off. Life is not going to be easy with him. Move on be happy and live life to the fullest.

one_thick_6ft_fine_***_wht_grl

LET him go ...........u can do bad by yourself ...... he obviously doesnt want to be there with you now , he will see the grass aint always greener on the other side .....

nwnativeprincess

I WOULD DO EVERYTHING IN MY POWER TO MAKE A LIFE FOR MY CHILDREN AND I. GO BACK TO SCHOOL, GET A JOB, GET A NEW HAIRCUT, GET A DIVORCE, DEAL WITH IT AND MOVE ON.
REMEMBER YOUR CHILDREN NEED YOU.

silly_girl

Well first I will tell him to get the **** out,and then take him for every penny he had.Then forget ever taking him back because he might have some nasty disese.

LuvAll

Let him go. He will try to come back because trust me it wont work. If he is that sorry to flaunt this in not only your face, but I am quite sure the children's also, he is no good. Go on with your life and take care of your children, Oh and be sure he takes care of them too (child support).

turnaround

first off im sorry to hear this. i know what you are going thru because my wife did the same to me only on our 12th aniversary is when she asked for the divorce. file for divorce before he does and make sure you put in the paperwork that he was unfaithful and had gotten mad about you haveing another child with this info and help from friends and relatives you will be able to get everything and then some your soon to be x will have to work 3 jobs to make child support and maintanence.he wont be able to enjoy his so called new life and wonder why he did what he did.

tooshort4u

I know it is hard, but move on with your life because the more you dwell on his new relationship you will never get over him. he will soon find out that this other lady is not for him. Also he will begin to understand that he now has to take care of her children along with your children. The best revenge is kill him with kindness.

Well, I don't know what I'd do in that situation, but I know what I did when my wife of 7 years, and 3 kids found another guy at work and divorced me. I called her a lieling little **** who needs to get divorced then sleep w/ him, told her he was using her, walked out he door, and laughed in her face when he told her that he wasn't leaving his wife for her. I found humor in the irony, and now Im loving single life. You don't need him anyway if thats how he is going to be.

Cassie

He sounds like a loser....you need to speak to a divorce lawyer asap and see how your gonna move forward in that aspect....right now it's ok to be sad and if you feel like it's to much to keep inside try and find your nearest support group...for now try to put more focus on your kids and keep yourself busy so this dilema is not on your mind constantly

Nik

I am so sorry for your situation. Splitting up from someone is never easy after that much time, especially when you have children. Even if he was mad when you had your last child, it takes two to tango, so he is at fault as well. The thing you will really need to focus on right now is maintaining a stable environment for your children at home. With him leaving, this is going to be a big upheaval in your home I'm sure and your children are going to feel abandoned just like you I am sure. Just try to be there for them and reassure them that they did nothing wrong. Try not to bad mouth your ex in front of them though, it's always better to be the bigger person. Unfortunately for your ex, he is probably ruining his relationship with his children, which is sad since kids need two parents. As far as the other woman is concerned, just remember that karma is bit** and if he could do this to a woman he was with for 14 years, he will most likely do it again. Just remember to have dignity and self-respect through this terrible situation, and to also get a really good lawyer. Good luck!!

a_poor_misguided_soul

You should realize that he is a worthless piece of **** and celebrate your new found freedom.

turner32542

get an attorney and take him for what you can, because there is nothing you can do if this is what he has decided

rahkokwee

kick him out now. Get a good lawyer and go on the offensive immediately. My father left my mother, myself and my younger sister after 17 years of marriage and my mother was too sick to go on the offensive. My father controlled all the shots during the divorce for years causing more trouble than I can even begin to tell you about. It took several years to drag ourselfs back out from under while my father began his new life. We weren't surviving, we were simply existing. For the sake of you and your children, you need to take the fight to him and not wait for him to make the moves when he's ready and put you on the defensive. I can guarentee you that he has already started the process for when he "officially" leaves. You need to do the same.

pamgissa

He needs a wake-up call. Sounds like a mid-life crisis to me. This new relationship that seems so perfect to him is not going to be so wonderful when he really starts spending time with the lady. But better that he realizes this NOW. Maybe you can talk to some of his friends and family and get them to hit him over the head with a brick? He is obviously very confused.

okie

Unfortunately you can't keep him with you if he doesn't want to stay. If he was so angry when you had the last one, he should of thought of that while he was having so much fun making it. Let him go and when he finds out that she is really not what he wanted and wants to come back, tell him to go jump in the lake. Ask yourself this, why would a woman with three kids write to someone and strike up a relationship on the Internet if it wasn't to only support her and those three kids. She's looking for a sugar daddy and that's all. The fact that she is much younger than you could be his reason for the relationship. Maybe he is trying to see if he is still charming and irresistible to younger women, which will boost his ego. I say kick him to the curb and rebuild your life. You are still young and somewhere out there there is a man that will treat you the way you deserve to be treated. That would be with respect which your husband doesn't give you and will love you for who you are. By the time your husband realizes he has made a terrible mistake and wants you to take him back you will be on the road to recovery. You will be happy and that you can throw back in his face. Good luck to you and your children. It may be rough in the beginning but in time you will all be better off without him.

rera1397

What can you do? Get what you can.

sunssecret

Move on. You don't need someone like that and make sure you don't blame yourself for his actions. If he's still in your house while he's contemplating this move with her - kick him out. File for child support immediately and remember to take care of yourself during this time. You can't take good care of your kids unless you take care of yourself first.

Miss-Kenya

Wow dats tough. Just give him the divorce and move on with ur life. Sue his *** for evry penny e owes, even his clothes on his back. send him to the dumps

teulonbranchlibrary

MOve on and be happy.

sunbun

this is life---unfortunate---but it happens all the time---

pick yourself up by the bootstraps and move on---that is all u can do---it is his choice

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